Please pray for me as I have been trying to be more forgiving and obedient to Christ's command to do so. I think things were going well for the past few days but then my mother did something to me last night that really seemed to set me backward. I now feel like I'm struggling with bitterness, anger and unforgiveness and all the things I was struggling with again.
Forgiveness
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We understand how deeply painful it is when wounds from those closest to us—especially family—reopen old struggles with bitterness and unforgiveness. The enemy loves to use such moments to make us feel like we’ve failed, but we must remember that forgiveness is not a feeling; it is an act of obedience to Christ, who forgave us while we were still sinners. *"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:32, WEB). Your desire to obey Christ in this is evidence of the Holy Spirit working in you, even when emotions pull you backward.
The anger and bitterness you feel are real, but they do not have to rule you. Jesus warned that harboring unforgiveness gives the enemy a foothold in our lives (Matthew 6:14-15). When we refuse to forgive, we are the ones who suffer—spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. Yet forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was acceptable or that trust must be immediately restored. It means releasing the debt to God, who judges justly (Romans 12:19). You can forgive while still setting healthy boundaries, especially if this is a recurring pattern.
Let us also consider whether there is a root of unresolved pain or expectation in your relationship with your mother. Sometimes, our reactions reveal deeper wounds that need Christ’s healing. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB). Ask the Lord to show you if there is anything in your heart that needs surrendering—whether it’s pride, unmet expectations, or even fear. He is faithful to heal and restore.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see the depth of their pain and the sincerity of their heart to obey You. Lord, the struggle with forgiveness is heavy, and the enemy seeks to exploit this moment of weakness. But we declare that Your power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, who produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). Where bitterness seeks to take root, uproot it by Your truth. Where anger burns, replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Father, we ask that You soften their heart toward their mother, not because she deserves it, but because You have called us to walk in forgiveness as You have forgiven us. Give them the strength to release this offense to You, trusting that You will vindicate and heal in Your perfect timing. If there are deeper wounds in this relationship, Lord, bring them to light and bind them up with Your love. Teach them to love as You love—without condition, but with wisdom and boundaries.
We also pray for their mother. Soften her heart, Lord, and convict her if there is sin that needs repentance. Bring reconciliation where it aligns with Your will, but even if it does not come, let our brother/sister walk in the freedom of forgiveness.
Finally, Father, guard their mind against the lies of the enemy—lies that say they’ve failed, that this is too hard, or that they are justified in holding onto anger. Remind them that in Christ, they are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37) and that nothing is impossible with You (Luke 1:37).
We thank You for the work You are doing in their life. May they emerge from this trial stronger in faith, deeper in love, and more surrendered to Your will. We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Stand firm in this, beloved. The fact that you are grieving over your struggle shows that your heart is tender toward the Lord. Keep seeking Him, even in the messiness of emotions. He is with you, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). If you feel led, consider writing a letter to your mother (one you may or may not send) expressing your feelings honestly to the Lord first. Sometimes, this act of surrender can help release the grip of bitterness. We are here with you, praying and believing for your breakthrough.
The anger and bitterness you feel are real, but they do not have to rule you. Jesus warned that harboring unforgiveness gives the enemy a foothold in our lives (Matthew 6:14-15). When we refuse to forgive, we are the ones who suffer—spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. Yet forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was acceptable or that trust must be immediately restored. It means releasing the debt to God, who judges justly (Romans 12:19). You can forgive while still setting healthy boundaries, especially if this is a recurring pattern.
Let us also consider whether there is a root of unresolved pain or expectation in your relationship with your mother. Sometimes, our reactions reveal deeper wounds that need Christ’s healing. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB). Ask the Lord to show you if there is anything in your heart that needs surrendering—whether it’s pride, unmet expectations, or even fear. He is faithful to heal and restore.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see the depth of their pain and the sincerity of their heart to obey You. Lord, the struggle with forgiveness is heavy, and the enemy seeks to exploit this moment of weakness. But we declare that Your power is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, who produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). Where bitterness seeks to take root, uproot it by Your truth. Where anger burns, replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Father, we ask that You soften their heart toward their mother, not because she deserves it, but because You have called us to walk in forgiveness as You have forgiven us. Give them the strength to release this offense to You, trusting that You will vindicate and heal in Your perfect timing. If there are deeper wounds in this relationship, Lord, bring them to light and bind them up with Your love. Teach them to love as You love—without condition, but with wisdom and boundaries.
We also pray for their mother. Soften her heart, Lord, and convict her if there is sin that needs repentance. Bring reconciliation where it aligns with Your will, but even if it does not come, let our brother/sister walk in the freedom of forgiveness.
Finally, Father, guard their mind against the lies of the enemy—lies that say they’ve failed, that this is too hard, or that they are justified in holding onto anger. Remind them that in Christ, they are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37) and that nothing is impossible with You (Luke 1:37).
We thank You for the work You are doing in their life. May they emerge from this trial stronger in faith, deeper in love, and more surrendered to Your will. We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Stand firm in this, beloved. The fact that you are grieving over your struggle shows that your heart is tender toward the Lord. Keep seeking Him, even in the messiness of emotions. He is with you, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). If you feel led, consider writing a letter to your mother (one you may or may not send) expressing your feelings honestly to the Lord first. Sometimes, this act of surrender can help release the grip of bitterness. We are here with you, praying and believing for your breakthrough.
We're right there with you, feeling the sting of that wound and the struggle with bitterness and unforgiveness. It's like a heavy stone in our hearts, isn't it? But remember, Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). He's right here, ready to take that burden from us.
Let's lean into His love and grace together. We know it's hard, but we've seen time and time again that forgiveness isn't about the other person deserving it; it's about us being free. It's about letting go of the hurt and trusting God with justice.
Let's pray:
Dear Jesus, we come to You with heavy hearts, feeling the weight of unforgiveness. Lord, we know You understand our pain, and we trust in Your love. Help us, Jesus. Help us to forgive as You forgave us. Give us the strength to let go of this bitterness, even if it's just a little bit each day. Help us to see our mother through Your eyes, with compassion and patience.
Lord, we also ask for wisdom. If there are deeper issues in this relationship, reveal them to us. Help us to address them openly and honestly, with love and respect.
We trust in You, Jesus. We know You're working in our lives, and we're thankful for Your faithfulness. In Your mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We're here with you, every step of the way. Keep seeking Jesus, even in the messiness of emotions. He's right there with you, and He won't give up on you. You're not alone in this. We're in this together, and we believe in the power of forgiveness to heal and set us free.
Let's lean into His love and grace together. We know it's hard, but we've seen time and time again that forgiveness isn't about the other person deserving it; it's about us being free. It's about letting go of the hurt and trusting God with justice.
Let's pray:
Dear Jesus, we come to You with heavy hearts, feeling the weight of unforgiveness. Lord, we know You understand our pain, and we trust in Your love. Help us, Jesus. Help us to forgive as You forgave us. Give us the strength to let go of this bitterness, even if it's just a little bit each day. Help us to see our mother through Your eyes, with compassion and patience.
Lord, we also ask for wisdom. If there are deeper issues in this relationship, reveal them to us. Help us to address them openly and honestly, with love and respect.
We trust in You, Jesus. We know You're working in our lives, and we're thankful for Your faithfulness. In Your mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We're here with you, every step of the way. Keep seeking Jesus, even in the messiness of emotions. He's right there with you, and He won't give up on you. You're not alone in this. We're in this together, and we believe in the power of forgiveness to heal and set us free.
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Thank you Heavenly Father for blessing us with another day, and for all you do for all of us. All glory and honor belongs to you Father. I lift this prayer up on your glory Father God and ask that you grant your perfect will. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
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