We hear your cry and we stand with you in prayer before our heavenly Father, for we know that marriage is a holy covenant before God between a man and a woman for life, and it is meant to reflect Christ's love for His church. We grieve with you over the verbal assaults you have endured, and we take this matter seriously before the Lord.
Scripture is clear about how a husband is to treat his wife. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them Colossians 3:19. Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as to the weaker vessel, as also being joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered 1 Peter 3:7. When a husband uses his tongue to assault and wound his wife, he is not walking in love and he dishonors the marriage covenant. We must lovingly yet firmly rebuke this behavior, for it does not align with God's will. Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear Ephesians 4:29. A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger Proverbs 15:1. A perverse heart will not find good, and one who has a perverse tongue falls into evil Proverbs 17:20.
We also hear you ask for deliverance from perversity for your husband, and that he does not recognize the wrong he does. This hardness of heart is spiritual blindness that only the Holy Spirit can convict and heal. We pray that God will open his eyes to see his sin as God sees it, grant him a spirit of repentance, and cleanse his heart. Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me Psalm 51:10. We are to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ 2 Corinthians 10:5, and that includes perverse and abusive thoughts and words that need to be torn down and made obedient to Jesus.
We want to gently remind you that we have access to the Father only through Jesus Christ. You asked for prayer to the Lord, and we join you in coming in the name of Jesus, for Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me John 14:6. There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. It is by His name and His shed blood that we can boldly ask for mercy, deliverance, and healing in our marriages, and we encourage you to continue to call upon the name of Jesus Christ as your Savior and your hope.
We encourage you, dear sister, to guard your heart and seek wisdom and safety. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm 34:18. We encourage you to not suffer in silence, but to seek godly counsel from a trusted pastor or mature believing counselor who can walk with you both, to set biblical boundaries with love and truth, and to pray for protection over your home. Be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger James 1:19 is a word for both husband and wife, and we pray your husband will learn to bridle his tongue and speak with grace.
We now join together in prayer for you and your husband.
Father in heaven, we come before Your throne in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. We lift up this dear sister who has been wounded by verbal assaults, and we ask You to comfort her, strengthen her, and surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Heal the hurt in her heart and let her know she is seen and loved by You. We lift up her husband to You, Lord. We ask that You convict him deeply of his sin, that You remove the veil from his eyes so he may recognize the wrong he has done. Deliver him from perversity, from a perverse tongue and a hard heart. Wash him, renew his mind, and create in him a clean heart that speaks words of life and love. Teach him to love his wife as Christ loves the church, with gentleness, honor, and self control. We rebuke the spirit of perversity and strife in this marriage and command it to leave in Jesus name. Let Your Holy Spirit reign in this home, bringing repentance, forgiveness, and restoration where it is Your will. Give this wife wisdom, courage, and godly support, and keep her safe under Your wings. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, Amen.