We come before the throne of grace with heavy hearts, lifting up this family in deep distress, knowing that our God is a God of restoration, unity, and peace. The pain you describe—disunity, betrayal, anger, and the crushing weight of grief after your father’s passing—is a burden no family should bear alone. Yet we know that even in this brokenness, God is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We praise you for your heart of forgiveness, for you reflect Christ when you choose to forgive those who have wronged you, just as He forgave us while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8). But we must also speak truth in love, for true healing comes only through repentance and the power of the Holy Spirit.
First, we rejoice that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your plea, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Your mention of Acts 16:31 is a powerful reminder that salvation comes through faith in Christ alone—this is the foundation of all hope. Yet we must ask: does every member of your family know this truth? Have they surrendered their lives to Jesus? If not, this is the starting point for true healing. Without Christ at the center, no amount of human effort can bring lasting peace. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict their hearts, drawing them to repentance and faith in Jesus. May they turn from their sin—whether it be pride, greed, bitterness, or rebellion—and embrace the grace that is found only in Him.
The disunity you describe is not of God, for He commands us to "be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace" (Ephesians 4:2-3). The shouting, yelling, and ungrateful attitudes are tools of the enemy, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But we rebuke these spirits of division, anger, and bitterness in the name of Jesus Christ! Satan has no authority here—this family belongs to God, and we declare that the blood of Jesus covers them. We bind every lie, every accusation, and every scheme of the enemy that has taken root in your family. The Lord rebuke you, Satan, in the name of Jesus! We command peace to reign in their hearts and homes, for God is not the author of confusion but of peace (1 Corinthians 14:33).
To the issue of authority and finances: it is clear that greed and selfishness have taken hold. The Bible warns, "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed and have pierced themselves with many sorrows" (1 Timothy 6:10). If your family is fighting over inheritance or control, this is not the way of Christ. We pray that God would expose these motives and bring conviction. Let them remember that everything they have is a gift from God, and they will give an account for how they steward it (Matthew 25:14-30). We ask the Lord to provide for your family’s needs, not as they demand, but as He sees fit—for His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9). If finances are a barrier to reunion, we pray for God’s provision, whether through unexpected blessings, wisdom in stewardship, or a change of heart that makes reconciliation possible despite distance.
We are deeply grieved to hear of your mother’s suicidal thoughts and the toxic environment she endures. The tongue has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21), and it is clear that destructive words have been spoken. We plead the blood of Jesus over her mind, heart, and spirit. Lord, silence the voice of the enemy that whispers lies of worthlessness and despair. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and place godly people in her path who can speak life into her. We pray for deliverance from the spirit of heaviness and a garment of praise instead of despair (Isaiah 61:3). If she is in immediate danger, we urge you to seek help—whether through trusted believers, counselors, or medical professionals. Do not let the enemy isolate her in this darkness.
Regarding your spouse’s indifference toward your family: we understand the pain this causes, but we must remember that marriage is a covenant before God, and we are called to honor our spouses (Ephesians 5:33). While you cannot force your spouse to love or care for your family, you can pray for their heart to soften. Ask God to reveal any roots of bitterness or past hurts that may be influencing their attitude. Pray also for wisdom in how to navigate this tension, that your home would remain a place of peace even amid external strife. Remember, your primary earthly allegiance is to your spouse, and we pray that God would unite you both in His purposes, even in this difficult season.
Finally, we want to address the deep sorrow in your words: "after our death we are sharing and will meet with our father/dad in heaven." Beloved, do not let the enemy plant seeds of hopelessness! God is the God of the living, not the dead (Matthew 22:32). He is able to restore what has been broken, to reunite what has been divided, and to bring life where there is death. Do not resign yourself to the idea that reconciliation can only happen in heaven—God is able to do immeasurably more than we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20)! We declare that He will bring healing and restoration to your family, in His timing and His way. Keep praying, keep forgiving, and keep trusting Him, even when you cannot see the way forward.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this family that is torn apart by division, grief, and sin. Lord, You see the pain—the betrayal, the anger, the ungratefulness, the suicidal thoughts, the financial strain, and the broken relationships. You are not distant from this suffering; You are near, and You care deeply. We ask for Your mercy to flood their lives.
Lord Jesus, we pray for repentance. Convict each family member of their sin—whether it be pride, greed, bitterness, or rebellion. Soften their hearts, Lord, and draw them to Yourself. Let them turn from their wicked ways and seek Your face, for only then will You hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land (2 Chronicles 7:14). Break the chains of generational sin and set them free by the power of Your blood.
We rebuke the spirit of division in this family. Satan, you have no place here! We command peace to reign in their hearts and homes. Let the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—replace the works of the flesh that have caused such destruction (Galatians 5:19-23). Lord, heal the wounds caused by harsh words and ungrateful hearts. Replace shouting with gentle speech, anger with patience, and bitterness with forgiveness.
Father, we lift up this dear mother who is battling suicidal thoughts. Surround her with Your presence, Lord. Let her feel Your love in a tangible way. Silence the lies of the enemy and fill her mind with Your truth. Place people in her life who will speak life and hope. Give her strength to endure and joy to replace her sorrow. We pray for her brother’s family as well—provide for their needs, protect them from harm, and draw them closer to You.
Lord, we ask for Your provision in every area of lack. If finances are a barrier to reunion, we pray for Your miraculous intervention. Open doors that no man can shut, provide resources where there are none, and give wisdom in stewardship. Let this family see Your hand at work in ways they cannot deny.
We pray for this marriage, Lord. Soften the heart of this spouse toward their in-laws. Heal any past hurts or misunderstandings. Unify this couple in Your purposes, and let their home be a refuge of peace even amid external strife.
Most of all, Father, we pray for Your glory to be revealed in this situation. Let this family’s story be a testament to Your power to redeem, restore, and reconcile. Give them hope that does not disappoint, for Your love has been poured out into their hearts through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:5).
We declare that no weapon formed against this family will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We speak life where there is death, unity where there is division, and love where there is hatred. May they fix their eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of their faith, and may they find their strength in Him alone.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.