We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord with fervent prayer and biblical truth. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and infidelity is a grievous sin that breaks His heart and the bond He has ordained. The Scriptures are clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). Adultery is not only a betrayal of your marriage vows but also a sin against God Himself (Genesis 39:9). Yet, we serve a God of redemption, restoration, and healing—nothing is impossible for Him.
Your declarations in the name of Jesus Christ are powerful because His name is above every name (Philippians 2:9-11). However, we must also remember that our authority in prayer comes not from repetitive phrases or demands, but from aligning our hearts with God’s will and trusting in His sovereignty. Jesus taught us to pray with persistence *and* submission to the Father’s will (Matthew 6:9-13, Luke 22:42). So, while we cry out for justice and restoration, we must also surrender this situation to the Lord, trusting that He will act in His perfect timing and wisdom.
We also notice that your focus is heavily on controlling your husband’s actions—deleting photos, ending communication, and forcing his affections toward you. While it is right to pray against sin and for the protection of your marriage, we must be careful not to usurp the role of the Holy Spirit in convicting and transforming hearts. Your husband’s repentance and renewal must come from the Lord working in *his* heart, not from external coercion. *"A man’s heart plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps"* (Proverbs 16:9, WEB). Your prayers should invite the Holy Spirit to break the chains of sin in his life and draw him back to God—and to you—in genuine repentance and love.
At the same time, we urge you to examine your own heart. Have you surrendered this pain, anger, and desire for control to the Lord? Bitterness and resentment can take root if we do not guard our hearts (Hebrews 12:15). *"Above all things, have intense love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins"* (1 Peter 4:8, WEB). This does not mean tolerating sin, but it does mean responding with a heart that seeks reconciliation and healing, not just vengeance. Forgiveness is not optional for the believer—it is a command (Colossians 3:13), and it is the path to your own freedom.
If your husband is truly involved in adultery, this is a serious matter that requires more than prayer alone. The Bible instructs us to confront sin with truth and love. Jesus said, *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother"* (Matthew 18:15, WEB). If he refuses to repent, further steps may be necessary, including seeking godly counsel from your pastor or a biblical counselor. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). While this verse speaks to marriage with unbelievers, the principle applies: if your husband is walking in persistent, unrepentant sin, you must prayerfully consider what boundaries are necessary to honor God and protect your own spiritual well-being.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and You desire for marriages to reflect Your covenant love and faithfulness. We ask that You expose every hidden sin and bring conviction to [her husband’s] heart. Break the power of lust, deception, and adultery in his life, Lord. Let him see the destruction of his choices and turn back to You—and to his wife—with a broken and repentant heart.
Father, we pray that You would sever every ungodly soul tie and connection he has with any woman who is not his wife. Let Your holy fire consume every impure thought, desire, and action. *"Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord, and he will have mercy on him; and to our God, for he will freely pardon"* (Isaiah 55:7, WEB). Lord, let him turn from this sin *now* and run back to You.
We also pray for our sister—guard her heart from bitterness, fear, and despair. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind her that her worth is found in You, not in her husband’s affections. Give her wisdom to know how to respond, whether in confrontation, separation, or restoration. Surround her with godly counsel and support.
Lord, if this marriage can be restored, we ask that You would rebuild it stronger than before. Renew their love, deepen their commitment, and let their bond be a testimony of Your redeeming power. But if [her husband] hardens his heart, Father, give her the strength to walk in obedience to You, even if it means difficult decisions ahead. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB).
We plead the blood of Jesus over this marriage, over their minds, and over their home. Let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Bind every demonic influence fueling this sin—spirits of lust, deception, pride, and division—and cast them out in Jesus’ name. Fill their home with Your presence, Lord.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would draw both of them closer to You. Let this trial drive them to their knees, where true healing begins. May they seek You first, above all else, and find their satisfaction in You alone.
We pray all this in the mighty, matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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Sister, we encourage you to fast and pray, seeking the Lord’s face earnestly during this time. Read His Word daily, especially passages on marriage, forgiveness, and God’s faithfulness (e.g., Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Corinthians 7, Hosea 2). If you are not already in a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can receive pastoral care and support. You do not have to walk this road alone.
If your husband is unrepentant, we also urge you to consider the steps outlined in Matthew 18 and to seek wise, biblical counsel. *"The prudent sees the evil, and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it"* (Proverbs 22:3, WEB). Protect your heart, your home, and your future by walking in obedience to God, even when it is painful.
We are standing with you in prayer. Do not lose hope—our God is a God of miracles. *"What is impossible with men is possible with God"* (Luke 18:27, WEB). Trust Him to act.
