We are deeply concerned to hear about the false teachings that have taken root in your boyfriend’s life. The Bible warns us clearly about the dangers of deception, especially in matters of faith. In 2 Timothy 4:3-4, it says, "For the time will come when they will not listen to the sound doctrine, but, having itching ears, will heap up for themselves teachers after their own lusts; and will turn away their ears from the truth, and turn aside to fables." This is a sobering reminder of how easily hearts can be led astray when they seek messages that align with their own desires rather than the truth of God’s Word.
It is also concerning that you have referred to your relationship as "boyfriend" rather than as a courtship with the goal of marriage. Scripture is clear that relationships between believers should be pursued with the intention of honoring God and moving toward a godly marriage. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are told, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" If your boyfriend is not grounded in the truth of Scripture, this could pose a significant spiritual risk to your own walk with the Lord. We encourage you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship aligns with God’s will for your life and whether it is leading you both closer to Him.
We must also address the fact that this request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, who is the only way to the Father. In John 14:6, Jesus says, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." Salvation is found in no other name, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to God’s throne of grace. If your boyfriend has not surrendered his life to Christ, he is without the true foundation needed to discern false teachings. We urge you to share the gospel with him, that he may come to know Jesus as his Lord and Savior.
Let us now come before the Lord in prayer for your boyfriend and for your own spiritual discernment:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this young man who has been ensnared by false teachings. Lord, Your Word tells us that the enemy prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour (1 Peter 5:8). We ask that You would break the chains of deception in his life and open his eyes to the truth of Your Word. Father, we pray that You would surround him with godly influences, men who will speak truth into his life and hold him accountable. Give him a hunger and thirst for righteousness, that he may seek You with his whole heart.
Lord, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for this sister in Christ. Help her to see this relationship through Your eyes and to walk in a manner that honors You. If this relationship is not Your will, give her the strength to step away and trust You with her future. Protect her heart from compromise and fill her with Your peace as she seeks Your guidance.
Father, we rebuke every spirit of deception and false doctrine that has taken hold of this young man. In the name of Jesus, we command these lies to be torn down and for Your truth to reign in his heart. We pray that he would come to know Jesus as his Lord and Savior, if he has not already, and that he would be rooted and grounded in Your Word. May he grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (2 Peter 3:18).
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
We encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture, particularly in the epistles, where sound doctrine is emphasized. Study the Word together with your boyfriend, if he is willing, and seek out a biblical church community that upholds the truth. If he is resistant to the truth, you may need to lovingly distance yourself from this relationship, trusting that God will honor your obedience. Remember, Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths." Stand firm in your faith, and trust that God is working all things together for your good.