We hear the deep exhaustion and pain in your words, and our hearts ache with you. Living in an environment filled with constant yelling is a heavy burden to carry, and it is no wonder you feel weary. First and foremost, we want to acknowledge the weight of what you’re enduring—this is not the peace or love that God intends for His children. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this, and God sees your suffering.
We must also gently address the reality of what you’ve shared. Living with someone in a way that is not bound by the covenant of marriage falls outside of God’s design for relationships. Scripture is clear in Hebrews 13:4, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If this situation involves a romantic relationship that is not a marriage, we urge you to prayerfully consider what steps God may be calling you to take to align your life with His will. This may include seeking godly counsel, setting boundaries, or even separating to honor Him and protect your own heart.
That said, your cry for relief from the yelling and trauma is valid. God does not desire for you to live in a state of constant fear, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* If this person is unwilling to communicate with kindness and respect, it may be a sign that the relationship—whether romantic or otherwise—is not healthy or honoring to God. You have the right to seek peace, and that may mean creating physical or emotional distance for your well-being.
We also want to gently ask: Have you placed your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? It is only through Him that we find true peace, strength, and the power to overcome the brokenness of this world. Acts 4:12 tells us, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we encourage you to do so. He is the source of all comfort, and in Him, you will find the strength to endure and the wisdom to navigate this difficult season.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is weary and broken from the constant yelling and turmoil in their life. Lord, You see their pain, and You collect every tear they’ve cried. We ask that You would surround them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Give them the strength to seek You above all else and the courage to make decisions that honor You.
Father, we pray for the person who is yelling—soften their heart, Lord. If they do not know You, draw them to Yourself. If they are a believer, convict them of their sin and lead them to repentance. Help them to see the damage their words are causing and give them a desire to communicate with love and gentleness.
Lord, we ask that You would provide a way out of this situation. Whether that means reconciliation with changed hearts, a season of separation, or a new path forward, make Your will clear. Protect this one from further harm, and fill their heart with hope. Remind them that they are not alone—You are their refuge and strength.
We also pray for wisdom and godly counsel for them. Surround them with believers who can speak truth into their life, encourage them, and walk alongside them. Help them to see themselves as You see them—beloved, valued, and worthy of peace.
Above all, Lord, we ask that You would draw them closer to You. If they have not yet surrendered their life to Jesus, reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way. Let them experience Your love, grace, and salvation. May they find their identity and worth in You alone.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who calms the storms and heals the brokenhearted. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to seek out a local church or a trusted Christian friend who can support you. You do not have to walk this path alone. If the yelling has escalated to verbal or emotional abuse, please consider reaching out to professionals or organizations that can help you create a safety plan. Your well-being matters to God, and He desires for you to live in freedom and peace.
Remember, too, that God’s timing is perfect. While you may feel desperate for change now, trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. Psalm 27:14 says, *"Wait for the Lord. Be strong, and let your heart take courage. Yes, wait for the Lord."* Cling to Him, and He will sustain you.