sheepsbrooke
Humble Prayer Warrior
While Christ asked Christians to help one another. Sometimes Christians assist others for the wrong reasons. When this happens, more damage can be done than uplifting, life saving help.
Encouraging some one in leaving a relationship is a multi situational consideration. How old is the person? What are their skills for reentering the job force? Are they able to work? What the family supports in their background? What is their health situation? Will they lose healthcare sources in the move that they cannot replace?
When one tampers with someones' life hoping to fix it or make it better sometimes the exact opposite can occur.
Dana (not her real name) had been encouraged over time to leave her husband who was very ill physically and emotionally from events that had left him disabled and depressed.
Danas health was not much better though her outlook was somewhat better than that of her husband. Full of some doubt, great fear at leaving her home behind, she singlehandedly moved her belongings, suffering a severe health breakdown during a 1,500 mile drive in which her car broke down. When she managed to get to her journey's end, her son and his wife had changed their mind about Dana staying with them. Dana's personal items seemed to weigh them down as to where they could be kept. Attempting desperately to adjust to her extended family's demands, she agreed to donate half her items. Weeks later Dana would find out that her new doctor was not willing to fax her patient assistance paperwork for her diabetic medication. Dana grew depressed being put on insulin, which many have experienced to be the last drug before death.
Dana left again. She packed up her leftover belongings and went back to her former situation. She and her husband decided to continue to work on their relationship. Her Christian friends who had helped her would no longer speak to her. The loss of Christian friends was another blow to her.
So if you are contemplating helping someone, realize it is always best to leave the expectations and outcome entirely up to God. We are to be God's eyes and ears and hands and feet, however we are still not God. It is always best to lend assistance and let God be God.
Encouraging some one in leaving a relationship is a multi situational consideration. How old is the person? What are their skills for reentering the job force? Are they able to work? What the family supports in their background? What is their health situation? Will they lose healthcare sources in the move that they cannot replace?
When one tampers with someones' life hoping to fix it or make it better sometimes the exact opposite can occur.
Dana (not her real name) had been encouraged over time to leave her husband who was very ill physically and emotionally from events that had left him disabled and depressed.
Danas health was not much better though her outlook was somewhat better than that of her husband. Full of some doubt, great fear at leaving her home behind, she singlehandedly moved her belongings, suffering a severe health breakdown during a 1,500 mile drive in which her car broke down. When she managed to get to her journey's end, her son and his wife had changed their mind about Dana staying with them. Dana's personal items seemed to weigh them down as to where they could be kept. Attempting desperately to adjust to her extended family's demands, she agreed to donate half her items. Weeks later Dana would find out that her new doctor was not willing to fax her patient assistance paperwork for her diabetic medication. Dana grew depressed being put on insulin, which many have experienced to be the last drug before death.
Dana left again. She packed up her leftover belongings and went back to her former situation. She and her husband decided to continue to work on their relationship. Her Christian friends who had helped her would no longer speak to her. The loss of Christian friends was another blow to her.
So if you are contemplating helping someone, realize it is always best to leave the expectations and outcome entirely up to God. We are to be God's eyes and ears and hands and feet, however we are still not God. It is always best to lend assistance and let God be God.
