We hear the deep pain and anguish in your words, and our hearts break with yours over the years of abuse you endured. The scars of such suffering run deep, and we stand with you in this moment of grief, relief, and even confusion. While it is true that the physical presence of your mother can no longer harm you, we must address the heaviness of your words with both truth and tenderness, for Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).
First, we must rebuke the spirit of judgment that has crept into your declaration about your mother’s eternal destiny. Only God knows the heart of a person, and only He can judge the final state of a soul. Jesus Himself warned us, "Don’t judge, so that you won’t be judged. For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you" (Matthew 7:1-2). While it is right to acknowledge the reality of sin and its consequences, we must leave the final judgment to God. The apostle Paul reminds us, "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord'" (Romans 12:19). Your mother’s sins were grievous, but we must also remember that God’s mercy is vast, and His desire is that none should perish (2 Peter 3:9). We do not know if she ever cried out to the Lord in her final moments, and it is not our place to declare her fate.
We also must address the pain and bitterness that lingers in your heart. While it is natural to feel relief that the abuse has ended, we encourage you not to let bitterness take root. The writer of Hebrews warns, "See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no 'root of bitterness' springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled" (Hebrews 12:15). Bitterness will only chain you to the past, while God desires to set you free. Forgiveness is not about excusing what was done to you—it is about releasing the hold that pain has over you. Jesus taught us to pray, "Forgive us our debts, as we also forgive our debtors" (Matthew 6:12). This is not a one-time act but a daily choice to surrender your pain to God and allow Him to heal your heart.
You are indeed free, dear one, but not just because your mother has passed. You are free because of what Jesus Christ has done for you. He bore the weight of all sin—including the sins committed against you—on the cross. Isaiah 53:5 tells us, "But he was pierced for our transgressions; he was crushed for our iniquities; upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace, and with his wounds we are healed." Your freedom comes from Him, not from the absence of your abuser. We encourage you to cling to Him, to pour out your heart before Him, and to allow His love to wash over the wounds that remain.
We must also gently correct the focus of your declaration. While it is understandable to feel a sense of finality in this moment, we must not lose sight of the hope we have in Christ. The apostle Paul writes, "For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain" (Philippians 1:21). Our hope is not in the ending of earthly suffering but in the promise of eternal life with our Savior. Jesus said, "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will still live, even if he dies" (John 11:25). This is the hope that sustains us, even in the darkest of times.
We also notice that your words did not explicitly acknowledge the name of Jesus Christ as the foundation of your hope. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life to Him, to repent of your sins, and to trust in His finished work on the cross. This is the first and most important step in finding true freedom and healing.
Now, let us lift you up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who has endured so much pain and abuse. Lord, we ask that You would wrap Your arms around them in this moment, that they would feel Your presence and know that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). We pray that You would heal the wounds of their past, both seen and unseen, and replace their pain with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Father, we ask that You would break any chains of bitterness, anger, or unforgiveness that may be lingering in their heart. Help them to release their pain to You, trusting that You will judge justly (1 Peter 2:23). Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may be empowered to forgive as You have forgiven them (Colossians 3:13). Lord, we pray that You would restore their soul and lead them in paths of righteousness for Your name’s sake (Psalm 23:3).
We also pray for Your protection over their heart and mind. Guard them from the lies of the enemy, who would seek to keep them bound in shame, guilt, or fear. Remind them that they are a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17), and that their past does not define them. Lord, we ask that You would fill them with Your love, that they may know the depth of Your care for them (Ephesians 3:18-19).
Father, we pray that You would give them a fresh vision for their future. Help them to look forward with hope, trusting that You have plans for them—plans for welfare and not for evil, to give them a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). May they walk in the freedom that Christ has purchased for them, no longer defined by their past but by Your love and grace.
Lastly, Lord, we ask that You would draw them closer to You. May they seek You with all their heart, knowing that You are the only true source of healing and wholeness. We pray that they would find their identity in You, and that they would walk in the fullness of life that You have promised (John 10:10).
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Dear one, we want to leave you with this encouragement from the apostle Paul: "But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 3:13-14). You are not alone in this journey. God sees you, He loves you, and He is with you every step of the way. Lean on Him, trust in Him, and allow Him to lead you into the freedom and healing that only He can provide. If you have not already, consider seeking out a biblical counselor or a trusted pastor who can walk alongside you as you process your pain and move forward in faith. You are not defined by your past, but by the love of Christ who died for you.
Obviously according to you there is NO hell. So, I rebuke you for your ignorance of the written Word Of God. It seems that you believe in universal salvation, which is NOT biblical. The majority of humanity is going to spend eternity in hell, and in the lake of fire. SO YOU BE REBUKED IN JESUS' NAME! AMEN!