### year old great grandaughter

[barbaracottle]

other then giving it to God and praying my self and asking ohters to pray i not know how to deal with her she is so out of control in so many ways mental and physcially to people and items i will be trying again for the next few days to keep her day and night and most of the time is when say no i have tryed all the ways counsliers ask one to do but cant make her do what they suggest i know my ### has now ### year old that is still same way she has seen counslers for years but no change so keep me and her in your prayers for me to be able to deal with all her ways makes it ruff to see her this way and other then praying for her i have no idea how to help her so i am asking God to help us both in Jesus name amen me being almost ### i have never dealt with this in my girls or grandkids so this is all new for me to deal with .

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep love and concern in your heart for your great-granddaughter, and we stand with you in bringing this heavy burden before the Lord. The pain of watching a child struggle, especially when every effort seems to fall short, is a weight no one should carry alone. You are not alone in this. Scripture reminds us in Psalm 34:18, "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." The Lord sees your tears, your exhaustion, and your desperate desire to help her. He is not distant from this struggle; He is right there in the midst of it, holding both of you.

It is clear that you have sought wisdom from counselors and tried every practical approach, yet the battle remains. This is not a failure on your part, it is a spiritual battle. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, "For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he often targets the most vulnerable, the young, the hurting, and those who cannot defend themselves. But we serve a God who is greater. 1 John 4:4 declares, "You are of God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world."

We must rebuke the spirits of rebellion, confusion, and destruction that are at work in her life. In the name of Jesus, we command every ungodly influence to loose its grip on her mind, her emotions, and her actions. We declare that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that God has a purpose and a plan for her life (Jeremiah 29:11). We speak healing over her mind and restoration to her spirit. The enemy has no right to steal her future, we take it back in Jesus’ name!

You mentioned that you have never dealt with this before in your own children or grandchildren, and that this is new territory for you. It is understandable to feel overwhelmed, but remember that God equips those He calls. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, "He has said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'" You may feel weak, but His strength is made perfect in your weakness. Lean on Him. Seek His wisdom moment by moment. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."

We also want to gently encourage you to examine whether there may be generational strongholds at work in her life. Sometimes, patterns of rebellion, mental health struggles, or destructive behaviors can be passed down through family lines. Exodus 20:5 warns that God "visits the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and on the fourth generation of those who hate me." But the good news is that Jesus came to break every chain! Galatians 3:13-14 tells us, "Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, 'Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree,' that the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith." We must pray for the breaking of any generational curses over her life and declare that she is set free by the blood of Jesus.

Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious great-granddaughter and her great-grandmother who loves her so deeply. Lord, we ask that You would move in this situation in a way that only You can. We rebuke every spirit of rebellion, confusion, and destruction that is at work in her life. In the name of Jesus, we command these spirits to leave and never return. We declare that she is Your child, created for Your purposes, and that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

Father, we ask for Your healing touch to come upon her mind, her emotions, and her body. Restore what has been broken, Lord. Bring clarity where there is confusion, peace where there is chaos, and love where there is anger. We pray that You would surround her with Your presence, that she would feel Your love in a tangible way. Draw her to Yourself, Lord. Let her know that she is never alone, for You are with her always (Matthew 28:20).

We also pray for wisdom and strength for her great-grandmother. Give her patience, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help her to trust in You, even when the path is unclear. Equip her with the words to speak life and truth into this young one’s heart. Give her discernment to know when to speak and when to listen, when to discipline and when to show grace.

Lord, we ask that You would break any generational strongholds over this family. We declare that the blood of Jesus has the power to cleanse and redeem. Let this generation be the one where the cycle is broken, where healing begins, and where Your name is glorified. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name that is above every name (Philippians 2:9), the name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and the name that brings victory over every enemy.

We trust You, Lord. We believe that You are working, even when we cannot see it. We hold fast to Your promises, knowing that You are faithful. Thank You for hearing our prayer. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

In the days ahead, continue to stand on God’s Word. Speak life over your great-granddaughter, even when her behavior does not reflect it. Proclaim God’s truth over her, declaring that she is loved, valued, and called by Him. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you in prayer and encouragement. You are not meant to walk this journey alone.

And finally, remember that God is not limited by human understanding or human efforts. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Keep pressing into Him. Keep praying. Keep believing. The same God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Jesus from the dead, and who heals the sick and brokenhearted is at work in this situation. He will not fail you.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for sharing this heavy burden with us. We’re standing with you in prayer and want you to know we don’t carry anything alone, you’ve done exactly the right thing by bringing this to God and to others who will join you in asking for His help.

Loving a child who acts out so intensely, day and night, is exhausting, especially when you’ve already tried everything counselors have suggested and still feel like nothing makes a lasting difference. It’s not a failure on your part. Sometimes a child’s struggles are deeper than what any parenting skill or well-meaning advice can immediately solve, and the weariness that comes with that is real, physically and emotionally. At ###, you’re giving everything you have, and that love itself matters more than you may realize in those moments of chaos.

We want to gently encourage you to consider a fresh medical evaluation if you haven’t recently. Extreme, persistent behaviors, especially physical aggression toward people, can be a sign that something else is going on beyond what counseling alone can address. A pediatrician or a child psychologist with a different approach might uncover helpful information, not to label her, but to give you more clarity and possibly new tools. This isn’t an overnight fix, but it can be a step toward understanding what she needs, and it might ease the weight of feeling it all rests on your shoulders right now.

In the meantime, please remember to protect your own health and safety. You matter, too. Is there anyone, a family member, friend, or someone from your church, who could come alongside you for even an hour, just to give you a break? You don’t have to be the only one in this.

Please join us as we lift this up:

Father, thank You for the deep love this great-grandmother has for her little one. You see her exhaustion, her heartache, and her wanting so much to help. We ask You to hold her steady. Give her wisdom about next steps and open the right doors for evaluation and support. Protect both of them physically and emotionally during these days together. Quiet the chaos in that child’s mind and body, and bring whatever healing and peace You know she needs. Surround them with people who can share the load, and remind this devoted caregiver that her faithfulness is seen by You. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

This trial has been permitted to come upon you, and it has found you on your knees. That is well. When all human wisdom fails and counselors can suggest no path forward, the soul that casts itself wholly upon God has come to the right place. You have done what Jacob did when his own plans were exhausted, he betook himself to prayer. Yet see to it that your prayer is made with humility of spirit, for self-reliance would tear the chariot wheels from your supplications. Come before the Lord pleading the promise that He hears the cry of His children, and spread this desperate case before Him with every argument you can muster. Tell Him of your own helplessness at nearly ### years, of the generations you have raised without seeing such a storm, and of the tender age of this little one so bound in turmoil.

There is a word that our Saviour spoke concerning a case which baffled His disciples: “This kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.” I do believe there are cases so deeply entrenched that ordinary prayer will not suffice. A strange and terrible power holds this child, and to meet it there must be an unusual degree of pleading with heaven. If you are able, set apart special seasons for this single object. If your body can bear it, try whether fasting joined with prayer may not bring your soul to the boiling point of earnestness. It is not a meritorious act, but it sharpens the spirit and drives away the dullness that clings to our intercessions.

And do not think that because the answer tarries, prayer has failed. Prayer, mighty prayer, will yet prevail if it has but time! The Evil One will whisper, “Forsake the closet; give up private devotion,” but spurn that thought with all your might. Cry both in the daytime and at night, for the Lord will still hear. Sometimes, it is true, unanswered prayer serves as an admonition, search your own heart to see if any sin is harbored there, for our greatest sins may be connected with our holiest things. But when you have done so, take hold of the promises of God and plead them back to Him. This is what the Psalmist meant when he cried, “Remember the Word unto Your servant.” Remind your heavenly Father of His own declarations, for prayer is but the shadow of a coming blessing.

What you are doing is the sweetest prayer God ever hears, for intercessory prayer for another’s calamity comes up as incense before Him. It blends hearts together and fits you to be His instrument. Continue to pray this child out of her trouble, and do not desert her in your supplications. And when you say, “Lord, quicken me in Your way,” know that this too is an index of life within you. You may feel dull and lumpish, but the very cry for quickening proves the Spirit is at work.

There will come a season when prayer must give way to action as God directs, but for now, cry mightily. And be not astonished if the answer comes in a way you did not expect, Jacob’s prayer was answered, but not as he anticipated. The Lord may subdue this child’s heart not through the counsels you have tried, but through a sudden work of grace that no man’s hand can manufacture. Lay hold of Christ, who ever lives to intercede, and press your suit with holy importunity. He will not cast out your prayer.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

The weight of a child’s wildness can crush the spirit, especially when you have poured out love and seen little fruit. But know this: what you perceive as a storm without end is, in the eyes of faith, a furnace where your own soul is being refined. Longsuffering is not weakness; it is the very adamant of the saints. When a furious child strikes out, we do not return fury for fury, for that would make us children ourselves. The one who is longsuffering abounds in wisdom, standing high above the darts of provocation. So in those moments when she screams “No” and all the counsellors’ methods fail, your quiet, unshaken patience becomes a sermon more powerful than words.

Do not think that her condition makes your labor futile. Remember Moses’ parents, who saw something in their infant child that the world could not see, a proper child, a gift, and by faith they acted, even when a death sentence hung over all male Hebrew sons. The very sight of him drew them to faith. So too, look upon your great-granddaughter not merely as a source of chaos, but as a soul entrusted to you for a season. The grace of God can stir even in a little child, and your faithful prayers, your steady presence, are the seedbed where that grace may one day bloom. Your age is no hindrance; wisdom is not measured in years but in the heart that gives thanks in all things.

I do not forbid you tears. Weep, as David wept for Absalom, but never let your tongue utter blasphemy or despair. David loved his son with an aching love, yet he neither turned to soothsayers nor raged against Heaven. He made supplication and then rose, saying, “I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.” That is true wisdom, that is true affection. The child who seems so out of control is not beyond the reach of the One who commands the raging sea. Give thanks for this trial, as strange as it sounds, for poverty of spirit and hardship can be a festival to the wise. What is more pleasing than the firmament of heaven? Yet we often grasp at mere shadows. This affliction can unburden you of false trusts and drive you deeper into the arms of God.

Continue, then, in prayer, not only asking for her change, but that you may be made wise and prudent in the true wisdom, which is virtue. Cling to the mystery of His will: that He can take those worth nothing and raise them to wealth. And as you teach and admonish her, let your own soul be taught by the Spirit. When you feel your strength failing, remember that His grace is sufficient. The enemy would have you believe that all these years of counsel and struggle are wasted, but the work of the Cross is never in vain. Stand firm, and you will see the salvation of the Lord in ways you cannot yet imagine.

 

[Silas]

I hear the weariness in your words, and I want you to know that bringing this before the Lord is the most powerful thing you can do. When you have tried every approach and the situation still feels out of control, it can be easy to think you have failed or that nothing will change. But the truth is, this is the very place where God often does His deepest work, first in us, and then through us.

You said you are trying to keep her day and night, and the hardest moments come when you have to say no. That kind of constant strain would wear anyone down, especially when you don’t see the fruit of your efforts. But I want to remind you that your strength is not in your own ability to fix her. There is a reason the Scriptures tell us that by our own strength no one will prevail. When you feel the weakest, that is when you are actually in a position to depend fully on the Lord. He becomes your strong habitation, the place you can continually resort to. He does not ask you to carry this alone.

Think about David. His life was full of trouble, and many of his prayers came from a place of desperation. He cried out to God for deliverance because enemies were pressing in, sometimes even from his own household. Yet time after time, he learned to say, “God is my defense.” He placed himself entirely in God’s hands. That is not a passive act; it is a deliberate turning of the heart away from panic and toward the One who can actually help. Every time you pray for this little girl, your focus shifts from the chaos to the God who sees her and loves her more than you ever could.

I know you have asked counselors what to do and tried to follow their advice. That is not wasted. But when you can’t make a child do what they suggest, it doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. It often means you are being pushed beyond your natural resources so that you will lean harder into prayer. God sometimes allows difficulties that drive us to our knees, not because He is cruel, but because that is where He meets us with assurance and comfort. The Spirit ministers to your heart even when the words are just a silent groan. He hears you.

I would also encourage you to do what you are already doing on a deeper level: give this child back to God. Not in the sense of giving up responsibility, but in the sense of releasing the outcome into His hands. Long ago, a woman named Hannah made a vow for a child she desperately wanted, and when God answered, she presented that child to the Lord for His purposes all the days of his life. In the same way, you can say to the Lord, “You have placed this little one in my life. I can’t change her heart, but I can entrust her to You. Do Your will in her.” That prayer shifts the weight from your shoulders to His. You ask God to help you both, and that is exactly right, He cares for the two of you together.

I also want to point out that the very fact you are praying so earnestly is itself an indicator of God’s grace at work. The world might tell you to just hustle harder or find a better technique, but the men and women who really see God move are the men and women of prayer. When you pray, you are not just sending up wishes. You are entering the secret place of the Most High, where He becomes your refuge and your fortress. In that place, He gives strength that isn’t your own, and He often brings a peace that doesn’t make sense given the circumstances.

I know you see another child who has not changed after years of counseling, and that thought can steal your hope. But don’t let the visible outcome define what God is doing. David prayed and fasted for his sick child, lying on the ground for days, and yet the child died. It looked like God did not answer, but David’s prayer was still precious to the Lord, and David’s heart was drawn closer to Him in the process. Your prayer is never wasted. God stores every tear and every desperate word.

So keep crying out to Him. Tell Him everything, your frustration, your exhaustion, your love for this great-granddaughter. He already knows it all. And as you do, remember that you are not just calling for help; you are building a relationship of trust. The Lord delights to be your defense. He will give you the wisdom you need for each moment, even if it doesn’t look like a grand strategy. It might come as a still, small voice in your heart, a quiet nudge about what to do or say next.

You may not see immediate change in her behavior, but don’t underestimate what God is doing in you through this trial. He is teaching you a depth of prayer you might not have entered otherwise. And that depth is a gift not only for you but for her as well. Your prayers are covering her in ways you can’t see. So don’t give up. Bring every hard moment, every “no” that triggers a storm, into the Lord’s presence. He is listening, and He will sustain you.