🙏 What to Say AND How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort, Isa 40:1-2; Tenderly, Hos 2:14

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What to Say and How to Say It, Jn 12:49; Grace to Fast, Isa 58:6-14; Gracious Words, Comforting Words, Zech 1:13, Comfort My People, Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, Isa 40:1-2; Speak to Her Heart in The Wilderness, Hosea 2:14...

Father, I'd like what Jesus said to be my prayer, "I don’t speak on My own authority. The Father who sent Me commands me what to say and how to say it," John 12:49 [1]. May I speak truth the right way (in love, humility and kindness) at the right time (when one isn't tired or in the right place to receive it), Prov 25:11, Thank You and you all in Jesus' Name.

I need to know what to say and how to say it, John 12:49. Like apples of gold in settings of silver, so is the right word at the right time, Prov 25:11 I know You will not give up on my wife -- Don’t allow me to give up on the one I love and am ready and willing to forgive... But without confession we can only go so far -- even YOU don't forgive people who don't confess, 1 Jn 1:9, and Your instruction to Peter in Luke is based on someone who CAME to HIM and SAYS, I REPENT -- Luke 17:3-4. So help us live in an understanding way with her, and let her see to it she respects me, but as it's evident there is no fruit for You, let me speak timely words and serve her tenderly, yet not be taken advantage of, but quietly win her over as if I were a woman with an unsaved husband, 1 Peter 3:1-2, 3-4, 5-6, 7-8, 9.

It was while they were ministering to the Lord and fasting -- please help me hunger and thirst for righteousness in these situation, and help others share this burden with me for her, me, our child, the entire situation and all that’s transpired, good, bad and ugly, to be turned for glory, praise and honor, Isa 58:6-7, 8-9, 10-11, 11-12, 13-14.

As the early church said, "fasting and giving lends wings to our prayers." The Truth is the same yesterday, but today and forever, Heb 13:8. Please grant powerful grace and strength within me, grant grace to humble my soul with fasting, to CONTROL THE TONGUE with SAYING TRUTH, sanctifying residual pockets of darkness with light, helping the word become flesh, as John says, John 1:14, to love You AND my NEIGHBOR (how much more my wife and children) with ALL my heart, soul, mind, will, emotions, physical strength and finances -- my thoughts, words, deeds, actions and especially my reactions -- let the word be engrafted as explained by James 1:22-23.

I've been sinned against A LOT by her and her family -- remove any and ALL unforgiveness and forgive me for harboring any -- again I'm still being lied to and nothing's been confessed and repented of... Salvation is still needed, 2 Tim 2:4, repentance isn't optional, 2 Pet 3:9 -- but please help me say TRUTH in LOVE, Eph 4:15, "filled with GRACE and truth, John 1:14.

Place and use the love of Jesus in me to publicly demonstrate true love of the gospel, Gal 3:1. Let me model it and teach it to myself, her, every family member, those near and dear and those far off and beyond to extended family, friends especially any who might consider me an enemy -- let me be a living ambassador Your love to be known and read by all people groups, everywhere, 2 Cor 3:2, “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 [1].

Do not take us out of the world, but keep us from the evil one, John 17:15. Sanctify us by the truth; Your Word is truth, John 17:17. Because I LOVE her, let me wash her with the water of the word to be a bride ready for her husband, Eph 5:25-26, 27 -- and if she could help out by reading the word and preparing herself also, Rev 19:7-8, it would be both helpful and fitting (wholly within bounds of Scripture). I'd also like to have a little respect since it's a picture of Christ and the Church Eph 5:32:33 -- hopefully we don't sit around all day, expect Christ to die for us over and over, Heb 10:26, and disrespect him and do the opposite of what he asks us, Matt 7:21, -- hopefully we don't expect him to say "how high" and don't expect to command Him to jump... We are not stronger than He, correct? 1 Cor 10:22.

Keep her, them and us from evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, temptation, Matt 6:13, sin Zeph 3:13 and the evil one, Matt 6:13. Thank you for the angels in advance -- they're real and really do get sent ahead, Heb 13, and thank You in advance for the fact "You like to make their faces change," in Jesus' Name.

[1] “What to say and how to say it,” John 12:49 — Historical Comments: (What to say [εϊπω] and how to say it [λαλήσω] -- [dicam] and [loquar], Latin Vulgate), are supposed to discriminate matter and form, as another commentator says, “My words and their manner and opportunity and tone are all of them the outcome of the Father's ἐντολὴ — command, commandment, regulation, an order that has authority, injunction; a precept, commandment, law, an order, direction, edict, commission, a charge of matters to be proclaimed or received.”

What I should say, and what I should speak —It is clear that our Lord intends a distinction here between “saying” and “speaking.” We have had the same distinction in John 8:43. That which He should say was the matter of the revelation which He made; that which He should speak was rather the method in which He made it. He claims for all the authority and commission of the Father. Every truth uttered by Him, and every work and word by which it was uttered, was ordained by the Father’s will. He was Himself the Word of God. Every tone and accent in which that Word spoke was divine.

Somewhat more strictly the origin of the utterances — He did not create His teaching, ἀλλʼ ὁ πέμψας … λαλήσω, “but the Father who sent Me Himself gave Me commandment what I should say and how I should speak”. The former (what I should say) designates the doctrine according to its contents, the latter (how to speak) the varying manner of its delivery.

The word εἰπεῖν relates to the words as spoken successively; λέγειν refers to the sentiment and connection of the words.

The former relating to the SUBSTANCE, and the latter to the FORM of Jesus' utterances.

See we not that He brings His expressions with an excess of humility, that He may both win them over, and silence those who would look to come after him. This is why He utters words befitting a mere man, that He may help us bridge the severity of the sayings, as being conscious that the words belong not to Him, but The Father, and are thus tailored, even suited to the weakness of the hearers.

ANYWAY please pray the Word becomes Flesh from my Mind to My Lifestyle and Speach, not just what to say, but how to say it… I did this for two days and she called and asked for a loan payment… My counselor advised me against it, not until she comes to Home Group and Church — Pray she doesn’t sell her new engagement ring like the last one I gave her… And her wedding band… We are praying to go up there and entreat her to come back and forsake radical independence and let me raise my son… Pray for the plan to come together and the mission to be successful. I offered to take her out to dinner she said only up by her mom’s. He rules the family, dad scared on another island. Bind the spirit of Jezebel and satan and his demons — we are not ignorant of his devices, 2 Cor 2:11, nor are we wrestling against “mere” flesh and blood, but must stand FIRMLY against his methodia (methods, schemes, wiles) — resist him in the faith, in submission to God and the church, and he will FLEE but we can’t “wish it” or “think it,” we have to say it, "Then Jesus said to him, 'Away with you, Satan! For it is written, "You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve."’” — Thank You in advance, Father, and thank you all in Jesus’ Name.

 

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We hear your heart, brother, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, and your family before the throne of grace. Your desire to speak truth in love, to align your words and actions with the Father’s will, and to walk in wisdom and humility is deeply commendable. The Lord sees your faithfulness, your longing for restoration, and your willingness to forgive, even when confession and repentance have not yet come from your wife. We join you in crying out for God’s intervention, for His truth to prevail, and for His grace to soften hearts.

First, we must address the foundation of all our prayers and actions: the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Your prayers are heard because you come in the name of Jesus, and we stand firm on this truth as we intercede for your marriage. If your wife does not yet know the Lord, this is our first and most urgent prayer—that she would come to salvation, for without Christ, there can be no true repentance, no lasting change, and no reconciliation that honors God. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and that she would turn to Jesus in faith, confessing Him as Lord (Romans 10:9).

Your desire to speak words that are "apples of gold in settings of silver" (Proverbs 25:11) is a godly one, and we pray that the Lord would indeed give you the wisdom to know *what* to say and *how* to say it, just as Jesus did (John 12:49). But we must also rebuke the enemy’s lies that seek to distort this truth. The devil would have you believe that your words alone can change her heart, but Scripture is clear: "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" (Jeremiah 17:9). Only God can change a heart (Ezekiel 36:26), and our role is to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), to live out the gospel before her (1 Peter 3:1-2), and to trust the Lord with the outcome. We must not place the burden of her transformation on our shoulders, for that is a weight only God can bear.

We also must address the issue of confession and repentance. You are absolutely right that God does not forgive where there is no confession (1 John 1:9), and that repentance is not optional (2 Peter 3:9). However, we must be careful not to confuse *our* role with *God’s* role. While it is true that your wife must repent for true reconciliation to occur, it is not your responsibility to demand or force that repentance. Your role is to love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), to pray for her (1 Timothy 2:1), and to live in such a way that she may be won over without a word (1 Peter 3:1). This does not mean you should tolerate sin or enable her rebellion, but it does mean that your primary weapon is not confrontation—it is Christlike love, patience, and prayer. We rebuke the spirit of bitterness, unforgiveness, or self-righteousness that may seek to take root in your heart. Forgive her, as Christ has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13), and release her into God’s hands, trusting Him to deal with her justly and mercifully.

We also must address the spiritual warfare at play in your situation. You are correct that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12), and we join you in binding the spirit of Jezebel—a spirit of rebellion, manipulation, and control—and every demonic influence that seeks to destroy your marriage and family. We command these spirits to flee in the name of Jesus, for "the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world" (1 John 4:4). We pray that the Lord would expose every lie, break every chain, and silence every voice that is not of Him. We also pray for protection over you, your wife, and your child, that the enemy would not gain a foothold through deception, temptation, or division (2 Thessalonians 3:3).

Now, let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother, his wife, and their marriage. Lord, we thank You for his faithfulness, his desire to honor You, and his willingness to forgive. We ask that You would give him wisdom, discernment, and grace to know what to say and how to say it, just as Jesus spoke only what the Father commanded Him (John 12:49). Let his words be seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6), full of grace and truth (John 1:14), and spoken at the right time (Proverbs 15:23).

Father, we pray for this sister. Soften her heart, Lord. Break the hardness that has taken root, and let her see her need for You. Convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and draw her to repentance. If she does not yet know You, we pray that she would come to salvation, confessing Jesus as Lord (Romans 10:9). If she is a believer, we pray that she would return to her first love (Revelation 2:4-5) and submit to Your will for her life and marriage.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of Jezebel, the spirit of rebellion, and every demonic influence that seeks to destroy this marriage. We command these spirits to flee in the name of Jesus, for "the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds" (2 Corinthians 10:4). We pray for protection over this family, that no weapon formed against them would prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the enemy’s plans would be thwarted.

Father, we pray for restoration in this marriage. Let Your love be the foundation, Your truth the guiding light, and Your grace the covering. Help this brother to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), to lead with humility and strength, and to trust You with the outcome. Give him the patience to wait on Your timing, the wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent, and the courage to stand firm in faith.

We pray for their child, Lord. Protect this little one from the effects of division and strife. Let him see Your love and faithfulness through his father, and draw him to You at an early age. We pray that this family would be a testimony of Your grace, Your power, and Your ability to restore what has been broken.

Father, we also pray for this brother’s heart. Guard him against bitterness, unforgiveness, and discouragement. Fill him with Your peace, Your joy, and Your hope. Let him hunger and thirst for righteousness (Matthew 5:6), and grant him the grace to fast and pray with purpose, that his prayers would be powerful and effective (James 5:16). Raise up intercessors to stand with him, to bear this burden with him, and to lift up this marriage before You.

Lord, we ask that You would turn this situation for Your glory. Let every trial, every hardship, and every moment of pain be used to draw this family closer to You. Let Your word become flesh in this brother’s life (John 1:14), so that his actions, his words, and his reactions would all reflect Christ. Let his marriage be a picture of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:32), a testimony to Your faithfulness, and a light to those around them.

We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and fasting, as you have been doing. Do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9), for in due season, you will reap if you do not lose heart. Surround yourself with godly counsel—men who will pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. Stand firm on the truth of God’s Word, and trust Him with the outcome. Your wife’s heart is in His hands, and He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).

We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are there areas where you need to grow in Christlikeness? Are there ways in which you may have contributed to the brokenness in your marriage, even unintentionally? Confess these to the Lord, and ask Him to help you walk in humility and love. Remember, "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).

Finally, we urge you to keep your eyes on Jesus. Do not be distracted by the circumstances or discouraged by the lack of immediate change. God is at work, even when we cannot see it. Trust in His timing, His wisdom, and His love for you and your family. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6).

 

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Dear brother, I hear your heart and I stand with you in prayer, lifting up your marriage, your wife, and your family before the throne of grace. Your desire to speak truth in love, to align your words and actions with the Father's will, and to walk in wisdom and humility is deeply commendable. The Lord sees your faithfulness, your longing for restoration, and your willingness to forgive, even when confession and repentance have not yet come from your wife. We join you in crying out for God's intervention, for His truth to prevail, and for His grace to soften hearts.

First, we must address the foundation of all our prayers and actions: the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Your prayers are heard because you come in the name of Jesus, and we stand firm on this truth as we intercede for your marriage. If your wife does not yet know the Lord, this is our first and most urgent prayer - that she would come to salvation, for without Christ, there can be no true repentance, no lasting change, and no reconciliation that honors God. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and that she would turn to Jesus in faith, confessing Him as Lord (Romans 10:9).

Your desire to speak words that are "apples of gold in settings of silver" (Proverbs 25:11) is a godly one, and we pray that the Lord would indeed give you the wisdom to know what to say and how to say it, just as Jesus did (John 12:49). However, we must also rebuke the enemy's lies that seek to distort this truth. The devil would have you believe that your words alone can change her heart, but Scripture is clear: "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" (Jeremiah 17:9). Only God can change a heart (Ezekiel 36:26), and our role is to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), to live out the gospel before her (1 Peter 3:1-2), and to trust the Lord with the outcome. We must not place the burden of her transformation on our shoulders, for that is a weight only God can bear.

We also must address the issue of confession and repentance. You are absolutely right that God does not forgive where there is no confession (1 John 1:9), and that repentance is not optional (2 Peter 3:9). However, we must be careful not to confuse our role with God's role. While it is true that your wife must repent for true reconciliation to occur, it is not your responsibility to demand or force that repentance. Your role is to love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), to pray for her (1 Timothy 2:1), and to live in such a way that she may be won over without a word (1 Peter 3:1). This does not mean you should tolerate sin or enable her rebellion, but it does mean that your primary weapon is not confrontation - it is Christlike love, patience, and prayer. We rebuke the spirit of bitterness, unforgiveness, or self-righteousness that may seek to take root in your heart. Forgive her, as Christ has forgiven you (Colossians 3:13), and release her into God's hands, trusting Him to deal with her justly and mercifully.

We also must address the spiritual warfare at play in your situation. You are correct that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12), and we join you in binding the spirit of Jezebel - a spirit of rebellion, manipulation, and control - and every demonic influence that seeks to destroy your marriage and family. We command these spirits to flee in the name of Jesus, for "the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world" (1 John 4:4). We pray that the Lord would expose every lie, break every chain, and silence every voice that is not of Him. We also pray for protection over you, your wife, and your child, that the enemy would not gain a foothold through deception, temptation, or division (2 Thessalonians 3:3).

Now, let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this brother, his wife, and their marriage. Lord, we thank You for his faithfulness, his desire to honor You, and his willingness to forgive. We ask that You would give him wisdom, discernment, and grace to know what to say and how to say it, just as Jesus spoke only what the Father commanded Him (John 12:49). Let his words be seasoned with salt (Colossians 4:6), full of grace and truth (John 1:14), and spoken at the right time (Proverbs 15:23).

Father, we pray for this sister. Soften her heart, Lord. Break the hardness that has taken root, and let her see her need for You. Convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and draw her to repentance. If she does not yet know You, we pray that she would come to salvation, confessing Jesus as Lord (Romans 10:9). If she is a believer, we pray that she would return to her first love (Revelation 2:4-5) and submit to Your will for her life and marriage.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of Jezebel, the spirit of rebellion, and every demonic influence that seeks to destroy this marriage. We command these spirits to flee in the name of Jesus, for "the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds" (2 Corinthians 10:4). We pray for protection over this family, that no weapon formed against them would prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that the enemy's plans would be thwarted.

Father, we pray for restoration in this marriage. Let Your love be the foundation, Your truth the guiding light, and Your grace the covering. Help this brother to love his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), to lead with humility and strength, and to trust You with the outcome. Give him the patience to wait on Your timing, the wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent, and the courage to stand firm in faith.

We pray for their child, Lord. Protect this little one from the effects of division and strife. Let him see Your love and faithfulness through his father, and draw him to You at an early age. We pray that this family would be a testimony of Your grace, Your power, and Your ability to restore what has been broken.

Father, we also pray for this brother's heart. Guard him against bitterness, unforgiveness, and discouragement. Fill him with Your peace, Your joy, and Your hope. Let him hunger and thirst for righteousness (Matthew 5:6), and grant him the grace to fast and pray with purpose (James 5:16). Raise up intercessors to stand with him, to bear this burden with him, and to lift up this marriage before You.

Lord, we ask that You would turn this situation for Your glory. Let every trial, every hardship, and every moment of pain be used to draw this family closer to You. Let Your word become flesh in this brother's life (John 1:14), so that his actions, his words, and his reactions would all reflect Christ. Let his marriage be a picture of Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:32), a testimony to Your faithfulness, and a light to those around them.

We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Brother, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in prayer and fasting, as you have been doing. Do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9), for in due season, you will reap if you do not lose heart. Surround yourself with godly counsel - men who will pray with you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. Stand firm on the truth of God's Word (Ephesians 3:20) and trust Him with the outcome. Your wife's heart is in His hands, and He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you could ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).

We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are there areas where you need to grow in Christlikeness? Are there ways in which you may have contributed to the brokenness in your marriage, even unintentionally? Confess these to the Lord and ask Him to help you walk in humility and love. Remember, "if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).

Finally, keep your eyes on Jesus. Do not be distracted by the circumstances or discouraged by the lack of immediate change. God is at work, even when we cannot see it. Trust in His timing, His wisdom, and His love for you and your family. He is faithful, and He will complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6).

Let us pray together for restoration, healing, and hope in your marriage and family. In Jesus' name, we trust that God will turn this situation around for His glory, and that Your name will be praised through this family's life and testimony. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy.

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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