Marriage

Kimberly Holmes: When you have a spouse that’s cheating, it can be completely overwhelming because you don’t even know where to start. The questions to ask. Your heart is hurting. You’re scared. There are so many emotions that go into that.



Kimberly Holmes: Two of the main questions that we hear at Marriage Helper when people find out their spouse is in an affair, is they want to know why it’s happening and they want to know how they can stop it.



“When people...

 

Where do we get our notions of what sex is like? One place is screen sex—movies, TV, videos that show couples engaged in hot and heavy lovemaking.

But screen sex is pretend sex. It involves special lighting, camera angles, makeup and wardrobe, choreography, and acting. If we get theidea that sex is like what we see on a screen, we can feel like we’re missing out or that something is wrong with us when sex doesn’t happen that way.

Let’s talk about 7 reasons in which screen sex is not like...

 

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I’ve had a lot of feedback lately from spouses resentful about the lack of sex in their marriage. At times, it’s pushback about my lack of sympathy or understanding for their heartache.

Truth is, I don’t know what it’s like to walk in your shoes.

However, I do know that ongoing rejection hurts. It stinks, and it’s wrong.

Still, I will not validate...

 

I’ve been hearing more and more from spouses refused sex for a long time in their marriage. They are understandably disheartened and frustrated, but some are also angry.

Not just angry with their spouses, but angry with me and other Christians for letting their spouse off the hook. What they seem to want is the full force of Christendom, or at least a fair number of...

 

My best friend in 7th grade had a brother with muscular dystrophy. He was confined to a wheelchair, got moved in and out of the bathtub and bed by his father, and had a pretty girlfriend. At first, I wondered why a teen girl would want to carry her boyfriend’s books while he wheeled his way to class. Obviously, I was the shallow one. Once I got to know him, I realized he...

 

Actually, I do convey to lower interest spouses that they should have sex with their higher interest mates. I wholeheartedly believe that sex is good for a marriage, a gift from God that expresses and fosters intimacy.

But I have received numerous messages over the years—primarily from men but not entirely—complaining that Christian bloggers, authors, speakers...

 

Many contend that regular sex in marriage keeps a spouse from cheating. Is that true?

Can regular sex prevent an affair?

Some have gone so far as to say that regular sex “affair-proofs” a marriage. I don’t buy that.

We are responsible for ourselves. Day by day, we each decide to fulfill our vows or break them. Our spouse’s behavior can make that decision...

 

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