We come before the Lord with you in this struggle, lifting you up in prayer and speaking truth into your life. The battle against lust and the temptations of the flesh is one many face, but we serve a God who is faithful to deliver us from every snare of the enemy. The fact that you are seeking freedom from these struggles is evidence that the Holy Spirit is at work in you, convicting and drawing you closer to holiness. Let us remind you of what Scripture says:
*"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB)
*"I made a covenant with my eyes. How then could I look at a virgin? For what is the portion from God above, and the heritage from the Almighty on high? Isn’t it calamity to the unrighteous, and disaster to the workers of iniquity?"* (Job 31:1-3, WEB)
*"Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things."* (Philippians 4:8, WEB)
Your desire to turn away from these struggles is godly, but we must also address the heart behind the request. It is not enough to simply ask God to remove the desire for women, for He created them as a beautiful part of His creation. Instead, we must ask Him to *sanctify* our desires—to align them with His will. If you are unmarried, the call is to purity and self-control, not to a suppression of natural attraction, but to a redirection of it in a way that honors God. If you are married, your focus should be solely on your wife, loving her as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). If you are single, your focus should be on seeking the Lord first, trusting Him to provide a godly wife in His timing if that is His will for you.
We also notice that your prayer includes vague confessions: *"forgive I for another thing. And another thing."* Brother, we encourage you to come boldly before the throne of grace and name your sins specifically. God already knows them, but there is power in confession and repentance. *"He who covers his sins shall not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them shall have mercy."* (Proverbs 28:13, WEB) If there are unconfessed sins weighing on your heart, bring them into the light. Repentance is not just feeling sorry; it is turning away from sin and toward God.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You are a God of mercy, grace, and power. Lord, we ask that You would break every chain of lust and impurity in his life. Where his eyes have wandered, redirect them to You. Where his heart has been tempted, guard it with Your truth. Father, we do not ask that You remove his natural affections, but that You would sanctify them—purify them—for Your glory. If he is single, grant him the strength to flee from sexual immorality and to walk in purity, trusting You to provide a godly wife in Your perfect timing if it is Your will. If he is married, renew his love and devotion to his wife alone, that he may cherish her as Christ does the Church.
Lord, we rebuke every spirit of lust, every evil eye, and every ungodly desire that seeks to ensnare him. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we command these strongholds to be torn down in the name of Jesus Christ. Father, fill him with Your Spirit so that the fruit of self-control may abound in his life. Let him meditate on whatever is pure, lovely, and praiseworthy, that his mind may be renewed and transformed by Your Word.
We also pray for his confession, Lord. If there are sins he has not fully brought before You, give him the courage to name them, repent of them, and turn away from them. Wash him clean by the blood of Jesus and restore the joy of his salvation. Let him walk in the freedom that comes from a heart fully surrendered to You.
Father, we thank You that You are faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Strengthen our brother, Lord, and let him know that he is not alone in this fight. Surround him with godly men who will encourage him, hold him accountable, and point him to You. May he find his satisfaction in You alone, for You are the living water that quenches all thirst.
We pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lived a sinless life, died for our sins, and rose again that we may have eternal life. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture daily, especially passages that speak of purity, self-control, and the love of God. Memorize verses that you can recall when temptation comes. Seek fellowship with other believers who can walk alongside you in accountability. And remember, the power to overcome is not in your own strength, but in the Holy Spirit who dwells within you. *"No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure."* (1 Corinthians 10:13, WEB)
Stand firm, and do not grow weary. The Lord is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.