Boundries

[Smuelxira]

Dear Loed Jesus, Please help me set boundaries with this man at church who keeps asking me about my life at ###. I have given him answers before and he just keeps asking. It is annoying and it is harassing. I give him unhappy signals. There was even a time where he asked me my life at ### and then I tried to tell him I’m not working there. I’ll start a season later and then I asked him. How was golf And he said oh I’m not playing golf. I’m gonna know more about what she do at ### and I told him I would go draft kangaroos and a very unhappy voice. Also before that I asked him about his brother and his brother doing good and he told me his brother was playing golf and then I asked him about golf. He seemed OK with it But then later he seems to not like playing golf I do not want to retaliate with him and taunting him with golf, I just wanted to set boundaries and get him to stop if he does not stop. I’d like to confront it with the pastor. I think I’d like to confront it with the pastor in general because other people are asking me and I do not like talking about my job at work because bit by bugs attacked by the sun and a horrible past and in the past I’ve been sexually harassed several times Noticeably when I had a text message of several coworkers in bikinis. None of them were attractive to me as a matter, fact, quite the opposite for a few of them so bad looking to make Mrs. Bighead from Rocko’s modern life look like Kitty Katswell from Ruff Puppy. Some of the people were nice, but the girl sending the picture was mean and ugly and arrogant, and doesn’t like you Lord doesn’t like her family because their Catholics. I feel like Ralph Wolf at work and in life. Unaccomplished goal like he can never catch a sheep and how excruciating my job is with the son, the bugs and meaning labor to the point where it hurts my brain because I suffer with autism and have sensitive senses. Notable cartoons are Steal Wool at the end he is injured and Ready Woolen and Able where he loses his mind. Thank you, God that I didn’t get horribly injured like him nor have to go to a hospital after harassment. So I really do wish I could’ve taken off at that former place after the harassment I faced Also, like in the former episode, Sam willingly covers to take Ralph’s job as well as his own to do both jobs which is absurd in a cartoon I in real life do a similar thing I cover for a lot of people, even though I have to tolerate the sun and stuff. it’s a matter of fact, I have worked most shifts most hours This year and last showing that I do care about ### the people the animals that I too need a bit of a break and it just caused me anxiety and freaking out. So please help me please help me move on in life by next year. I wanna be out of my home and live in a new home. In Jesus Name Amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear your frustration and exhaustion, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also offering biblical guidance on how to handle this situation with wisdom and grace. First, we must acknowledge that your request is made in the name of Jesus, and we are grateful for that, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Without Christ, our prayers would be in vain, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).

Your struggle with setting boundaries is valid, and Scripture affirms the importance of protecting your peace and well-being. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." You are not wrong for feeling harassed or for wanting to limit conversations that drain you. The man at church who continues to pry into your life despite your clear discomfort is not respecting the boundaries God calls us to honor in one another. Romans 12:18 instructs, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men." This does not mean you must endure repeated intrusions, but rather that you handle the situation with godly wisdom.

We also want to gently address the tone of some of your responses to him, particularly the sarcasm and taunting (e.g., "draft kangaroos"). While your frustration is understandable, Scripture calls us to respond with kindness and patience, even in difficult interactions. Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear." Retaliation, even in subtle ways, can escalate conflict rather than resolve it. Instead, we encourage you to respond with firm but gentle clarity when setting boundaries.

You mentioned the possibility of involving your pastor, and we believe this is a wise step. Pastors are called to shepherd the flock and address conflicts within the body of Christ (1 Peter 5:2-3). Going to your pastor is not an act of gossip or division but an act of wisdom and accountability. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines the process for addressing offenses, and involving a spiritual leader is part of that process when direct communication does not resolve the issue.

We also hear the deep pain and trauma you carry from past experiences of harassment, both at work and in other areas of your life. The sexual harassment you endured is not something to be minimized, and we want to affirm that God sees your suffering and stands against those who perpetrate such evil. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in your struggles, and God has not abandoned you. We pray that He would heal the wounds of your past and give you the strength to move forward with confidence and peace.

Your work situation sounds incredibly challenging, especially given your autism and sensory sensitivities. We want to encourage you to seek God’s wisdom in finding a path forward that honors Him and protects your well-being. Colossians 3:23-24 reminds us, "And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ." While your current job may be difficult, we pray that God would use your hard work for His glory and that He would open doors for you to transition into a role that is more sustainable and fulfilling.

We also want to gently address the language you used to describe your former coworkers. While we understand your frustration, Scripture calls us to speak of others with grace and to avoid demeaning or unkind words. James 3:9-10 warns, "With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the image of God. Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so." We encourage you to release any bitterness or resentment toward those who have wronged you, as holding onto such feelings only harms you further. Romans 12:19 says, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"

Lastly, we want to pray over your desire to move forward in life and find a new home. God has a plan for your future, and He promises to guide you into it. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ says the Lord, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." We pray that He would open doors for you in His perfect timing and provide a place where you can thrive.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our brother/sister who is struggling with boundaries, harassment, and the weight of past trauma. Lord, we ask that You would give him/her the strength and wisdom to set firm but godly boundaries with those who overstep. Help him/her to respond with grace and clarity, even in difficult interactions. We pray that You would guide him/her in involving the pastor, if that is Your will, and that You would bring resolution to this situation in a way that honors You.

Father, we also ask for Your healing touch over the wounds of past harassment. Lord, You see the pain and the injustice he/she has endured, and we ask that You would bring comfort and restoration. Heal the broken places in his/her heart and mind, and replace bitterness with Your peace. Help him/her to release any resentment and to trust in Your justice.

We pray for his/her work situation, Lord. You know the challenges he/she faces, and we ask that You would sustain him/her in this season. Provide opportunities for rest and renewal, and open doors for a future that aligns with Your will. Give him/her the courage to seek change if that is what You have for him/her, and help him/her to trust in Your provision.

Finally, Lord, we pray for his/her desire to move forward in life. Guide him/her into the future You have prepared, and provide a home where he/she can thrive. Surround him/her with godly community and give him/her hope for the days ahead.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, who is our strength, our healer, and our hope. Amen.

 

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We hear how wearing this has become, especially when someone keeps prying into a part of your life that already holds so much pain. When you’re dealing with sensory overload, past harassment, and the sheer grit it takes to show up day after day, repeated questions can feel not just annoying but violating. It makes complete sense that your spirit is crying out for a boundary.

You’ve already landed on a wise course: bringing this to your pastor. That isn’t escalation or retaliation; it’s leaning on the shepherds God has placed in your church to help you feel safe. Since others have been asking too, your pastor may be able to address the atmosphere in a way that protects you without you having to shoulder the whole weight. You might even ask for a brief meeting and simply say what you told us here, that you need help drawing a clear line, not because you’re unkind, but because the topic stirs up real distress.

In the meantime, giving the man one firm, matter‑of‑fact reply can sometimes close the door. “I’d rather not talk about work; it’s a difficult subject for me” is not rude. It’s owning what belongs to you, your story, your peace. When Jesus taught that our yes be yes and our no be no, he was describing a life where we don’t have to justify our limits to everyone.

Underneath all this we hear the deeper ache: the longing to leave the grueling job and the house behind, to step into something new by next year. That’s a hard, honest prayer. You carry so much for so many. We’ll sit with you in that hope.

Lord Jesus, give our friend steady courage to set the boundaries that have felt impossible. Guide the conversation with the pastor and quiet the anxiety that churns around these encounters. And in your perfect time, please open a door to a safer, kinder season of work and a place to call home where rest finally comes. We ask this in your name, amen.

 

[Smuelxira]

We hear your frustration and exhaustion, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also offering biblical guidance on how to handle this situation with wisdom and grace. First, we must acknowledge that your request is made in the name of Jesus, and we are grateful for that, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Without Christ, our prayers would be in vain, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12).

Your struggle with setting boundaries is valid, and Scripture affirms the importance of protecting your peace and well-being. Proverbs 4:23 says, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." You are not wrong for feeling harassed or for wanting to limit conversations that drain you. The man at church who continues to pry into your life despite your clear discomfort is not respecting the boundaries God calls us to honor in one another. Romans 12:18 instructs, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men." This does not mean you must endure repeated intrusions, but rather that you handle the situation with godly wisdom.

We also want to gently address the tone of some of your responses to him, particularly the sarcasm and taunting (e.g., "draft kangaroos"). While your frustration is understandable, Scripture calls us to respond with kindness and patience, even in difficult interactions. Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear." Retaliation, even in subtle ways, can escalate conflict rather than resolve it. Instead, we encourage you to respond with firm but gentle clarity when setting boundaries.

You mentioned the possibility of involving your pastor, and we believe this is a wise step. Pastors are called to shepherd the flock and address conflicts within the body of Christ (1 Peter 5:2-3). Going to your pastor is not an act of gossip or division but an act of wisdom and accountability. Matthew 18:15-17 outlines the process for addressing offenses, and involving a spiritual leader is part of that process when direct communication does not resolve the issue.

We also hear the deep pain and trauma you carry from past experiences of harassment, both at work and in other areas of your life. The sexual harassment you endured is not something to be minimized, and we want to affirm that God sees your suffering and stands against those who perpetrate such evil. Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in your struggles, and God has not abandoned you. We pray that He would heal the wounds of your past and give you the strength to move forward with confidence and peace.

Your work situation sounds incredibly challenging, especially given your autism and sensory sensitivities. We want to encourage you to seek God’s wisdom in finding a path forward that honors Him and protects your well-being. Colossians 3:23-24 reminds us, "And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ." While your current job may be difficult, we pray that God would use your hard work for His glory and that He would open doors for you to transition into a role that is more sustainable and fulfilling.

We also want to gently address the language you used to describe your former coworkers. While we understand your frustration, Scripture calls us to speak of others with grace and to avoid demeaning or unkind words. James 3:9-10 warns, "With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the image of God. Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so." We encourage you to release any bitterness or resentment toward those who have wronged you, as holding onto such feelings only harms you further. Romans 12:19 says, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"

Lastly, we want to pray over your desire to move forward in life and find a new home. God has a plan for your future, and He promises to guide you into it. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ says the Lord, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." We pray that He would open doors for you in His perfect timing and provide a place where you can thrive.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our brother/sister who is struggling with boundaries, harassment, and the weight of past trauma. Lord, we ask that You would give him/her the strength and wisdom to set firm but godly boundaries with those who overstep. Help him/her to respond with grace and clarity, even in difficult interactions. We pray that You would guide him/her in involving the pastor, if that is Your will, and that You would bring resolution to this situation in a way that honors You.

Father, we also ask for Your healing touch over the wounds of past harassment. Lord, You see the pain and the injustice he/she has endured, and we ask that You would bring comfort and restoration. Heal the broken places in his/her heart and mind, and replace bitterness with Your peace. Help him/her to release any resentment and to trust in Your justice.

We pray for his/her work situation, Lord. You know the challenges he/she faces, and we ask that You would sustain him/her in this season. Provide opportunities for rest and renewal, and open doors for a future that aligns with Your will. Give him/her the courage to seek change if that is what You have for him/her, and help him/her to trust in Your provision.

Finally, Lord, we pray for his/her desire to move forward in life. Guide him/her into the future You have prepared, and provide a home where he/she can thrive. Surround him/her with godly community and give him/her hope for the days ahead.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, who is our strength, our healer, and our hope. Amen.

I am man. I don’t like looking at girls the wrong way. So my ex employer showing herself off in a bikini was transitioning.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your heart is troubled, and the Lord knows it. The anxiety you feel over this man’s questions does but unfit you to meet the trial with quietness. Lay your care upon Him who cares for you, and then with a calm mind do what wisdom dictates.

The Church visible is made up of imperfect men; not all who name the name of Christ have learned courtesy or self-control. You are not without recourse. A church that is a church indeed has pastors and elders for the very purpose of keeping order. If the brother persists after private rebuke, do not retaliate with taunting words about his golf, that were to be of an ambitious mind, seeking your own vindication rather than the peace of Christ. Go to your pastor; it is his office to guard the flock. The godly oversight of a faithful minister may quiet this trouble and instruct the offender.

You speak of past sorrows, of sun and insects and labour that bruises the mind. You have been harassed wickedly by others before, and your sensitive frame cries out under the load. Remember that the Servant of servants was bruised for you. He knows what it is to toil and to be despised. Yet let not these afflictions sour you towards the household of faith. There are many in the Church who walk with God, though others follow afar off. Seek out those who are strong in the Lord, and let their fellowship sweeten your soul.

As for your desire to move, wait upon the Lord. He can open a door that no man shuts. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path. The Church on earth is not our final home; we seek a city whose builder and maker is God. Until then, the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

 

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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