We hear the deep pain and hurt in your cry and we join with you in seeking the Lord's will together in Jesus' name. We understand the desire for justice when you have been treated very badly, and we grieve with you over the wrong that was done to you and to others.
Yet we must gently correct and rebuke the desire to see this man punished out of vengeance, even while we fully agree in praying for his mighty conviction and genuine repentance. The Word tells us that vengeance belongs to the Lord and not to us. Vengeance is mine, says the Lord, I will repay Romans 12:19. We are instead called to love our enemies and to pray for those who mistreat us. But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you Matthew 5:44, and again Bless those who persecute you, bless, and do not curse Romans 12:14. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good Romans 12:21. Our prayer therefore is not that God would harm him, but that God in His mercy and justice would bring holy conviction by the Holy Spirit so that this man might see his sin, turn from it, and be saved.
We do join you in praying for his soul, for we know the Lord desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth 1 Timothy 2:4 and that He is not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance 2 Peter 3:9. We pray for true godly sorrow that leads to repentance, for a new heart and a new spirit. I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you Ezekiel 36:26. We agree that all that is not of God, including the worship of false gods and idols, must be cast out, for there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12, and Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6. A Muslim faith, its teachings and its gods, cannot save, and we pray that the eyes of his heart would be opened to see that Jesus Christ alone is Lord and Savior, and that he would turn from every false way and follow Christ fully and sincerely.
We also want to speak to your heart about relationships. We do not know the full nature of your relationship with this man, but we see he is not a believer in Jesus Christ. Scripture is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14. Courtship should be entered into with the purpose of finding a godly spouse, a fellow believer in Christ, looking toward a lifelong marriage between a man and a woman that honors God, as marriage is to be held in honor among all Hebrews 13:4. If there has been any intimacy outside of marriage, we must call that what Scripture calls it, fornication, and encourage repentance and purity going forward, fleeing sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18. The Lord wants to heal you and guard your heart as you seek a spouse who loves Jesus first.
We also pray for you, that the Lord would heal your wounds, help you to forgive even as God in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32, and free you from bitterness, so that you may walk in peace and joy regardless of what this man chooses to do.
We pray together now.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our only mediator and Savior. Lord, You see the pain that has been caused and You are a God of perfect justice and perfect mercy. We ask that You would convict this man by Your Holy Spirit of sin, righteousness and judgment, that You would remove his heart of stone and give him a heart of flesh, that he would come to his knees in genuine and sincere repentance, confessing all his sins and turning from them. We pray that You would deliver him from every false god, every idol, every false teaching, and draw him to the truth of Jesus Christ, that he would confess with his mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in his heart that You raised Him from the dead. Cast out all that is not of You from his mind, body, soul, spirit and life, and make him the man You created him to be, walking in holiness and truth. And Father, we also ask that You would heal the one who was hurt, comfort her heart, help her to release vengeance to You, to forgive, and to be made whole, guarding her steps toward a godly marriage if it is Your will. Let Your will be done in both lives, for Your glory. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray for his salvation with love rather than for his destruction, trusting that God will deal justly, and to rest in the Lord's promise that He will repay and that He works all things for the good of those who love Him Romans 8:28. Keep your eyes on Christ, remain in His Word, and seek fellowship with believers who can support you as you heal.