We must address several serious concerns in your situation with love, truth, and urgency, for your spiritual well-being and alignment with God’s Word. The path you are on is fraught with dangers—emotionally, spiritually, and physically—and it does not honor the Lord in any way. Let us first turn to Scripture to shine light on these matters, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
You mention having multiple "online boyfriends," engaging in financial transactions with them, and a local relationship that is primarily sexual. This is not courtship; it is sin. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). What you describe with the local man is fornication, which is a grievous sin against God and against your own body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit. You must repent of this immediately. Flee from sexual immorality, for it has no place in the life of a believer (1 Corinthians 6:18). Additionally, giving money to men you barely know—especially online—is unwise and opens the door to exploitation, deception, and further sin. Proverbs 14:15 warns, "The simple believe everything, but the prudent give thought to their steps." These relationships are built on unstable foundations, and the enemy is using them to distract you from God’s best for your life.
You also mention being divorced and desiring to remarry soon. We must ask: have you sought God’s healing and restoration in the aftermath of your divorce? Divorce is a painful and complex issue, and Scripture teaches that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) because it breaks the covenant He intended to be lifelong. If your divorce was not due to biblical grounds (such as unfaithfulness or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse, as outlined in Matthew 19:9 and 1 Corinthians 7:15), we urge you to seek repentance and counseling to understand God’s heart on this matter. Remarriage should only be pursued if it aligns with Scripture and if you are walking in obedience to Christ, not out of loneliness or desperation.
Now, let us address the men in your life. None of these relationships reflect godly courtship. A godly man will not ask for money, especially from a woman he is not married to. This is a red flag for manipulation and greed. The fact that one of these men claims to be "the most Godly" yet is accepting your money and has not followed through on visiting you for weeks is a sign of his lack of integrity. A man of God will pursue you with honor, transparency, and a commitment to purity. He will not hide behind screens or make excuses. As for the local man, his occasional church attendance does not justify or sanctify the sexual sin between you. True faith produces fruit (Matthew 7:16), and his actions do not reflect a life submitted to Christ.
You say you want to get married soon, but marriage is not the solution to loneliness or insecurity. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and it must be entered into with wisdom, prayer, and alignment with His will. You cannot build a godly marriage on the foundation of sin, deception, or financial exploitation. We strongly urge you to step away from all of these relationships immediately. Cut off contact with these men, repent of the sin in your life, and seek the Lord with all your heart. He is the only One who can satisfy your deepest longings and heal your brokenness.
Let us turn to Scripture for clarity and hope. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Right now, you are leaning on your own understanding, and it is leading you into danger. Surrender this to God. Seek His will above your own desires. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship does righteousness have with unrighteousness? What communion does light have with darkness?" If these men were truly godly, they would not be engaging in or enabling the behaviors you’ve described.
We also notice that your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. This is deeply concerning, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we implore you to do so now. Confess your sins, turn away from them, and place your faith in Jesus alone for salvation. Romans 10:9 says, "that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." Without Christ, there is no foundation for a godly marriage or a life that pleases God.
Now, let us pray for you with urgency and love:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this precious sister, who is lost in a web of deception, sin, and confusion. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to the dangers she is facing and convict her heart of the need for repentance. Father, break the chains of sexual immorality, financial exploitation, and emotional bondage that have ensnared her. Draw her to Yourself, Lord Jesus, and let her find her worth and satisfaction in You alone.
We rebuke the schemes of the enemy in her life—schemes to distort her view of love, marriage, and godly relationships. Lord, expose every lie she has believed and replace it with Your truth. Help her to see that these relationships are not from You and that they will only lead to more pain and brokenness. Give her the strength to cut off all contact with these men and to turn away from sin.
Father, if she has not yet surrendered her life to You, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Let her confess Jesus as Lord and believe in her heart that You raised Him from the dead. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit and give her a new heart, one that desires to walk in purity and obedience to Your Word.
We ask for godly counselors and mentors to come into her life—women who will speak Your truth in love and guide her toward healing and wholeness. Lord, restore her heart and mind. Heal the wounds from her past, including her divorce, and show her the beauty of Your design for marriage. Let her wait on You, trusting that Your timing is perfect and Your plans for her are good.
Father, we pray that You would provide for her needs in ways that bring You glory. If she has been giving money out of loneliness or a desire for love, fill that void with Your presence. Let her find her security in You, not in the empty promises of men.
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You, Lord, will lead her beside still waters and restore her soul (Psalm 23:2-3). Give her a spirit of discernment and wisdom to recognize godly men if and when the time comes for courtship. But first, Lord, let her be wholly Yours.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to take these words to heart. The path you are on is not God’s will for you, but there is hope and redemption in Christ. Turn to Him today. Seek a local, Bible-believing church where you can find accountability, discipleship, and healing. Remove yourself from these sinful relationships and ask God to renew your mind (Romans 12:2). He loves you deeply and desires to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). But that future begins with repentance and surrender to Him. May God give you the courage to walk in obedience to His Word. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
