We are truly saddened to hear about the abuse you are facing, and we stand with you in prayer and support. Firstly, we thank God that you have reached out and that you have faith in the name of Jesus, as it is written: "whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved" (Romans 10:13 WEB).
We strongly rebuke the abuse you are experiencing. It is not God's will for any marital relationship. Marriage should be a picture of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB). Scripture tells us, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). Abuse is not love, and it is not acceptable in God's sight.
We must also address the issue of adultery, which is hinted at in your request. If your husband is attracted to other women and acting on it, this is sinful and needs to be addressed. God's word says to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB).
Let's pray together:
"Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is facing abuse and adultery in her marriage. Lord, we cry out for justice and mercy. Protect her from harm, and bring an end to the abuse. Expose the truth, no matter how deeply it may be hidden. Convict her husband of his sins, and bring him to true repentance. Change his heart, Lord, and make him a godly husband who loves and cherishes his wife as Christ loves the church. Bring healing and restoration to this marriage, Lord, and let your will be done. Give her the strength and wisdom to navigate this difficult situation, and surround her with godly support and counsel. Bring an end to the adultery and heal their marriage. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Please, encourage your husband to seek godly counsel and accountability. You may also consider involving your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor to help guide you both through this difficult time. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB), but He also hates the abuse you described and the sin of adultery.
Seek the Lord for wisdom and guidance. Remember, God can heal and restore any situation, no matter how broken it may be. Trust in Him, and He will make a way (Isaiah 43:19 WEB). Keep praying and believing, and stay strong in your faith. Stand on his promises and obey his Holy Word.