Daughter Struggling
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We hear your heartache and concern for your daughter, and we join with you in lifting this situation before the Lord. The Word of God is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the importance of godly relationships. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to be between one man and one woman, and it is meant to reflect the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When we step outside of God’s design, it often leads to stress, confusion, and heartache, as you are seeing in your daughter’s life.
First, we must address the situation with truth and love. Your daughter is involved with a divorced man, and while we do not know the circumstances of his divorce, Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and that marriage is intended to be a lifelong commitment (Matthew 19:6). If this man is not free to remarry according to biblical standards (Matthew 19:9), then this relationship is not in alignment with God’s will. Even if he is biblically free to remarry, your daughter must prayerfully consider whether this is the path God has for her. Blending families is challenging under the best of circumstances, and it requires wisdom, patience, and a firm foundation in Christ.
We also want to gently rebuke any sin that may be present in this relationship. If your daughter and this man are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it is a sin that grieves the heart of God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The Bible is clear that sexual immorality is not to be practiced among believers, and we must flee from it. If this is the case, we pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her heart and lead her to repentance and purity.
Let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister’s daughter to You. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in this situation and draw her back to Your will. We pray that You would open her eyes to see the truth of Your Word and the path You have for her. Father, if there is any sin in this relationship, whether it be fornication, unequally yoked partnership, or disregard for Your design for marriage, we ask that You would convict her heart and lead her to repentance. Give her the strength to walk away from anything that does not honor You.
Lord, we ask that You would surround her with godly influences, people who will speak truth into her life and encourage her to seek You above all else. We pray that You would heal any wounds or loneliness that may have led her to this relationship, and that You would fill her with Your peace and purpose. Father, we also pray for this man and his children. If it is Your will, we ask that You would work in his life to bring him to repentance and restoration, but if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would close every door and make the path clear for her to walk away.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You and the only name by which we are saved. We trust in Your perfect will and timing, and we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying for your daughter and to speak the truth in love to her. Share Scripture with her, such as 2 Corinthians 6:14, which warns against being unequally yoked with unbelievers, and Proverbs 3:5-6, which reminds us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts. Remind her that God’s plans for her are for good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11), and that He desires to give her a hope and a future. Stand firm in your faith, and trust that God is at work even when we cannot see it. Keep loving her unconditionally, just as Christ loves us, and continue to point her to Him.
First, we must address the situation with truth and love. Your daughter is involved with a divorced man, and while we do not know the circumstances of his divorce, Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and that marriage is intended to be a lifelong commitment (Matthew 19:6). If this man is not free to remarry according to biblical standards (Matthew 19:9), then this relationship is not in alignment with God’s will. Even if he is biblically free to remarry, your daughter must prayerfully consider whether this is the path God has for her. Blending families is challenging under the best of circumstances, and it requires wisdom, patience, and a firm foundation in Christ.
We also want to gently rebuke any sin that may be present in this relationship. If your daughter and this man are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it is a sin that grieves the heart of God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). The Bible is clear that sexual immorality is not to be practiced among believers, and we must flee from it. If this is the case, we pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her heart and lead her to repentance and purity.
Let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister’s daughter to You. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in this situation and draw her back to Your will. We pray that You would open her eyes to see the truth of Your Word and the path You have for her. Father, if there is any sin in this relationship, whether it be fornication, unequally yoked partnership, or disregard for Your design for marriage, we ask that You would convict her heart and lead her to repentance. Give her the strength to walk away from anything that does not honor You.
Lord, we ask that You would surround her with godly influences, people who will speak truth into her life and encourage her to seek You above all else. We pray that You would heal any wounds or loneliness that may have led her to this relationship, and that You would fill her with Your peace and purpose. Father, we also pray for this man and his children. If it is Your will, we ask that You would work in his life to bring him to repentance and restoration, but if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would close every door and make the path clear for her to walk away.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You and the only name by which we are saved. We trust in Your perfect will and timing, and we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying for your daughter and to speak the truth in love to her. Share Scripture with her, such as 2 Corinthians 6:14, which warns against being unequally yoked with unbelievers, and Proverbs 3:5-6, which reminds us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts. Remind her that God’s plans for her are for good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11), and that He desires to give her a hope and a future. Stand firm in your faith, and trust that God is at work even when we cannot see it. Keep loving her unconditionally, just as Christ loves us, and continue to point her to Him.
We hear the ache in this, and we want you to know we are carrying it with you. Watching your daughter walk into a situation that clearly weighs on her, yet feeling shut out from being able to help her name the strain, is a uniquely lonely place for a parent. You've asked God to intervene, and that honest plea is often where He does His deepest work, even when it doesn't look like anything is changing yet.
The stress she won't admit to you doesn't mean she isn't feeling it. Sometimes people hide their weariness because admitting it out loud would force them to make decisions they're not ready to face. She may genuinely care for this man and his children, and the complexity of that, navigating a relationship that carries the long shadows and real-life fallout of a previous marriage, can be genuinely draining, whether or not she feels free to say so. Chronic strain has a way of slowly eroding clarity and peace, even in caring situations. Your instinct to pray rather than press is wise.
One practical thing you might consider is simply creating space where she can be tired without having to defend herself. A low-pressure invitation, "We'd love to just take you to dinner so you can rest and not talk about anything heavy", can sometimes crack open the door honesty needs. No agenda, no questions, just a place to breathe and be loved. That kind of steady, non-anxious presence often does more than the best arguments ever could.
Father, we lift this daughter to You now. You see the worries she carries silently, the emotional weight she's absorbing, and the ways this relationship is shaping her heart. Please bring light into whatever feels confused or pressured. Give her moments of honest clarity about what she truly wants and whether this path is bringing life or slowly draining it. Release her from any fear of disappointing others, and give her parents supernatural patience and gentle words. Build trust between them again. And if this relationship is not one You would have her stay in, we ask You to loosen her heart from it, protect her in the leaving, and set her feet on solid ground. In Jesus' name.
The stress she won't admit to you doesn't mean she isn't feeling it. Sometimes people hide their weariness because admitting it out loud would force them to make decisions they're not ready to face. She may genuinely care for this man and his children, and the complexity of that, navigating a relationship that carries the long shadows and real-life fallout of a previous marriage, can be genuinely draining, whether or not she feels free to say so. Chronic strain has a way of slowly eroding clarity and peace, even in caring situations. Your instinct to pray rather than press is wise.
One practical thing you might consider is simply creating space where she can be tired without having to defend herself. A low-pressure invitation, "We'd love to just take you to dinner so you can rest and not talk about anything heavy", can sometimes crack open the door honesty needs. No agenda, no questions, just a place to breathe and be loved. That kind of steady, non-anxious presence often does more than the best arguments ever could.
Father, we lift this daughter to You now. You see the worries she carries silently, the emotional weight she's absorbing, and the ways this relationship is shaping her heart. Please bring light into whatever feels confused or pressured. Give her moments of honest clarity about what she truly wants and whether this path is bringing life or slowly draining it. Release her from any fear of disappointing others, and give her parents supernatural patience and gentle words. Build trust between them again. And if this relationship is not one You would have her stay in, we ask You to loosen her heart from it, protect her in the leaving, and set her feet on solid ground. In Jesus' name.
Zedekiah
Servant of All
Truly aligning ourselves with biblical values. Relationship with our Father and his will for us and offering up prayer and worship us the best thing we can do to experience his love and peace may Father God continue to watch over you and yours as you continue in prayer. Id like to thank the ### for giving some of the most direct and functional reminders of how we can be the best followers of Christ possible. Lord Yeshuas name amen.
Aereutorsor
Disciple of Prayer
Praying for this in Jesus Name.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
This arrow of distress has pierced your hearts, and the wound is deep because it strikes a beloved daughter. Yet, be not utterly cast down, for the Lord’s deliverances often come by an arrow’s flight. Deliverance is of the Lord, but it must be accomplished by human instrumentality, your prayers are the bowstring drawn back, and the Spirit’s groaning within you is the hand that pulls it. That she is stressed, though she will not admit it, is itself a mercy. The soul at ease in sin feels no such burden. The Lord has chastened her sorely, and in that secret unrest, He may be whispering to her heart, assuring her that she shall not be crushed, but brought forth.
Look now to the heavenly Father, altogether and alone, for her sanctification and deliverance from the power of this entanglement. No human argument, no force of parental grief can ransom her; only the blood of the Lamb sets captives free. “I have found a ransom,” saith the Lord, a ransom already found, not to be earned. Plead that finished work. Ask that the deliverance be effectual, that He brings her forth, for her will is in bonds and she cannot stir herself. He brought Israel forth when the lamb was slain, and He brought them with silver and gold, their deliverance was attended with enrichment. So may it be with her. The years the locust has eaten can be restored, and the stress she now carries may become a testimony. A person who has no experience of tribulation, what great deliverance has he to speak of? If she is brought out, she will declare the works of the Lord with a voice no calm life could produce.
Do not be driven to the fear that God’s ear is shut. You have been at the brook Jabbok, wrestling, full of trembling, but may you yet meet an Esau who falls on your neck, and see her loosed from this bond with a heart turned homeward. Let holy patience prove you true children of Sarah, whose daughters you are when you are not afraid with any amazement. The clock of mercy will strike. The ministry that God sends will be one of consolation to those seeking deliverance. Even this man and those children are souls, but the path she walks is not the Lord’s design for a daughter of the covenant. Keep your eye on that little sick one, her soul, and trust that He who appoints the means will bring her forth, also, with silver and gold: peace, purity, and a quiet mind. This shall be as noteworthy a deliverance as any recorded, to be spoken of with praise and thanksgiving forever.
Look now to the heavenly Father, altogether and alone, for her sanctification and deliverance from the power of this entanglement. No human argument, no force of parental grief can ransom her; only the blood of the Lamb sets captives free. “I have found a ransom,” saith the Lord, a ransom already found, not to be earned. Plead that finished work. Ask that the deliverance be effectual, that He brings her forth, for her will is in bonds and she cannot stir herself. He brought Israel forth when the lamb was slain, and He brought them with silver and gold, their deliverance was attended with enrichment. So may it be with her. The years the locust has eaten can be restored, and the stress she now carries may become a testimony. A person who has no experience of tribulation, what great deliverance has he to speak of? If she is brought out, she will declare the works of the Lord with a voice no calm life could produce.
Do not be driven to the fear that God’s ear is shut. You have been at the brook Jabbok, wrestling, full of trembling, but may you yet meet an Esau who falls on your neck, and see her loosed from this bond with a heart turned homeward. Let holy patience prove you true children of Sarah, whose daughters you are when you are not afraid with any amazement. The clock of mercy will strike. The ministry that God sends will be one of consolation to those seeking deliverance. Even this man and those children are souls, but the path she walks is not the Lord’s design for a daughter of the covenant. Keep your eye on that little sick one, her soul, and trust that He who appoints the means will bring her forth, also, with silver and gold: peace, purity, and a quiet mind. This shall be as noteworthy a deliverance as any recorded, to be spoken of with praise and thanksgiving forever.
The Encourager
The Encourager
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
You see the stress your daughter carries, and you perceive it rightly as a witness against the path she walks. She will not admit it to you, but the turmoil in her soul is God’s own merciful alarm, calling her to wake from a choice that dishonors Him. The union she pursues is not marriage as He ordained it; it is a mimicry, a dwelling in something that has the form of family but lacks the divine blessing. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is head of the Church, a sacred mystery, not a mere arrangement born of human desire and broken vows. To attach herself to a divorced man is to build a house upon a fractured foundation, and the strain you see is the creaking of its timbers.
Do not think this trial has come upon her beyond what is common to man. God is faithful, and the weight of her concealed distress is itself a way of escape, if she will only heed it. The very stress she hides is the hand of her Father, not pushing her down, but pulling her back from a precipice. Yet while she refuses to confess it, she stays in peril. Pray for her, yes, but do more than pray in silence. The true kinship is not of blood alone, but of character and the Spirit. If you would be a genuine father or mother to her soul, you must speak the truth in love, however it wounds. Do not let her silence become your own. Remind her that the children of God are not known by clinging to any relationship that offends His command, but by turning away from it with all swiftness.
Point her to the honor of a blameless union, or to the peace of a life freed from this entanglement. The apparent comfort she has chosen is a snare, and the sorrow it breeds is proof enough. If she will tear herself away, she will find the Lord ready to bind up every wound and restore the years that shame has eaten. If she will not, then the disorder she now feels within is only a foretaste of a heavier accounting. Therefore, let your love be bold. Go to her not with timidity, but with a plea that trembles for her soul, until by grace she yields to the truth and abandons the place where God’s blessing cannot rest.
Do not think this trial has come upon her beyond what is common to man. God is faithful, and the weight of her concealed distress is itself a way of escape, if she will only heed it. The very stress she hides is the hand of her Father, not pushing her down, but pulling her back from a precipice. Yet while she refuses to confess it, she stays in peril. Pray for her, yes, but do more than pray in silence. The true kinship is not of blood alone, but of character and the Spirit. If you would be a genuine father or mother to her soul, you must speak the truth in love, however it wounds. Do not let her silence become your own. Remind her that the children of God are not known by clinging to any relationship that offends His command, but by turning away from it with all swiftness.
Point her to the honor of a blameless union, or to the peace of a life freed from this entanglement. The apparent comfort she has chosen is a snare, and the sorrow it breeds is proof enough. If she will tear herself away, she will find the Lord ready to bind up every wound and restore the years that shame has eaten. If she will not, then the disorder she now feels within is only a foretaste of a heavier accounting. Therefore, let your love be bold. Go to her not with timidity, but with a plea that trembles for her soul, until by grace she yields to the truth and abandons the place where God’s blessing cannot rest.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
Praying in Jesus Name.
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