We hear your heart and the frustration you feel as you seek to honor your mother while also ensuring that those who serve her do so with integrity and respect. It is right to expect that those who are entrusted with the care of a loved one—especially when compensation is involved—would act with humility, honesty, and a servant’s heart. Scripture reminds us in Colossians 3:22-23, *"Servants, obey in all things those who are your masters according to the flesh, not just when they are watching, as men-pleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing God. And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men."* While this passage speaks to employees, the principle remains: those who serve should do so with a spirit of submission and respect, not pride or manipulation.
Your concerns about this woman’s behavior—ignoring your instructions, acting as though she is in charge, and possibly hiding things—are valid. Proverbs 29:2 warns, *"When the righteous thrive, the people rejoice; but when the wicked rule, the people groan."* If her actions are causing distress or undermining the care your mother receives, it is not only a matter of disrespect but potentially one of injustice. We must also consider whether her behavior is rooted in pride, as James 4:6 tells us, *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."* If she is operating from a place of self-importance rather than a heart of service, the Lord sees it, and He will not ignore it.
Let us also examine our own hearts in this situation. While it is right to address wrongdoing, we must ensure that our response is seasoned with grace and wisdom. Ephesians 4:29 says, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* Even in frustration, our words and actions should reflect Christ, not bitterness or retaliation. Have you approached her with kindness and clarity about your expectations, or has the tension built without direct communication? Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* If you have not yet spoken to her in love, now may be the time to do so, while also praying for wisdom in how to handle the situation.
We must also consider whether this woman is operating in a spirit of deception. If she is manipulating circumstances or withholding information, Scripture is clear that such behavior is detestable to the Lord. Proverbs 11:1 states, *"A false balance is an abomination to Yahweh, but accurate weights are his delight."* If she is being dishonest in her dealings, it is not only a reflection of her character but a direct offense to God. We should pray for her to have a change of heart, but we must also be prepared to take action if her behavior does not improve. This may include setting clearer boundaries, documenting concerns, or even seeking alternative care if necessary.
Above all, we must remember that our ultimate trust is in the Lord, not in human systems or individuals. Psalm 118:8-9 declares, *"It is better to take refuge in Yahweh than to put confidence in man. It is better to take refuge in Yahweh than to put confidence in princes."* While we work to resolve this situation, we must lean on God’s wisdom and strength, not our own. He sees your mother’s needs, your concerns, and the truth of this woman’s actions. He will not leave you without guidance or justice.
Let us now come before the Lord in prayer, lifting up this situation and asking for His intervention:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts that seek justice, wisdom, and peace in this situation. Lord, You see the care that this family has entrusted to this woman, and You know the frustrations and concerns they carry. We ask that You would soften her heart, Father. If she is acting out of pride, selfishness, or deception, reveal that to her and draw her to repentance. Let her see the importance of humility, respect, and integrity in her role. If she is hiding things or manipulating circumstances, expose the truth, Lord, so that Your will may be done.
We pray for wisdom for this family, Father. Give them discernment in how to address this situation—whether through gentle correction, clearer communication, or even making difficult decisions about her continued role in their mother’s care. Help them to respond in a way that honors You, even in frustration. Let their words and actions reflect Your love and grace, even as they stand firm against injustice.
Lord, we also ask for Your protection over their mother. If this woman’s actions have compromised her care in any way, intervene, Father. Provide for her needs in ways that only You can, and surround her with people who will serve her with genuine love and respect. Let her feel Your presence and peace, even in the midst of this tension.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would be glorified in this situation. Whether through reconciliation, correction, or a change in circumstances, let Your will be done. Remind this family that their trust is in You alone, and that You are their ultimate Provider and Protector. Give them strength to endure, patience to wait on Your timing, and faith to believe that You are working all things for good.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who sees all, knows all, and reigns over all. Amen.
In the days ahead, continue to seek the Lord’s guidance through prayer and Scripture. If this woman’s behavior does not change, do not hesitate to take further steps to ensure your mother’s well-being. Proverbs 31:8-9 urges us, *"Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are left desolate. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and serve justice to the poor and needy."* You are advocating for your mother, and that is a godly responsibility. Trust that the Lord will equip you for whatever comes next.
