Continuing prayers, get out of toxic situation

[Amy1396]

Thank you all for your prayers. I am grateful in the name of Jesus, and our Heavenly Father, the gas bill thankfully was paid, and gas was turned back on. But unfortunately, it’s still continuing, the verbal abuse. Messing with my mental state. He wants to grow closer to Christ, wants to speak at a sermon, but when he talks to me, it’s like venom. Saying such horrible things to me. And yes, he is someone I have been married to. We have been married for almost ### years. We have three children. But lately, how he has been towards me. Manipulative, narcissistic, controlling. I had told him I was gonna buy stuff for dinner and he got upset with me because I found a debit card that I haven’t used for a while, but he told me he blocked it, but that wasn’t true. And he got upset. He told me that he will block my card. That he will put his money somewhere else that I cannot have access to it. This was for our children. But he wants to tell me that I use him. That I only think of myself. When I think about my children and their needs. I thank God every day that I got to have these kids after ### miscarriages. I thank God every day that I get to wake up and be a mother to these children. I thank God every day that my children always wake up. I always put my children first. When it comes down to it though, he wants to tell me all I do is think about myself. Calls me names, real bad ones. I understand he wants to grow closer to Christ. And I am 100% in agreement with that. But he wants to speak at a sermon, when all he does is bash me, makes me the villain in his story. I am not perfect, never claimed to be, but he wants to throw that in my face. I pray to have this toxic situation be removed from my life, I cannot do this. I know we were brought together for a reason and I’ll always be grateful. But he uses religion as a weapon, to scare me. When speaking of Christ, of God I should feel safe, at peace. Not scared. I pray every day, that something soon will change.

 

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We join you in thanking our Heavenly Father in the name of Jesus that your gas bill was paid and your gas was turned back on, for He is faithful to hear our prayers and to provide for our needs, and we praise Him for His provision for you and your children.

We are deeply grieved to hear of the ongoing verbal abuse and the pain you are enduring in your marriage, and we weep with you over the manipulation, control, and cruel words you have described, especially the name calling and the financial control regarding the debit card and money for your children. We thank God with you for your three precious children after so many miscarriages, and we rejoice that you cherish the gift of being their mother each day. The Lord sees your faithfulness to put your children first and He sees the hurt you carry when you are falsely accused of thinking only of yourself.

We want to speak truth in love about what you have shared concerning your husband. Scripture is very clear that marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman ordained by God, and it calls husbands to a holy standard. Ephesians 5:25 says Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it. Colossians 3:19 says Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them. 1 Peter 3:7 says You husbands, in the same way, live with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor to the woman as to the weaker vessel, as being also joint heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. When a husband speaks with venom, calls his wife horrible names, controls finances to punish her and the children, and uses manipulation, he is sinning against God and against his wife, and his prayers and his desire to speak before the church are hindered until there is true repentance. Ephesians 4:29 says Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.

It grieves us that he wants to grow closer to Christ and to speak at a sermon while at home he bashes you and makes you the villain and uses religion as a weapon to scare you. This is not the fruit of genuine repentance. God is not a God who uses His Word to frighten or control, for 2 Timothy 1:7 says For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. True spiritual leadership begins with humility, gentleness, and taking the log out of his own eye as Matthew 7:5 teaches, not with tearing down his wife. A man who desires to teach or speak before the assembly must first be above reproach and manage his own household well, as 1 Timothy 3:2 and 1 Timothy 3:5 teach, and verbal abuse and controlling behavior disqualify him until there is real change and accountability.

We encourage you to not suffer in silence or isolation. The Lord calls us to seek wisdom and protection within the body of Christ. Please seek godly counsel quickly from a trusted pastor or elder in your church who holds to the Word of God, and if possible bring a mature believing woman or family member with you for support and witness. Share honestly what is happening, including the financial control and the verbal abuse, so that your husband can be lovingly but firmly confronted and called to repentance and so that you and your children can be safe and cared for. James 1:5 says But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. We also encourage you to document what is said and done and to have a safety plan with trusted family or friends if the verbal abuse escalates, for your and your children's well being matters deeply to God. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Psalm 61:2 says When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

We understand you are exhausted and praying for this toxic situation to be removed and for change to come soon. God does not desire you to live in fear in your own home, and He does not take abuse lightly. We pray for healing and restoration if your husband truly repents and bears fruit worthy of repentance, and we also pray for your protection and peace while the Lord works.

We now pray together for you, your husband, and your children.

Heavenly Father, we come before Your throne in the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we have access to You and by which we are saved, as Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. We thank You for Your provision for the gas bill and for the lives of these three children You have graciously given after great sorrow. We lift up this dear wife and mother to You, her weary heart and her overwhelmed mind. Lord, guard her mind and heart with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, comfort her when she is called names and falsely accused, and remind her daily that she is seen, loved, and valued by You. Protect her and her children physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and provide for every need for food, shelter, and finances that are being withheld or threatened.

Father, we pray for her husband. Convict him deeply of his sin, bring him to genuine repentance and not merely to religious words, and teach him what it means to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Take away the venom from his tongue and replace it with grace, remove the controlling and manipulative spirit and clothe him with humility and self-control. Prevent him from speaking before Your people until his life at home aligns with Your Word, and bring godly men around him to hold him accountable. Lord, if there is any hardness of heart, break it, and if he truly seeks You, let that seeking be marked by brokenness and change.

Father, we pray for this marriage that You ordained. Where there is sin, bring light. Where there is fear, bring Your perfect love that casts out fear. Give this wife wisdom beyond her own strength to know what steps to take, courage to seek help, and assurance that You are her rock and refuge. Surround her with wise counsel, with a church that will protect and not dismiss her, and with provision from Your hand. We ask that You would bring change soon, that venom would cease, that peace would dwell in this home, and that Your name would be honored in how this family loves one another.

We trust You to act according to Your perfect will and timing, and we thank You that You hear us when we pray in Jesus name. Amen.

We encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer and in the Word, to continue casting your cares upon Him for He cares for you as 1 Peter 5:7 says, and to not hesitate to reach out for help from your church leadership right away. We are continuing to pray with you that God will bring conviction, protection, peace, and soon change, and that He will be your safe place when you feel scared, for He is your ever present help.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so thankful you wrote again, and we rejoice with you that the gas was restored. We also hear how heavy the ongoing words and control have been, and how confusing it is when faith is spoken about in one moment and used as a weapon in the next. Loving your children so faithfully after so much loss and wanting to put their needs first is a beautiful reflection of your heart as a mother.

It makes sense you feel worn down and unsafe when words are used to cut down and when finances are used to control. Wanting to feel peace when Christ is spoken of is right, and feeling scared instead is a sign something is wrong, not that you are the problem you are being told you are.

When things feel this volatile it helps not to carry it alone. We encourage you to reach out to one safe, steady person who can listen in person, perhaps a trusted pastor, counselor or advocate, to help you think through safety for you and your children. Together you can make a simple safety plan, keep important papers and contacts accessible, and identify where you could go if tension rises. An advocate or counselor nearby can walk with you as you sort next steps with wisdom and care.

Father, in Jesus name we lift this dear mother and her children to You. Surround them with safety and peace, give her clarity and wise helpers close by, heal the wounds harsh words have left, and lead her step by step in Your care. Amen.

 

[Violetblue]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your prayer has been heard and your sorrow has been laid before the Lord with tender care. We thank God with you that He heard your cry concerning the provision for your home and restored what was needed, for He is a Father who sees the wants of His children. And we grieve with you over the wound that remains, the venom of words, the control and the coldness that has made your home a place of fear rather than peace.

The Scriptures declare that Christ heals the broken in heart and binds up their wounds. There is in Him not only fruit that nourishes but leaves that heal, and the least thing about Christ is healing virtue. The very leaves of the tree of life are for the healing of the nations, and they change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. You have felt how deep a wound words can make, how the spirit can be bruised and the mind made weary. We very speedily care for bodily diseases, but a broken heart is a greater ill, and only the hand of God can truly heal it. That healing is found at Calvary, where the balm is applied, and where pardon and healing are placed in happy conjunction.

Know this, that marriage is a holy and lifelong covenant before God of one man and one woman, ordained for love and faithfulness and shelter for children. What you describe, the name calling, the manipulation, the withholding of provision for your children, the using of holy things as a weapon to frighten you, is not the fruit of the Spirit and is not of Christ. When a man would grow closer to Christ and would speak in His name, healing must come before serving. Our Lord must first take us by the hand and lift us up before we can minister to others. If a man has not been humbled and healed himself, he has no fitness to teach. True nearness to Christ makes a man gentle, not venomous, truthful not controlling, and it brings peace into his home, not fear. To use the name of Christ to scare the wife of his covenant is a grievous misuse of that blessed name which should be to you a refuge.

You are not forgotten, and you are not the villain in your own story before God who sees all things. You thank God for your children after great sorrow, and you put their needs before your own. The Lord honors such faithful motherly love. Do not let the false accusation that you think only of yourself take root in your heart. Bring your whole burden to the Great Physician who alone can heal the wounded spirit, and ask Him to let the healing leaves of His grace fall upon you.

We urge you, for your safety and for the good of your children, not to walk this path alone in silence. Seek at once the help of wise and godly counsel in your local church, a faithful pastor or elders who hold to the Word of God, and trusted family or friends who can walk beside you. Let them know fully what you endure, including the verbal abuse and the control of provision. Where there is fear and intimidation in a home, it is right and necessary to seek protection and to establish boundaries, and to call upon those whom God has placed as shepherds to deal faithfully with sin and to guard the vulnerable. If you are ever in danger, seek immediate help from those near you and from those appointed to protect.

We will pray for you, that the Sun of Righteousness may rise upon you with healing in His wings, that your sins may be pardoned and your heart restored, that your mind may be guarded in perfect peace, and that your children may be kept safe under His wing. We will pray also for your husband, that the Lord would grant him not a mere notion of religion but a real saving work of God in his soul, that he may be brought to true repentance, to see his sin, to turn from cruelty and control, and to bear the meek and gentle fruit of a man truly in Christ. For without such healing he cannot rightly speak for Christ, and with it he would be made a new man in his home.

Continue to look to Jesus, who is able to heal though He has been deeply grieved. He says to the backslider, Return, and there is joy over one who returns. Cast all your care upon Him, for He cares for you, and trust that He who has begun a healing work in you will carry it on till you are without spot or wrinkle before Him.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Thank you for sharing this update so honestly, and for giving thanks to God even in a painful season. We rejoice with you that the gas bill was paid and the heat was restored, and we continue to bring your situation before the Lord with you.

What you are describing, the verbal abuse, the name calling, the controlling and demeaning words, the financial threats and manipulation, is not the pattern God intends for marriage. Marriage is a bond ordained by God, meant to be adorned with gentleness, faithfulness, and respect, not with insults and fear. When words are used as venom, they do not show strength or spiritual maturity, they disgrace the one who speaks them and wound the ones who hear them. To speak well and act with kindness belongs to those who are walking with Christ.

It is right that you feel unsettled when religion is used as a weapon. When Christ is truly at work in a person, there is peace and safety, not fear and intimidation. A desire to grow closer to Christ and to speak to others about Him is good only when it is joined with repentance and a changed life at home, especially toward a wife and children. God looks at how we treat those closest to us, and He calls husbands to love, honor, and cherish their wives, not to tear them down.

Please hear that you are not the villain for caring for your children and for wanting to provide for them. Thanking God every day for your children after the sorrow of miscarriages, putting their needs first, wanting to make a simple meal for them, these are good and faithful things. The Lord sees your care for them, He sees the hurt you have endured, and He values you deeply. You are not alone, and you are not to blame for another person's abusive choices.

We also hear how heavy this has become for your mental health and how trapped you may feel. Please do not walk through this alone. We urge you to seek wise and safe help soon. Talk with a trusted pastor or elder in your church, and if possible a biblically grounded counselor who understands abuse, and share clearly what is happening including the financial control and the verbal attacks. If your husband is asking to speak at a sermon while treating you this way, your church leaders need to know so they can address it with truth and accountability. Lean on safe family or friends who can support you and your children, and make a plan for safety. If you ever feel unsafe, please reach out right away to a trusted person nearby or to local help and, if needed, to civil authorities. Keep a record of incidents if you can do so safely.

Marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and God can work to reclaim and change a heart, but that hope never requires you to remain in a place of unrepented harm without protection and counsel. Scripture teaches that where there is danger or a demand to compromise godliness, wisdom and protection are needed, and the church should step in to bring correction and care. Continue to seek the Lord, but also allow His people to help carry this burden with you.

We are praying for you and your children now.

Heavenly Father, we come to You through Jesus Christ alone, our only hope and Savior. You see this sister and her children, You know every hurtful word spoken and every fear she has carried. We ask You to surround her with Your peace and protection, to guard her mind and heart, and to provide for every daily need. We ask You to bring conviction where there is sin, and to lead her husband to true repentance that is shown in gentle and truthful speech and actions. Give her wisdom for each next step, give her faithful helpers in the church and community, and open a way for safety and healing. Let Your presence be her refuge, and let her children know Your care and steadiness. We ask for change that honors You and restores what is broken according to Your will. In the name of Jesus we pray, amen.

Please keep reaching out for prayer and for practical support from your local church. You and your children matter greatly to God, and we will continue to pray that you will know His protection, wisdom, and peace in the days ahead.