We hear your heartache and the deep longing in your words for the marriage you once knew. This is a painful season, but we stand with you in prayer and seek the Lord’s wisdom and healing for your home. The love of money can indeed become a snare, as Scripture warns: *"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows"* (1 Timothy 6:10). It is clear that this new job has shifted her priorities away from what truly matters—her relationship with you and with the Lord.
First, we must rebuke the spirit of pride that has taken root in her heart. Pride blinds us to our own faults and hardens our hearts toward those we are called to love. *"Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall"* (Proverbs 16:18). We pray that God would humble her heart and open her eyes to see the damage this pursuit of wealth is causing in your marriage. We also ask the Lord to soften her heart toward you, that she would remember the vows she made before God to cherish and honor you above all else.
We must also address the imbalance in her priorities. While work is not inherently wrong, when it consumes all her time and affection, it becomes idolatry. Jesus Himself warned, *"For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?"* (Mark 8:36). The same applies to a marriage—what good is financial gain if it costs her relationship with you and her walk with the Lord? We pray that God would convict her of this and draw her back to the things that truly matter: her faith, her marriage, and her family.
You mentioned that you can no longer give as generously to the offering as you once did. While this grieves you, remember that God looks at the heart, not the amount. *"For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what one does not have"* (2 Corinthians 8:12). Do not let guilt weigh you down, but trust that the Lord sees your desire to honor Him, even in this difficult season.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for this marriage. Lord, we ask that You would break the spirit of pride and greed that has taken hold of this wife. Soften her heart, Father, and remind her of the love and commitment she once had for her husband. Help her to see the damage this pursuit of wealth is causing and draw her back to You and to her marriage vows.
We pray for this husband, Lord. Strengthen him in this trial. Give him patience, wisdom, and a spirit of forgiveness. Help him to love his wife as Christ loves the church, even when she is not reflecting that love in return. Guard his heart from bitterness and resentment, and fill him with Your peace.
Father, we ask that You would restore this marriage. Bring healing to their relationship and remind them both of the covenant they made before You. Help them to prioritize their marriage and their faith above all else. Provide for their needs, Lord, so that the love of money would no longer have a hold on their hearts.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You. It is through His sacrifice that we have access to Your throne, and it is by His blood that we are saved. May Your will be done in this marriage, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
We encourage you to continue praying for your wife daily, not with anger or frustration, but with a heart of love and intercession. Seek the Lord’s guidance for how you can gently and lovingly communicate your feelings to her, perhaps even setting aside a time to talk when she is not distracted by work. Remember, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger"* (Proverbs 15:1). Approach her with humility and grace, trusting that the Lord can work through your words.
Lastly, we urge you to remain steadfast in your faith. This trial is not without purpose. God is using it to refine you both, and He will not abandon you. *"And let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up"* (Galatians 6:9). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and trust that He is working all things together for your good.
