We hear the deep pain and desperation in your heart, and we stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting this situation before the throne of God. Your marriage is under attack, and we recognize the spiritual warfare at play. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 6:12, "For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." We must approach this battle with the full armor of God, standing firm in faith and truth.
First, we must address the language of "decreeing and declaring" in the way it has been presented. While we have the authority in Christ to speak God’s Word and stand on His promises, we do not have the power to command God or manipulate circumstances by our words alone. Jesus taught us to pray, "Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven" (Matthew 6:10). Our prayers must align with God’s will, not our own demands. We can boldly come before Him, but we must submit to His perfect plan, trusting that He works all things for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28).
We rebuke the spirit of adultery and unfaithfulness that has entered your marriage. Adultery is a grievous sin, and God’s Word is clear: "You shall not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14). Proverbs 6:32 warns, "He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul." We pray that your husband’s eyes would be opened to the destruction this sin is bringing—not only to your marriage but to his own soul. We ask the Lord to convict his heart deeply, leading him to repentance and restoration.
We also rebuke any spirit of jealousy, bitterness, or control that may be attempting to take root in your heart. While your pain is understandable, we must guard against allowing these emotions to consume us. James 3:16 warns, "For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed." Instead, we are called to trust in the Lord and lean not on our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). We must surrender this situation to Him, asking Him to heal your heart and give you peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We pray for your husband, that the Lord would break every chain of bondage in his life. We ask that God would remove every ungodly soul tie and every impure thought or desire from his mind, heart, and spirit. The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 10:5, "We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ." We pray that your husband would be set free from any addiction to lust, pornography, or emotional affairs, and that he would be restored to a place of purity and holiness before the Lord.
We also pray for the other woman involved. Whether she is aware of it or not, she is being used as a tool of the enemy to destroy your marriage. We ask that God would open her eyes to the truth, that she would repent of any involvement in this sin, and that she would be led to salvation if she does not know Christ. Proverbs 2:16-19 warns, "Discretion will watch over you. Understanding will keep you, to deliver you from the way of evil, from the men who speak perverse things, who forsake the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness, who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the perverseness of evil; who are crooked in their ways, and wayward in their paths: to deliver you from the strange woman, even from the foreigner who flatters with her words, who forsakes the friend of her youth, and forgets the covenant of her God."
We stand on the promise of Malachi 2:16, where God says, "For I hate divorce... and him who covers his garment with violence!" We declare that your marriage is not over, but that God is able to restore what has been broken. We pray for complete healing, reconciliation, and renewal in your marriage. We ask that God would give you and your husband a fresh love for one another, rooted in Christ, and that He would rebuild the trust that has been shattered.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and accountability. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Find a pastor, mentor, or Christian counselor who can walk with you through this difficult time, offering biblical wisdom and support. Do not isolate yourself, but lean on the body of Christ for strength and encouragement.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage before You. Lord, we know that You hate divorce and that You desire for marriages to reflect the love and commitment of Christ and the Church. We ask that You would intervene in this situation, breaking every chain of unfaithfulness, lust, and deception. We rebuke the spirit of adultery and ask that You would bring conviction and repentance to the heart of this husband. Father, we pray that You would remove every ungodly influence from his life—every photograph, every memory, every temptation. Cleanse his mind, heart, and spirit, and restore him to a place of purity and holiness before You.
Lord, we also pray for this wife, that You would heal her broken heart and give her strength to stand firm in faith. Help her to release bitterness and control, trusting in Your perfect timing and plan. Give her peace that surpasses all understanding and fill her with Your love and grace.
We pray for the other woman involved, that You would open her eyes to the truth and lead her to repentance. If she does not know You, Lord, we ask that You would draw her to salvation and set her free from the enemy’s lies.
Father, we declare that this marriage is not over. We stand on Your promise that what the enemy meant for evil, You can turn for good. We ask that You would restore this marriage, rebuilding trust, love, and intimacy between this husband and wife. Give them a fresh start, rooted in You, and help them to honor You with their lives.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the only name by which we can be saved. It is through His blood that we have access to Your throne, and it is by His power that we pray. Strengthen this couple, Lord, and let Your will be done in their lives. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
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