bully

[Anonymous]

I have a coworker who is bullying me for many years in subtle ways. Pray for me and that he will find happiness elsewhere.

 

[Articles]

We understand how deeply painful and exhausting it can be to endure bullying, especially when it persists over many years in subtle, insidious ways. The enemy often uses such tactics to wear down our spirits, but we must remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood but against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places (Ephesians 6:12). You are not alone in this, and God sees the affliction you are enduring. He is your defender, your shield, and your strong tower (Psalm 18:2, Proverbs 18:10).

The Scriptures remind us of how we are to respond to those who mistreat us. Jesus teaches in Matthew 5:44, *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you."* While this may feel impossible in your own strength, the Holy Spirit empowers us to respond in ways that honor God, even when our emotions scream for justice or retaliation. Praying for this coworker is not only an act of obedience but also a way to release the burden of bitterness from your own heart. Ask God to soften his heart, to convict him of his actions, and to lead him to repentance. At the same time, pray for God’s protection over you and for wisdom on how to navigate this situation with grace and truth.

That said, we must also recognize that loving your enemy does not mean allowing yourself to be a doormat for abuse. Proverbs 22:3 tells us, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it."* If there are ways to limit this person’s access to you—whether through professional boundaries, documentation of incidents, or involving HR or leadership—you should prayerfully consider those steps. Wisdom sometimes means removing yourself from harm’s path while trusting God to handle the rest. If you haven’t already, we encourage you to keep a record of specific instances of bullying. This can serve both as evidence if needed and as a way to objectively assess the situation rather than internalizing the lies or manipulations.

We also want to address something important: your prayer that this coworker "find happiness elsewhere." While we understand the sentiment behind this, we must be careful not to pray out of a desire for revenge or escape, even if it feels justified. Instead, let’s pray that God would work in his heart so thoroughly that he is transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit. True happiness is not found in circumstances but in Christ alone. Pray that this man would encounter the love of Jesus in a way that convicts him of his sin and leads him to repentance. Pray that if God wills for him to leave, it would be for the sake of his own soul and for the glory of God—not merely for your relief. And if God calls you to remain in this situation for a time, pray for the strength to endure with joy, knowing that your suffering is not in vain (1 Peter 2:19-20).

Lastly, we want to remind you of your identity in Christ. This coworker’s words or actions do not define you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), chosen and loved by God (Ephesians 1:4-5), and more than a conqueror through Christ (Romans 8:37). The enemy may try to use this person to make you feel small, but God is using this trial to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to display His strength in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Cling to Him, and let this season deepen your dependence on His presence and promises.

Let us pray together for you:

Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You are the God who sees and hears the cries of Your children. Lord, You are aware of every subtle word, every manipulative action, and every wound inflicted upon them by this coworker. We ask that You would be their shield and defender, surrounding them with Your favor as with a shield (Psalm 5:12). Give them wisdom to know how to respond in each situation, and grant them the words to speak when necessary (Luke 12:12). Help them to walk in humility and love, even as they set boundaries that honor You.

Father, we also lift up this coworker to You. Soften his heart, Lord, and convict him of the sin in his actions. Let him see the harm he is causing and lead him to repentance. If it is Your will, remove him from this environment—not for our sake alone, but for the sake of his soul and for Your glory. But if You have purposed for our brother/sister to remain in this trial for a time, give them the grace to endure it with joy, knowing that You are producing in them a weight of glory beyond all comparison (2 Corinthians 4:17).

Lord, we pray that You would heal the wounds this bullying has caused. Restore their confidence in You and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Remind them daily that their worth is found in You alone and that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Strengthen them, Lord, and let them see this trial as an opportunity to grow in faith and dependence on You.

We rebuke the spirit of bullying and manipulation in the name of Jesus. We declare that no scheme of the enemy will prevail against Your child, for greater is He who is in them than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). Let Your light expose every dark tactic, and let Your truth prevail in this situation.

Finally, Father, we ask that You would provide godly support for our brother/sister—whether through friends, mentors, or leaders who can speak life and wisdom into their situation. Let them not walk this path alone but feel the encouragement of Your body, the church.

We pray all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, standing in the gap with you. It's so tough when bullying persists, especially when it's subtle and insidious. But remember, you're not alone. God sees you, He knows your pain, and He's right there with you. We're going to keep lifting you up in prayer, asking God to be your shield and defender, to give you wisdom, and to help you set boundaries that honor Him.

We're also going to keep praying for your coworker. We're asking God to soften his heart, to convict him of his actions, and to lead him to repentance. If it's God's will, we're asking Him to remove your coworker from this situation, but if not, we're asking for strength and joy for you to endure it.

In the meantime, let's keep encouraging each other. You're fearfully and wonderfully made, chosen and loved by God. This trial is an opportunity for you to grow in faith and dependence on Him. Keep clinging to Him, and let this season deepen your relationship with Him.

We're believing with you for breakthrough and healing. Keep trusting in God's love and care for you. You're not alone, and we're praying for you.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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