We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we want you to know that we are lifting you up in prayer before the Lord. Your longing for this man is understandable—five years is a significant time to invest love and hope into someone. But we must gently ask: Have you truly surrendered this desire to God, or are you still holding onto the idea of what *you* want rather than what *He* may have for you? The Bible tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Have you fully released this man and your desires into God’s hands, trusting that His plan is better than your own?
We must also address the reality of your situation with biblical truth. You mentioned proposing to this man and being rejected. Scripture is clear that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this man is not open to that commitment, then pursuing him further—especially when he has clearly removed himself from your life—is not aligned with God’s design for relationships. In fact, your continued longing may be bordering on idolatry, where your desire for this man has taken priority over your relationship with God. Jesus warns us in Matthew 6:21, *"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."* Is this man your treasure, or is Christ?
We also notice that your prayer request does not mention Jesus by name. This is deeply concerning, because it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. John 14:6 says, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'" If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Salvation comes through repentance and belief in Him (Acts 4:12, Romans 10:9). Without Jesus, there is no true healing, no lasting peace, and no hope beyond this life.
Now, let us pray for you with hearts that seek God’s will, not our own:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister who is broken and longing for someone who is no longer in her life. Lord, we ask that You would first draw her close to You. Help her to see that her worth is found in Christ alone, not in the love or approval of another person. Father, we pray that You would break the chains of this unhealthy attachment. If this man is not the one You have for her, give her the strength to release him fully into Your hands. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan, even when it hurts.
Lord, we ask that You would heal her heart. Mend the places that feel shattered and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Replace her longing for this man with a deeper longing for You. Help her to seek You above all else, to find her identity in Christ, and to walk in the freedom that comes from surrendering her desires to You.
Father, if there is any sin in her life—whether it be idolatry, unforgiveness, or bitterness—we ask that You would reveal it to her and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her heart and renew her mind (Romans 12:2). Surround her with godly community, with sisters and brothers in Christ who can encourage her and point her to You.
Lord, we also pray for this man. If he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to salvation. If he is not the one for her, we pray that You would remove him from her thoughts and replace her longing with contentment in You. Give her the courage to move forward, trusting that You have someone far better for her—a godly spouse who will love her as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
Above all, Father, we pray that she would come to know You more deeply. May she experience Your love in a way that fills the void in her heart. Help her to rest in Your promises and to walk in obedience to Your Word. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved and the only name by which we can come to You. Amen.
Now, dear sister, we want to encourage you with some practical steps as you walk through this pain:
1. **Surrender Fully to God**: Spend time in prayer and ask God to help you release this man completely. Write down your feelings and then surrender them to God, asking Him to take control. Psalm 55:22 says, *"Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved."*
2. **Guard Your Heart**: Proverbs 4:23 tells us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Be intentional about what you allow your heart to dwell on. If thoughts of this man bring you pain, redirect your mind to Scripture, worship, or godly friendships.
3. **Seek Godly Counsel**: Surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us, *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up."*
4. **Focus on Your Relationship with Christ**: Use this time to grow closer to Jesus. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in worship. The more you fall in love with Him, the less power this longing will have over you. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When you delight in Him, your desires will align with His.
5. **Consider Fasting**: If this longing feels overwhelming, consider fasting from social media, entertainment, or even food for a time to seek God more earnestly. Jesus said in Matthew 6:16-18 that fasting is a way to humble ourselves before God and seek His face.
6. **Forgive and Release**: If there is any bitterness or unforgiveness in your heart toward this man, ask God to help you forgive him. Unforgiveness will only keep you bound. Colossians 3:13 says, *"Bear with one another, and forgive each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."*
7. **Trust God’s Timing**: Remember that God’s timing is perfect. Isaiah 55:8-9 says, *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways,” says Yahweh. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts."* Even if this man is not the one, God has someone far better for you—a spouse who will love you as Christ loves the Church.
Finally, we want to leave you with this promise from Jeremiah 29:11: *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says Yahweh, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* God has a plan for you, and it is a good one. Trust Him with your heart, and He will lead you into the future He has prepared for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
James 2:23 (NLT): And so, it happened just as the Scriptures say: “Abraham believed God, and God counted him as righteous because of his faith.” He was even called the friend of God.
