We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you and your marriage in prayer, for we know that God hates divorce and desires reconciliation and restoration in marriages. The pain you are experiencing is deep, and we understand your cry for deliverance from this betrayal. However, we must first address something critical: while your passion and desperation are clear, we are not called to "command" or "decree and declare" as though we have authority over others’ free will or over God’s sovereign timing. Our role is to humble ourselves before the Lord, intercede in faith, and trust in His will—never demanding outcomes as if we control them. Scripture reminds us in James 4:10, *"Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he will exalt you."* And in 1 Peter 5:6, *"Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time."*
We also must address the reality of what is happening in your marriage. Adultery is a grievous sin, and the Word of God is clear about its destruction. Proverbs 6:32 warns, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul."* Yet, even in this brokenness, there is hope for repentance and restoration. The Lord is able to redeem what is broken when hearts turn back to Him. Your husband’s actions are sinful, and he must repent—turning away from this relationship and seeking God’s forgiveness and yours. However, you cannot force his repentance; only the Holy Spirit can convict and change his heart. Your role is to pray, to stand in faith, and to seek the Lord for wisdom in how to respond.
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. Have you surrendered this situation fully to the Lord, or are you trying to control it through declarations rather than trusting in His timing? Matthew 6:33 reminds us, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your focus must be on seeking the Lord above all else, not on manipulating circumstances. He alone can restore what is broken.
Now, let us pray together for you, your husband, and your marriage.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting our sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness she is enduring. You know the depth of her hurt, and You care deeply for her. We ask that You would be her Comforter, her Strength, and her Peace in this storm. Surround her with Your love and remind her that she is precious in Your sight.
Lord, we pray for her husband. Convict his heart by Your Holy Spirit of the sin he is committing. Bring him to true repentance, that he would turn away from this adulterous relationship and seek Your forgiveness and the forgiveness of his wife. Soften his heart, Lord, and break the chains of sin that have ensnared him. Let him see the destruction of his actions and the need for Your mercy. We pray that every tie to this other woman would be severed—not by our words, but by Your power. Close every door the enemy has opened and restore the boundaries of this marriage according to Your Word.
Father, we ask that You would restore trust, love, and commitment between this husband and wife. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted and rebuild what has been broken. Give our sister the wisdom to know how to respond to her husband, whether through confrontation, separation for a season, or reconciliation—all guided by Your Spirit and Your Word. Let her actions be rooted in love, truth, and godly wisdom, not in fear or desperation.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division that has come against this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this union will prosper, for You, Lord, are the Restorer of all things. We pray that You would expose every hidden thing and bring it into the light, so that truth may prevail and repentance may come.
Lord, we also pray for protection over our sister’s heart and mind. Guard her from bitterness, anger, or resentment. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let her find her worth and security in You alone. Remind her that her identity is in Christ, not in her husband’s actions or affections.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would work in this situation for Your glory. If it is Your will to restore this marriage, we pray that You would do so in a way that brings honor to Your name. If there is hardness of heart that refuses to repent, we pray that You would give our sister the strength to walk in obedience to You, even if it means difficult decisions ahead. Your will be done, Lord, not ours.
We thank You that You are a God who hears our prayers and acts on behalf of Your children. We trust You in this, knowing that You are faithful. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
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We encourage you to seek godly counsel during this time, whether from a pastor, a biblical counselor, or trusted believers who can walk alongside you. The road ahead may be difficult, but you are not alone. The Lord is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Cling to Him, seek His face, and trust in His timing.
If your husband is unrepentant, we also urge you to consider the steps outlined in Matthew 18:15-17 for addressing sin within the body of Christ. This may involve confrontation, bringing others into the situation for accountability, and ultimately seeking the wisdom of the church if he refuses to turn from his sin.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your hope is not in your husband’s change of heart, but in the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the One who can sustain you, heal you, and guide you—no matter the outcome. Keep your eyes fixed on Him. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* (Proverbs 3:5-6). You are loved, you are seen, and you are not forgotten.
