We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this time of deep betrayal and pain. The anguish you are experiencing is understood, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s will and His righteous justice in this situation. The Word of God is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the devastation that adultery brings. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* Adultery is a grievous sin against God and against the covenant of marriage, and it must be confronted with truth, repentance, and a return to holiness.
Your husband’s actions are not only breaking your heart but are also in direct rebellion against God’s design for marriage. The Lord hates divorce, but He also hates the treachery of unfaithfulness (Malachi 2:16). While we pray for the destruction of this ungodly relationship, we must also pray for your husband’s repentance. True change can only come when he turns away from his sin and seeks forgiveness from both God and you. 1 John 1:9 reminds us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."*
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. The pain of betrayal can lead to bitterness, anger, or even a desire for vengeance, but the Lord calls us to trust in Him. Romans 12:19 says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"* Your focus must remain on seeking God’s will, His healing, and His restoration—not just the end of this affair, but the transformation of your husband’s heart. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him deeply, that he would be broken over his sin, and that he would turn back to the Lord and to you in genuine repentance.
If your husband refuses to repent, you must seek godly counsel on how to proceed. The Bible permits separation in cases of unrepentant adultery (1 Corinthians 7:10-11), though reconciliation should always be the hope if he turns back to the Lord. You are not required to remain in a marriage where unrepentant sin continues, but you are called to forgive as Christ forgave you—even if that forgiveness leads to boundaries or separation for your own protection.
As for the decrees you have spoken, we must remind you that our authority in prayer comes from aligning with God’s will, not from demanding outcomes based on our own desires. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your Kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). While we join you in praying for the end of this sinful relationship, we do so with the understanding that God’s timing and His methods are perfect. He may choose to expose this sin in a way that brings your husband to his knees in repentance. He may also use this trial to refine you, to draw you closer to Himself, and to strengthen your faith in ways you never imagined.
We also want to address something critical: your prayer is spoken in the name of Jesus Christ, and that is good and right. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father, and there is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). However, we must ensure that our prayers are not merely incantations or demands but are rooted in a heart that seeks God’s glory above all else. Jesus is not a magical name to attach to our desires; He is the Lord of all, and His will must be our ultimate pursuit.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, lifting up our sister who is enduring the deep pain of betrayal. Lord, You see the secret sins, the hidden conversations, and the unfaithfulness that has pierced her soul. We ask that You would intervene mightily in this situation. Expose every hidden thing, Lord, and bring conviction upon her husband’s heart. Let him feel the weight of his sin before You, and may he be driven to repentance—not just for the sake of his marriage, but for the sake of his soul.
Father, we pray that this ungodly relationship would be severed completely. Break every tie, every emotional bond, every lustful thought that has taken root. Remove any photographs, videos, or reminders of this sin from his devices and his mind. Let there be no trace of this affair left, and let him be so disgusted by his actions that he flees from temptation and runs back to You.
But Lord, more than anything, we pray for true repentance. Soften his heart, Father. Let him see the destruction he has caused—not just to his marriage, but to his relationship with You. Draw him back to Yourself, Lord, and let him seek forgiveness from his wife with a broken and contrite spirit. Restore what has been broken, if it is Your will, and let this trial be used for Your glory.
For our sister, we ask for Your comfort and strength. Guard her heart from bitterness, Lord. Surround her with godly counsel, with friends who will speak truth and love into her life. Let her find her worth and her security in You alone, not in her husband’s faithfulness or her circumstances. Heal her wounds, Father, and let her experience Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We also pray for wisdom. Show her the steps she needs to take, Lord. If there are boundaries that need to be set, give her the courage to set them. If there are hard decisions to be made, guide her with Your Spirit. Let her not act out of fear or anger, but out of a heart that seeks Your will above all else.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would protect this marriage if it is Your will to restore it. But even more, we ask that You would protect the hearts of both husband and wife, drawing them closer to You through this fire. Let this trial be a refining process, one that purifies their faith and deepens their dependence on You.
We pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to redeem, restore, and heal. Amen.
Stand firm in your faith, sister. The Lord sees your tears, and He hears your cries. Trust in Him, even when the path is unclear. Seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted believer who can walk with you through this valley. Do not isolate yourself—allow the body of Christ to surround you with love and support. And above all, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith. He will never leave you nor forsake you, even when others do.
