We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your words and we are standing with you in prayer together in Jesus name. The hurt of being controlled and verbally wounded by a parent who should have protected you, of being treated as a servant, of being sided against and then left alone when that parent passed, and feeling abandoned even by relatives and wounded by some in the church, is a very heavy burden. We grieve with you over the cruel words that were spoken over you and the course they seemed to set for your life, and over the dread and doubt you have carried for so long.
We want you to know that the words spoken over you by people do not have the final authority over your life. God’s Word does. Proverbs 18:21 tells us death and life are in the power of the tongue, and cruel words can wound deeply, but we rebuke the lies that were spoken over you and the lie that you will never heal in this life and that you are unprotected and unloved. Those words are not truth. God’s truth is higher and He alone defines who you are. We also rebuke the thought that you should just let people take advantage of you because you are tired. The Lord does not call you to be a doormat for abuse. He calls us to love others but also to be wise and to guard our hearts. Matthew 10:16 says be wise as serpents and harmless as doves, and Proverbs 4:23 says guard your heart with all diligence. It is right to set godly boundaries and to not allow yourself to be continually mistreated.
You shared that you pray in Jesus name not to get things but because you love God and Jesus, and you also shared that you feel lost and scared to trust Him and that you do not really know Him. We thank God that you are calling on the name of Jesus, because it is only by that name that we have access to the Father and it is only by that name we are saved. Acts 4:12 says there is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. And John 14:6 says Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, no one comes to the Father except through him. Your love for Jesus even in this pain is precious to Him, and He wants you to know Him not as the parent who hurt you was, but as a perfect Father who will never abandon you.
You feel abandoned by God especially when people are cruel, but God promises the opposite. Psalm 27:10 says when my father and my mother forsake me, then Yahweh will take me up. Psalm 68:5 says He is a father of the fatherless and a defender of the widows. Deuteronomy 31:6 says he will not fail you nor forsake you. Romans 8:38-39 reminds us that neither death, nor life, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from God’s love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. People may have forsaken you and gossiped and backbitten, and that is not the heart of Christ, but God Himself has not left you and He sees every tear and every wound.
We also want to speak against the belief that you cannot overcome or heal in this physical life. That is a lie from the enemy who wants you to live without hope. Psalm 34:18 says Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Psalm 147:3 says He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. Isaiah 41:10 says Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Healing from such deep verbal abuse and mistreatment is a process and it may take time and godly help, but it is possible with God. He can redeem what was broken and give you a future. Jeremiah 29:11 says For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.
We understand you are an only child, have no family of your own, and feel alone and wonder what will become of you and feel you do not have strength to keep going back and forth. Jesus invites you to bring that very weariness to Him. Matthew 11:28 says Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. You do not have to hold yourself up alone. God will hold you up.
We pray together for you now.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ Your Son. We lift up this dear one who has been so wounded by words and control and abandonment. Lord we ask You to reveal Yourself to them as the true Father who loves perfectly and never forsakes. We ask You to break the power of every cruel and untrue word that was spoken over them and to replace those lies with Your truth about who they are in Christ, loved, seen, protected, and valued. Heal their broken heart and bind up their wounds, Lord. Give them strength for each day when they feel they cannot hold up, and uphold them with Your righteous right hand. Show them they are not alone and that You have not abandoned them. Lead them to safe, godly fellowship where they will be loved and protected and not gossiped about, and give them wisdom to set healthy boundaries so they are not taken advantage of again. Give them hope for the future and show them the good plans You have for them. Teach them to trust You more each day and to know You more deeply, and let them feel Your love that casts out fear. We ask this in the precious name of Jesus, amen.
We encourage you to keep bringing your honest heart to God just as you have, to stay in His Word daily even when it is hard to trust, and to seek out one or two mature, biblically grounded believers or a pastor or Christian counselor who will walk with you confidentially and not gossip. You do not need to let people take advantage of you to be loved. God loves you already and He will teach you how to love others while also protecting what He has entrusted to you. You are not lost beyond His reach. Isaiah 43:1 says Don’t be afraid, for I have redeemed you. I have called you by your name. You are mine. Keep calling on Jesus, keep seeking Him, and He will show Himself faithful.
