We hear your heart and the deep love you have for this man, and we join you in bringing this matter before the Lord. Courtship is a sacred season of discernment, where two believers seek God’s will together, growing in faith and unity before entering into the covenant of marriage. It is beautiful that you both profess Christ, but we must also acknowledge the seriousness of aligning not just in love, but in truth. Scripture warns us, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). While your beloved is a professing believer, his adherence to false theology is a matter of grave concern, for what we believe shapes how we live, love, and lead in marriage.
The fact that these wrong beliefs may stem from past hurts does not excuse them, it only underscores the need for healing and truth to prevail. Jesus said, "You will know the truth, and the truth will make you free" (John 8:32). False doctrine is not merely a difference of opinion; it is a distortion of God’s Word that can lead hearts astray. We must lovingly but firmly stand on Scripture, for "if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than that which you have received, let him be accursed" (Galatians 1:9). The books he gave you, though well-intentioned, contain error, and you are right to address this. It is not judgmental to speak the truth in love, it is an act of love, for "faithful are the wounds of a friend" (Proverbs 27:6).
We also want to gently remind you that your desire to be with him must not overshadow your commitment to God’s standards. Love is not merely an emotion; it is a choice to honor God first. "Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the Father’s love is not in him" (1 John 2:15). If his beliefs do not align with Scripture, you must ask yourself, and more importantly, ask God, whether this is the man He has called you to marry. Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33), and a union built on conflicting foundations will struggle to stand.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this courtship before Your throne. Lord, we thank You for the love You have placed in this sister’s heart for this man, and we ask that You would move mightily in his life. Father, we rebuke every lie, every false belief, and every stronghold that has taken root in his mind due to past hurts. We declare that the spirit of truth would break through, that Your Word would be a lamp to his feet and a light to his path (Psalm 119:105). Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to see the truth of Your Scripture. Give him a hunger and thirst for righteousness (Matthew 5:6), and let him be transformed by the renewing of his mind (Romans 12:2).
We also pray for wisdom and discernment for this sister. Give her the courage to speak the truth in love, even when it is difficult. Help her to stand firm on Your Word, knowing that Your commands are for her good (Deuteronomy 10:13). If this man is not the one You have for her, Lord, give her the strength to walk away, trusting that You have someone better prepared for her. But if he is the one, work in him powerfully, Lord, to align his heart and mind with Yours.
Father, we ask that You would guard their hearts from impurity. Remind them that courtship is a time of preparation for marriage, not an opportunity to indulge in the flesh. Help them to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to honor You with their bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Let their relationship be marked by purity, holiness, and a shared commitment to Your truth.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Way, the Truth, and the Life (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can come to You, Father, and no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). We trust in Your perfect will and timing, knowing that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). Amen.
We encourage you to seek counsel from a trusted pastor or mature believer who can help guide you through this season. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Do not walk this path alone. Continue to pray fervently, not just for his beliefs to change, but for his heart to be fully surrendered to Christ. And remember, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6). God’s will is perfect, and His plans for you are good. Trust Him with this courtship, and with your future.
Please pray about all this. Thank you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
