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The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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Healed Spirit Soul And Body
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We hear the deep ache in your heart, dear sibling in Christ, and we grieve with you over the loneliness and weariness you carry. The longing for a godly spouse is a beautiful and God-given desire, one that reflects His design for companionship and covenant love. Yet we know this season of waiting has stretched long, and the weight of it feels unbearable at times. Let us first anchor ourselves in the truth of Scripture, for God’s ways are higher than ours, and His timing is perfect—even when it does not align with our own.
The Lord Himself said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."* This was not merely a statement about Adam but a reflection of God’s heart for His people—He created us for relationship, both with Him and with one another. Yet even in our longing, we must trust that His delays are not denials. The Apostle Paul, who also experienced seasons of singleness, wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 about the unique opportunities this time affords: *"I want you to be free from concerns. The unmarried man is concerned for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the married man is concerned for the things of the world, how he may please his wife... I say this for your own benefit; not that I may throw a snare on you, but for that which is appropriate, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."* Could it be that in this season, the Lord is refining your heart, deepening your dependence on Him, or preparing you for a purpose you cannot yet see? We do not say this to minimize your pain, but to remind you that your life is not on hold—God is at work, even now.
Yet we must also ask: Have you sought the Lord not just for a spouse, but for *Himself* as your ultimate satisfaction? Jesus warned in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."* Our deepest need is not for marriage, but for the presence of God. Psalm 73:25-26 declares, *"Whom have I in heaven but you? There is no one on earth whom I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart fails, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever."* If we make an idol of marriage—even unconsciously—it will leave us empty, for no human can fulfill the place only God can occupy. Have you surrendered this desire fully to Him, trusting that His plan for you is good, whether it includes marriage or not?
We also urge you to examine your heart and circumstances with honesty. Are there areas where the Lord may be calling you to prepare differently? Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* But finding a godly spouse requires more than prayer alone—it often requires intentionality. Are you actively engaged in a community of believers where you can meet like-minded men or women of faith? Are you serving in the church, using your gifts, and allowing others to see the Christlike character the Lord has cultivated in you? Or have you withdrawn in bitterness or despair? We gently challenge you: if you have isolated yourself, step out in faith. Join a Bible study, volunteer, or ask trusted believers to pray *with* you and even introduce you to others. The Lord often moves through our obedience, not our passivity.
And what of your own heart’s posture? Have you allowed resentment toward God to take root? The enemy would love to twist your loneliness into anger, whispering that God has forgotten you. But Scripture assures us in Isaiah 49:15-16, *"Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, they may forget, yet I will not forget you! Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands."* Your pain is seen. Your tears are collected (Psalm 56:8). The Lord is not withholding good from you—He is preparing you, and perhaps preparing someone else *for* you.
Lastly, we must address the weariness that threatens to overwhelm you. The psalmist cried out in Psalm 42:9, *"I will ask God, my rock, ‘Why have you forgotten me? Why do I go mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?’"* Yet even in his despair, he preached truth to his soul: *"Why are you in despair, my soul? Why are you disturbed within me? Hope in God! For I shall still praise him for the saving help of his presence."* (Psalm 42:5). This is your battle cry, too. When loneliness feels suffocating, worship. When despair knocks, declare the promises of God over your life. He has not abandoned you.
Now, let us pray over you with the authority and love of Christ:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift our brother/sister before Your throne of grace, where You invite us to find mercy in our time of need. Lord, You see the ache of their heart—the long years of waiting, the nights spent in tears, the fear that this desire will never be fulfilled. We ask You to meet them in this place of raw honesty, for You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Father, if it is Your will, we pray that You would bring a godly spouse into their life—one who loves You above all, who will cherish and honor them as Christ loves the church. Prepare them both, Lord, and let Your timing be perfect. But even as we pray this, we surrender this desire to You, trusting that Your plans are good, even when they look different from our own.
Holy Spirit, guard their heart against bitterness, unbelief, or the lie that they are forgotten. Renew their strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31). Remind them that their worth is not found in marital status but in being Your beloved child. Open doors for community, for godly friendships that reflect Your love. Give them wisdom to steward this season well—to serve You wholeheartedly, to grow in faith, and to prepare for whatever future You have ordained.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of loneliness and despair that seeks to steal their joy and peace. We declare that You are their portion, their comfort, and their ever-present help (Psalm 46:1). Fill the empty places in their heart with more of Yourself. Let them taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8), even in the waiting.
And finally, Father, if there is any sin—unforgiveness, idolatry of marriage, or withdrawal from Your people—convict them gently and lead them to repentance. Restore their hope, their joy, and their trust in You.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and our Hope. Amen."*
Beloved, do not lose heart. The God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Lazarus from the dead, and who conquered the grave is the same God who holds your future. He is not deaf to your prayers. Keep seeking Him. Keep trusting. And know that we are standing with you in this fight for faith. You are not alone—you are *seen*, you are *loved*, and your story is not over. The Lord is writing something beautiful, even now. Hold on to Him.
The Lord Himself said in Genesis 2:18, *"It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."* This was not merely a statement about Adam but a reflection of God’s heart for His people—He created us for relationship, both with Him and with one another. Yet even in our longing, we must trust that His delays are not denials. The Apostle Paul, who also experienced seasons of singleness, wrote in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 about the unique opportunities this time affords: *"I want you to be free from concerns. The unmarried man is concerned for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the married man is concerned for the things of the world, how he may please his wife... I say this for your own benefit; not that I may throw a snare on you, but for that which is appropriate, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction."* Could it be that in this season, the Lord is refining your heart, deepening your dependence on Him, or preparing you for a purpose you cannot yet see? We do not say this to minimize your pain, but to remind you that your life is not on hold—God is at work, even now.
Yet we must also ask: Have you sought the Lord not just for a spouse, but for *Himself* as your ultimate satisfaction? Jesus warned in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."* Our deepest need is not for marriage, but for the presence of God. Psalm 73:25-26 declares, *"Whom have I in heaven but you? There is no one on earth whom I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart fails, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever."* If we make an idol of marriage—even unconsciously—it will leave us empty, for no human can fulfill the place only God can occupy. Have you surrendered this desire fully to Him, trusting that His plan for you is good, whether it includes marriage or not?
We also urge you to examine your heart and circumstances with honesty. Are there areas where the Lord may be calling you to prepare differently? Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* But finding a godly spouse requires more than prayer alone—it often requires intentionality. Are you actively engaged in a community of believers where you can meet like-minded men or women of faith? Are you serving in the church, using your gifts, and allowing others to see the Christlike character the Lord has cultivated in you? Or have you withdrawn in bitterness or despair? We gently challenge you: if you have isolated yourself, step out in faith. Join a Bible study, volunteer, or ask trusted believers to pray *with* you and even introduce you to others. The Lord often moves through our obedience, not our passivity.
And what of your own heart’s posture? Have you allowed resentment toward God to take root? The enemy would love to twist your loneliness into anger, whispering that God has forgotten you. But Scripture assures us in Isaiah 49:15-16, *"Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, they may forget, yet I will not forget you! Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands."* Your pain is seen. Your tears are collected (Psalm 56:8). The Lord is not withholding good from you—He is preparing you, and perhaps preparing someone else *for* you.
Lastly, we must address the weariness that threatens to overwhelm you. The psalmist cried out in Psalm 42:9, *"I will ask God, my rock, ‘Why have you forgotten me? Why do I go mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?’"* Yet even in his despair, he preached truth to his soul: *"Why are you in despair, my soul? Why are you disturbed within me? Hope in God! For I shall still praise him for the saving help of his presence."* (Psalm 42:5). This is your battle cry, too. When loneliness feels suffocating, worship. When despair knocks, declare the promises of God over your life. He has not abandoned you.
Now, let us pray over you with the authority and love of Christ:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift our brother/sister before Your throne of grace, where You invite us to find mercy in our time of need. Lord, You see the ache of their heart—the long years of waiting, the nights spent in tears, the fear that this desire will never be fulfilled. We ask You to meet them in this place of raw honesty, for You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Father, if it is Your will, we pray that You would bring a godly spouse into their life—one who loves You above all, who will cherish and honor them as Christ loves the church. Prepare them both, Lord, and let Your timing be perfect. But even as we pray this, we surrender this desire to You, trusting that Your plans are good, even when they look different from our own.
Holy Spirit, guard their heart against bitterness, unbelief, or the lie that they are forgotten. Renew their strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31). Remind them that their worth is not found in marital status but in being Your beloved child. Open doors for community, for godly friendships that reflect Your love. Give them wisdom to steward this season well—to serve You wholeheartedly, to grow in faith, and to prepare for whatever future You have ordained.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of loneliness and despair that seeks to steal their joy and peace. We declare that You are their portion, their comfort, and their ever-present help (Psalm 46:1). Fill the empty places in their heart with more of Yourself. Let them taste and see that You are good (Psalm 34:8), even in the waiting.
And finally, Father, if there is any sin—unforgiveness, idolatry of marriage, or withdrawal from Your people—convict them gently and lead them to repentance. Restore their hope, their joy, and their trust in You.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and our Hope. Amen."*
Beloved, do not lose heart. The God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Lazarus from the dead, and who conquered the grave is the same God who holds your future. He is not deaf to your prayers. Keep seeking Him. Keep trusting. And know that we are standing with you in this fight for faith. You are not alone—you are *seen*, you are *loved*, and your story is not over. The Lord is writing something beautiful, even now. Hold on to Him.
Dear friend, we've been praying for you, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid. It's okay to feel lonely, weary, and even frustrated. God sees you, and He cares deeply about what you're going through.
We want to encourage you to keep your focus on Jesus. He is the one who promised to never leave or forsake you. In Matthew 11:28-29, Jesus says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul." Jesus is inviting you to come to Him, to rest in Him, and to learn from Him.
We also want to remind you that God has a purpose in this season of waiting. He is not punishing you or ignoring you. He is working in you and around you, even when you can't see it. As it says in Romans 5:3-4, "Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope." So, even in your loneliness and weariness, you can trust that God is using this time to shape you and grow your character.
Please keep seeking God, keep trusting Him, and keep sharing your heart with Him. He is listening, and He cares. And remember, you're not alone. We're here praying with you, and we believe that God is going to do something beautiful in your life. Keep holding on to Him.
We want to encourage you to keep your focus on Jesus. He is the one who promised to never leave or forsake you. In Matthew 11:28-29, Jesus says, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul." Jesus is inviting you to come to Him, to rest in Him, and to learn from Him.
We also want to remind you that God has a purpose in this season of waiting. He is not punishing you or ignoring you. He is working in you and around you, even when you can't see it. As it says in Romans 5:3-4, "Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope." So, even in your loneliness and weariness, you can trust that God is using this time to shape you and grow your character.
Please keep seeking God, keep trusting Him, and keep sharing your heart with Him. He is listening, and He cares. And remember, you're not alone. We're here praying with you, and we believe that God is going to do something beautiful in your life. Keep holding on to Him.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
We want to thank you for allowing us the sacred privilege of lifting your heart before the Lord these past few days. Your honesty in sharing this deep longing for companionship—and the weariness that comes with waiting—has moved us to pray with even greater earnestness on your behalf. We know this season of loneliness has stretched on far longer than you ever imagined, and the weight of unanswered prayer can feel unbearable at times. But we want you to know we are still standing with you in faith, believing that God sees your tears, hears your cries, and is working in ways we cannot yet perceive.
If the Lord has brought even a glimmer of hope, a moment of peace, or a reminder of His presence in this time, we would love for you to share it with us as a praise report—no matter how small it may seem. Sometimes His answers come in gentle whispers before the breakthrough arrives. And if the silence still feels heavy and the burden remains, we invite you to post your request again so we can continue to surround you in prayer, speaking life and trust over your heart. You are not forgotten by God, nor are you forgotten by us.
We are praying specifically that the Lord would meet you in the loneliness, that He would renew your strength for each new day, and that He would prepare you—and the heart of the spouse you’ve longed for—according to His perfect timing. May He flood you with His comfort and reveal Himself as your closest Companion in this season. Do not lose heart, dear sibling in Christ. We are contending for you, believing that the One who formed you in your mother’s womb has not abandoned His good plans for your life.
May you sense His nearness in fresh ways as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus. We are here with you, and we are not letting go. In Jesus’ name.
If the Lord has brought even a glimmer of hope, a moment of peace, or a reminder of His presence in this time, we would love for you to share it with us as a praise report—no matter how small it may seem. Sometimes His answers come in gentle whispers before the breakthrough arrives. And if the silence still feels heavy and the burden remains, we invite you to post your request again so we can continue to surround you in prayer, speaking life and trust over your heart. You are not forgotten by God, nor are you forgotten by us.
We are praying specifically that the Lord would meet you in the loneliness, that He would renew your strength for each new day, and that He would prepare you—and the heart of the spouse you’ve longed for—according to His perfect timing. May He flood you with His comfort and reveal Himself as your closest Companion in this season. Do not lose heart, dear sibling in Christ. We are contending for you, believing that the One who formed you in your mother’s womb has not abandoned His good plans for your life.
May you sense His nearness in fresh ways as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus. We are here with you, and we are not letting go. In Jesus’ name.
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