We hear the depth of your heart and the sincerity of your devotion to the Lord, and we are moved by your willingness to intercede for others with such sacrifice. Your desire to see this man come to the truth of Christ is noble, for there is no greater love than to lead a soul to eternal life in Jesus. Yet we must address this situation with both compassion and biblical clarity, for the path you are walking carries grave spiritual dangers that must not be ignored.
First, we must gently but firmly rebuke the idea that God would direct you toward a relationship with an unbeliever—especially one who is devoted to false gods. The Word of God is unequivocal on this matter:
*"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness? What agreement has Christ with Belial? Or what portion has a believer with an unbeliever? What agreement has a temple of God with idols? For you are a temple of the living God."* (2 Corinthians 6:14-16, WEB)
You have said yourself that this man is a *strict* follower of Hinduism, worshiping idols as gods. This is not a matter of mere cultural difference—it is spiritual rebellion against the one true God. The Lord does not call His daughters to bind themselves to those who serve other gods, no matter how "good" their hearts may seem. A man’s morality, no matter how admirable, cannot save him—only faith in Jesus Christ can. And until he turns from his idols to the living God, he remains under condemnation (John 3:18).
You have taken God’s voice in this matter as confirmation, but we urge you to test this "word" against Scripture. The Lord does not contradict His own commands. If you believe God spoke to you, ask yourself: *Would He command what He has explicitly forbidden?* The enemy often disguises himself as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14), and one of his most effective deceptions is to twist a believer’s godly desires—such as your longing for marriage and your passion for souls—into a path that leads away from obedience.
Consider also the danger you are in. You say you love this man deeply, and love is a powerful force. But love without truth is not godly love—it is emotional attachment that can blind you to spiritual reality. You are opening your heart to someone who, right now, is an enemy of God in his unbelief (James 4:4). This is not a position of strength but of extreme vulnerability. The Bible warns:
*"The wisdom of the prudent is to think about his way, but the folly of fools is deceit. Fools mock at making atonement for sins, but among the upright there is good will."* (Proverbs 14:8-9, WEB)
You cannot "save" this man through marriage. Salvation is the work of the Holy Spirit, not human effort. If God has truly called you to be a light to him, that calling must be fulfilled *in purity and obedience*—not in emotional or relational compromise. You are playing with fire, and the burns may scar you for life if you do not step back.
We also must address your statement that you have "never asked anything for yourself." While your selflessness is commendable, it is not biblical to neglect your own needs to the point of sorrow and isolation. Jesus Himself withdrew to pray (Luke 5:16), but He also fellowshipped with His disciples and allowed Himself to be ministered to (Luke 8:3). You are not called to a life of endless sacrifice without joy. The Lord desires to give you *abundant* life (John 10:10), not a life of unending loneliness.
Now, let us speak truth in love about your future. You long for marriage, and that is a godly desire (1 Timothy 4:3). But marriage is not the ultimate fulfillment—Christ is. And a godly marriage can only be built between two believers who are equally yoked in faith. We pray that the Lord will redirect your heart toward a man who *already* loves Jesus, who will lead you spiritually, and with whom you can serve God *together* without the burden of unequally yoked struggle.
As for this Hindu man, if God has truly placed a burden on your heart for his salvation, then pray for him *from a distance*. Share the Gospel with him if the opportunity arises, but do not entangle yourself with him emotionally or relationally. You cannot be the Holy Spirit in his life. Your role is to obey God, speak truth, and trust the Lord to do the work of conviction and conversion.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up Your daughter before You, a woman who has poured herself out in prayer for others, yet now finds herself in a place of deep longing and dangerous emotional attachment. Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to see the truth of Your Word in this situation. Convict her heart if she has been deceived, and give her the strength to obey You even when it is painful.
Father, we rebuke any false word or leading that would draw her into an unequally yoked relationship. Your Word is clear: light and darkness cannot fellowship together. Lord, protect her from the enemy’s schemes to use her godly desires against her. Break any ungodly soul tie that has formed between her and this man, and sever every emotional bond that is not of You.
We pray that You would bring godly, believing men into her life—men who love You wholeheartedly and can lead her in righteousness. If it is Your will for her to marry, Lord, prepare a husband for her who is already Your son, one who will cherish her and walk with her in faith. But even more, Father, satisfy her deepest longings in *You*. Remind her that You are her first love, her protector, and her provider.
For this Hindu man, we pray that You would send laborers into his life to share the Gospel with him. If it is Your will, use even this sister from afar to speak truth to him, but guard her heart from attachment. Soften his heart, Lord, and reveal to him the emptiness of idols. Draw him to Yourself by Your Spirit, that he may repent and believe in Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would heal the loneliness in our sister’s heart. Surround her with godly community, with friends who will uplift her and walk with her in faith. Restore her joy, Lord, and remind her that her worth is not in being a wife, but in being Your beloved daughter.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Amen.
Sister, we urge you: step back from this relationship. Do not communicate with this man beyond sharing the Gospel if the opportunity arises naturally. Immerse yourself in Scripture, especially passages on godly relationships (Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Corinthians 7, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). Seek counsel from mature believers who can speak truth into your life. And above all, surrender this desire to the Lord. He sees your heart, and He will either fulfill this desire in His perfect timing and way, or He will give you the grace to live fully for Him in singleness.
*"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB) Trust Him, even when the path is hard. He is faithful.
