🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort, Isa 40:1-2; Tenderly, Hos 2:14

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, I'd like what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11, Thank You and you all in Jesus' Name.

I need to know what to say and how to say it, John 12:49. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11 I know You will not give up on my wife -- Don’t allow me to give up on the one I love and am ready and willing to forgive... But without confession we can only go so far -- even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who CAME to HIM and SAYS, I REPENT -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You, let me speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-2, 3-4, 5-6, 7-8, 9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-7, 8-9, 10-11, 11-12, 13-14.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- remove any and ALL unforgiveness and forgive me for harboring any -- again I'm still being lied to and nothing's been confessed and repented of... Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:4, repentance isn't optional, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth, John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," in Jesus' Name.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart’s cry, brother, and we stand with you in fervent prayer before the throne of grace. Your desire to speak truth in love, to honor God in your marriage, and to see your wife come to repentance and faith is deeply aligned with Scripture. Let us first affirm the godly longing in your request—your commitment to forgiveness, your willingness to serve even when sinned against, and your hunger for righteousness. These are marks of a man after God’s own heart.

Yet we must also address areas where the enemy seeks to distort truth or where human frailty may cloud godly judgment. You ask for wisdom in *what* to say and *how* to say it, and Scripture is clear: *"The Lord God has given me the tongue of those who are taught, that I may know how to sustain with a word him who is weary"* (Isaiah 50:4 WEB). Jesus Himself did not speak on His own authority but only what the Father commanded (John 12:49), and we must do the same. This means our words must be seasoned with grace (Colossians 4:6), spoken in humility (Ephesians 4:2), and rooted in love (1 Corinthians 16:14). But love does not mean silence when sin is present. You rightly note that confession and repentance are essential—*"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB). Yet we must also remember that God alone convicts hearts (John 16:8), and our role is to speak truth in love, not to demand repentance on our timeline.

Your marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). You are called to love your wife as Christ loved the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart for her holiness. But this does not mean enabling sin or tolerating unrepentant rebellion. You mention her lack of respect, and Scripture is clear: *"Let the wife see that she respects her husband"* (Ephesians 5:33 WEB). Yet even in this, your response must be Christlike—gentle, patient, and full of grace. You are right to model the behavior described in 1 Peter 3:1-7, where wives are won over not by words alone but by the godly conduct of their husbands. But we must also caution against passivity. Love does not mean silence when sin is present, nor does it mean enduring abuse or manipulation. You are called to speak truth, but you are also called to set boundaries where necessary, always with the goal of restoration.

You express a burden for fasting, and this is a powerful spiritual discipline. *"Isn’t this the fast that I have chosen: to release the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and that you break every yoke?"* (Isaiah 58:6 WEB). Fasting is not about earning God’s favor but aligning our hearts with His will. As you fast, ask God to reveal any areas of bitterness, unforgiveness, or pride in your own heart. You mention being sinned against "a lot," and while your desire for justice is understandable, we must guard against a root of bitterness (Hebrews 12:15). Forgiveness does not mean excusing sin, but it does mean releasing the offender to God’s justice and trusting Him to work all things for good (Romans 8:28).

We must also address the reality of spiritual warfare in your situation. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, and he will use lies, deception, and division to do so. You are right to pray for protection from the evil one (Matthew 6:13) and to stand firm in the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18). But we must also be vigilant against the enemy’s tactics in our own hearts—pride, self-righteousness, or a desire for control. Your wife’s salvation is ultimately in God’s hands, but your faithfulness to love her as Christ loves the Church is a powerful testimony.

Let us pray with you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this brother and his marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the confusion, and the longing in his heart. We ask that You would grant him the wisdom of Solomon, the patience of Job, and the love of Christ as he seeks to honor You in his marriage. Father, we pray for his wife—that You would soften her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to repentance. We ask that You would break every chain of deception, pride, and rebellion in her life, and that she would come to know You as her Savior and Lord.

Lord, we pray for this brother’s words. May they be like apples of gold in settings of silver—timely, gracious, and full of truth. Give him the courage to speak when he must and the wisdom to remain silent when needed. Guard his heart against bitterness, unforgiveness, or self-righteousness. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may love his wife as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart for her holiness.

Father, we ask that You would strengthen this marriage. Where there is brokenness, bring healing. Where there is division, bring unity. Where there is sin, bring repentance. We pray for their child—that You would protect this little one’s heart and use this situation for their good. Lord, we ask that You would surround this family with godly counsel, wise mentors, and faithful friends who will uphold them in prayer.

We pray for the extended family as well. Where there is strife, bring peace. Where there is deception, bring truth. Where there is hardness of heart, bring conviction. Lord, we ask that You would use this situation to draw many to Yourself. May this brother’s faithfulness be a testimony to Your grace and power.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would sanctify this brother and his family. Set them apart for Your purposes. Use their story to bring glory to Your name. And may they one day stand before You, whole and restored, giving You all the praise.

We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who died to redeem us and lives to intercede for us. Amen.

Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and fasting. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to wash over you and renew your mind. Seek godly counsel from pastors or mature believers who can walk alongside you in this season. And remember, your faithfulness is not in vain. Even if your wife never repents, your obedience to Christ is a fragrant offering to Him. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of your faith, and trust Him to work all things together for good. *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up"* (Galatians 6:9 WEB). You are not alone in this battle. We stand with you, and more importantly, Christ stands with you. Keep fighting the good fight of faith.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear your heart's cry, brother. We're here with you, praying fervently for your marriage. You desire to speak truth in love, honor God in your marriage, and see your wife come to repentance and faith. These are godly longings, aligned with Scripture. Here's how we can pray and support you:

1. **Wisdom in Words**: You seek wisdom in what and how to say things. Remember, Jesus said, "The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor." (Luke 4:18-19, NIV). Let the Spirit guide your words, and may they be seasoned with grace, spoken in humility, and rooted in love (Colossians 4:6, Ephesians 4:2, 1 Corinthians 16:14).

2. **Patience and Persistence**: Patience is key in winning your wife's heart. As it says in Proverbs 14:29, "Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly." Keep speaking truth in love, and trust that God's Word will not return void (Isaiah 55:11).

3. **Boundaries**: While you're called to love and serve, remember to set boundaries where necessary. As it says in 1 Corinthians 7:15, "But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace." Always, however, keep the goal of restoration in mind.

4. **Fasting and Prayer**: You express a burden for fasting. This is a powerful spiritual discipline. As you fast, ask God to reveal any areas of bitterness, unforgiveness, or pride in your own heart. Forgive as you have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32), and trust God to work all things together for good (Romans 8:28).

5. **Trust God**: Remember, your wife's salvation is ultimately in God's hands. Your faithfulness to love her as Christ loves the Church is a powerful testimony. Trust that God is at work, even when you can't see it.

Let's pray together:

*Dear Lord, we come to You today, lifting up our ### and his marriage. Lord, we ask for wisdom in his words, that they may be like apples of gold in settings of silver. Give him the courage to speak when he must and the wisdom to remain silent when needed. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may love his wife as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and with a heart for her holiness.*

*Lord, we pray for his wife. Soft her heart, convict her of sin, and draw her to repentance. Break every chain of deception, pride, and rebellion in her life. We ask that she would come to know You as her Savior and Lord.*

*Lord, strengthen this marriage. Where there is brokenness, bring healing. Where there is division, bring unity. Where there is sin, bring repentance. Protect their child's heart and use this situation for their good. Surround this family with godly counsel, wise mentors, and faithful friends who will uphold them in prayer.*

*Lord, we ask for the extended family as well. Where there is strife, bring peace. Where there is deception, bring truth. Where there is hardness of heart, bring conviction. Use this situation to draw many to Yourself. May this ###'s faithfulness be a testimony to Your grace and power.*

*In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.*

###, keep seeking the Lord in prayer and fasting. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to wash over you and renew your mind. Seek godly counsel from pastors or mature believers who can walk alongside you in this season. Trust that even if your wife never repents, your obedience to Christ is a fragrant offering to Him. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and trust Him to work all things together for good. You are not alone in this battle. We stand with you, and more importantly, Christ stands with you. Keep fighting the good fight of faith.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body​

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

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[Nasetheamb]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings, healing, and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”

 

[His Daughter]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.