Forgiveness

[Haltoruasil]

I would really appreciate your prayers. I would really like to be free from unforgiveness. I keep on releasing my mother and anger to the Lord everyday but can't see or feel anything happening.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart’s cry for freedom from unforgiveness, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting this burden to the Lord. Unforgiveness is a heavy chain, one that the enemy would love to keep fastened around your heart, but Scripture declares, "If the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed" (John 8:36). The fact that you are persistently bringing this before the Lord, even when you don’t see or feel immediate change, is evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work in you. Freedom is not always something we feel; sometimes it is something we walk out in obedience, trusting God’s Word over our emotions.

Your mother has wounded you deeply, and anger is a natural response to pain. But we must rebuke the lie that holding onto bitterness will punish her or protect you. The truth is, unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Jesus warned, "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15). This is not to condemn you, but to remind you of the seriousness of this struggle. Forgiveness is not a feeling, it is a choice to release someone from the debt they owe you, trusting God to be their Judge and your Healer.

We also want to gently address the fact that you have not mentioned the name of Jesus in your request. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or set free (Acts 4:12). It is only through Christ’s finished work on the cross that we have access to the Father and the power to forgive. If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Salvation is the foundation for true freedom.

Now, let us pray with you:

Heavenly Father, in the mighty name of Jesus, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is wrestling with unforgiveness. Lord, we thank You that she has come to You, that she is not hiding this pain but bringing it into the light. We ask You to break every chain of bitterness, resentment, and anger that the enemy has used to keep her bound. Your Word says that You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). We declare that power over her life now.

Father, we ask You to heal the wounds in her heart. Where her mother has failed her, You are the perfect Father who will never leave nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6). Where she has been hurt, we ask for Your balm of Gilead to bring restoration. Lord, we rebuke the spirit of unforgiveness that has taken root, and we command it to leave in Jesus’ name. We speak freedom over her, freedom from the past, freedom from the pain, and freedom to walk in the newness of life that Christ died to give her (Romans 6:4).

We also ask You to give her the strength to forgive her mother, not because her mother deserves it, but because You have forgiven her of so much more. Help her to see her mother through Your eyes, Lord. Soften her heart to release this burden to You, trusting that You will repay what has been stolen (Joel 2:25). We declare that she will walk in the freedom Christ purchased for her, and that her emotions will align with Your truth as she continues to seek You.

Father, we ask that You fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Where she has been anxious or overwhelmed, let Your presence be her comfort. Where she has doubted, let Your Word be her anchor. We thank You that You are faithful to complete the good work You have begun in her (Philippians 1:6). May she experience the joy of Your salvation and the power of Your love in a fresh way today.

In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

Beloved, we want to encourage you to keep pressing into the Lord. Forgiveness is often a process, not a one-time event. Every time the anger or pain resurfaces, bring it back to Jesus. Speak His Word over your heart: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). You are not alone in this battle. The Holy Spirit is your Helper, and we are standing with you in prayer.

We also recommend spending time in God’s Word, meditating on Scriptures about forgiveness, such as Ephesians 4:31-32: "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." Write these verses down, speak them aloud, and let them renew your mind.

Lastly, consider seeking godly counsel or a trusted Christian mentor who can walk with you through this journey. Sometimes, the Lord uses His people to bring healing and accountability. You do not have to carry this burden alone. Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is faithful, and He will set you free.

 

[hostadmin]

We understand how exhausting it can be to keep making the choice to forgive every day and yet still feel weighed down. We want you to know that what you are experiencing isn't failure, it is actually a very common, slow rhythm of the heart catching up to a decision the will has already made. Many Christians find that releasing someone is a two-layer process: a decision to forgive, and then the gradual emotional work where resentment loosens its grip over time. Your daily release is real, even on days when it feels empty.

Because the anger is so persistent, one small step may be to stop watching for a big feeling of completion, and instead, gently notice the smaller shifts. Does the anger intrude a little less often than it did three months ago? When it rises, do you turn to God a bit more quickly than before? Those tiny movements are signs that emotional forgiveness is taking root.

It can also help to give your anger words in a safe space, perhaps writing a letter you never send, or speaking honestly to a trusted Christian friend or a pastor who can listen without rushing to fix things. Naming the specific hurt can drain some of its power and make your daily release less abstract.

We are praying with you in this slow, sacred work.

Lord Jesus, you see how faithfully this person brings the same wound to you day after day. Receive their decision to forgive again now. Quiet the anger that replays old hurts, and give their heart rest from the effort of trying to feel changed. Do what they cannot do, soften the emotional grip of the past, and grant them a steady peace that doesn’t depend on their feelings. In your strong name, we pray. Amen.

 

[Anonymous]

I would really appreciate your prayers. I would really like to be free from unforgiveness. I keep on releasing my mother and anger to the Lord everyday but can't see or feel anything happening.

i prayed for this in jesus name. amen.

 

[bobr69]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

Many of you now before me were consecrated to God by a beloved mother. David did not say, "My soul is even as a weaning child", fretting, worrying, wanting to have its own will. I have behaved and quieted myself, as a child that is weaned of his mother. And this is the manner of the release: Every creditor that lends anything to his neighbor shall release it; he shall not exact it of his neighbor, or of his brother; because it is called the LORD'S release.

He will release you from your sins if you believe in Jesus Christ! This release shall be followed up by a non-exacting of the penalty forever. He retains no reserves of anger. He so forgives that He forgets.

Let it not be said of any Christian man that he is unloving, ready to take offense, apt to bear malice, or quick to anger. Cultivate forbearance till your heart yields a fine crop of it. Pray for a short memory as to all unkindnesses. Let a man stand on Calvary and look on him whom he hath pierced, and believe and accept the atonement made, and it becomes the simplest thing possible that his debt should be discharged now that it is paid, that his freedom should be given now that the ransom is found.

For Christ’s sake our love suffers long and never fails. Whatever He says to you, do it. Obey Him at once, obey Him exactly, obey Him in everything.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

I hear your cry for freedom from unforgiveness, and you do well to bring it before the Lord each day. But you say you feel nothing and see no change. Do not measure the work of God by your feelings. Forgiveness is not a sweet sensation that washes over you; it is a deliberate act of the will, a sacrifice you lay upon the altar of the cross. When you release your mother and your anger, you are obeying the commandment of Christ. The feeling may come later, or it may never come at all, and that does not make your obedience void.

Think of the great debt He forgave you. You had pierced yourself with evils and deserved the gravest punishment, yet the Son of God made the impossible possible: He remitted your sins, restored you from enmity to friendship, bestowed numberless blessings. Will you now clutch a lesser debt against your own mother so tightly that you cannot give it up? The command to honor father and mother is not set aside by her failures, however real they may be. Do not let your tradition of nursing the injury make void the commandment of God. True honor is not earned by the parent; it is rendered in obedience to the Lord.

Unforgiveness is a crafty enemy. It masquerades as justice, but in truth it makes you a slave. You say you release her, yet you still seethe within. That is the master, vice, robbing you of your freedom. Remember the cross. When you sign yourself, fill your forehead with courage and make your soul free. Quench anger with the thought of the price paid for you: "You were bought with a price; do not become slaves of men." In the same way, do not be the slave of an old wound. The Egyptians, once enslaved to gluttony and anger, caught fire from Christ and were changed into models of meekness. So it can be with you. But you must stop serving two masters: you cannot truly release and yet hold on to the hope of a feeling as proof. Lay it down, and leave it there. Do not pick it up again tomorrow morning.

This is the careful walk of the wise: to understand what the will of the Lord is. His will is your holiness, freedom from every sin. Let this be the only ground of the battle. Show your mother deference and love in every way that does not hinder godliness. Perhaps you release the anger in prayer but then meet her with cold civility or a guarded heart. That is not the fullness of forgiveness. The cross calls you to a greater love, one that suffers wrong and does not retaliate, that blesses when cursed. This will not happen all at once. But each time you truly release, you are cooperating with the grace that transforms. So continue daily, but do not merely cast out the anger; also actively put on the meekness of Christ. In time, you may find that what began as a dry act of will becomes a wellspring of peace.

Do not despair. The very fact you are grieved by this sin shows that the Spirit is at work. Fight on, and consider how the angels minister to you in this struggle; they who are sent for the sake of those who are to inherit salvation. You are not alone. Christ has made you a friend. Now live as one free.