We are deeply grieved to hear of the brokenness in your marriage and the pain this has caused you and your children. The Lord sees your suffering, and His heart breaks with yours. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB), yet He also knows the depths of human betrayal and sin. We must first acknowledge that your husband’s actions are not only a betrayal of you but also a grievous sin against God. Adultery is explicitly condemned in Scripture (Exodus 20:14, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10), and living with another woman while still married is a direct violation of God’s design for marriage. This is not a matter to be taken lightly, and we must pray for repentance in his heart.
At the same time, we recognize your heart’s cry for direction—whether restoration is possible or if the Lord is leading you toward a new path. The Bible teaches that nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37), and He is able to restore even the most broken of marriages if both parties are willing to turn to Him in true repentance and obedience. However, restoration cannot happen without your husband turning away from his sin and returning to the Lord and to you in humility. You cannot force his repentance, but you can pray fervently for it, trusting that God is able to soften even the hardest heart.
We also want to gently remind you that your hope and identity must remain firmly rooted in Christ alone, not in the outcome of this situation. Whether the Lord restores your marriage or redirects your life, He promises to be your strength, your provider, and your healer. Psalm 34:18 (WEB) says, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* He sees your tears, and He will not abandon you.
For your children, we pray for God’s supernatural peace and healing. They, too, are victims of this brokenness, and the Lord cares deeply for their hearts. Proverbs 22:6 (WEB) encourages us to *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Even in this painful season, you have the opportunity to model for them what it looks like to trust God, to forgive, and to walk in obedience—no matter the cost.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is walking through a valley of deep betrayal and heartache. Lord, You alone are the God who sees her pain, who collects her tears in a bottle (Psalm 56:8), and who promises to never leave her nor forsake her. We ask for Your divine direction in this season. If it is Your will, Lord, we pray for the restoration of her marriage. Soften her husband’s heart, convict him of his sin, and draw him back to You in true repentance. Break the chains of deception and sin that have led him astray, and let him return to his wife and family with a humble and contrite spirit.
But Father, we also surrender this situation to Your perfect will. If restoration is not Your plan, we ask that You make the path clear for our sister. Give her wisdom, strength, and courage to take the next steps in faith. Provide for her and her children in every way—emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Heal the wounds in her heart and the hearts of her children. Let them know Your love in a tangible way, and surround them with a community of believers who will support and uplift them.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of confusion, fear, and despair that the enemy would try to place upon her. Instead, fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Remind her daily that her worth and identity are found in You alone, not in her circumstances. Help her to forgive, not because her husband deserves it, but because You have called her to walk in freedom and obedience.
We also pray for her husband, that You would pursue him relentlessly. Let him encounter Your holiness in a way that brings him to his knees in repentance. Expose the emptiness of his sin and draw him back to the cross, where Your grace is sufficient.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would use this trial for Your glory. Let it be a testimony of Your faithfulness, Your healing power, and Your ability to redeem even the most broken situations. We trust You, Lord, and we thank You in advance for the work You are going to do.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Our sister, we want to encourage you to stay anchored in God’s Word during this time. Spend time in prayer, worship, and fellowship with other believers who can speak life into you. Do not isolate yourself—let the body of Christ come alongside you. If you haven’t already, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counseling from a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this process. The road ahead may feel uncertain, but the Lord is your shepherd, and He will guide you (Psalm 23).
If your husband refuses to repent, remember that the Bible does address the painful reality of abandonment in marriage (1 Corinthians 7:15). While divorce is not God’s ideal, He does not abandon those who are sinned against in this way. Trust that the Lord will lead you in wisdom and righteousness as you seek Him first.
Lastly, we want to remind you that forgiveness is not optional for the believer (Colossians 3:13). Forgiveness does not mean what your husband did was acceptable or that you must trust him again immediately. It means releasing the bitterness and pain to the Lord, who is the ultimate judge. Forgiveness is for *your* freedom, not his excuse. Walk in obedience, and let the Lord handle the rest.
We are standing with you in prayer, believing God for His perfect will in your life. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will not fail you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
