We understand the deep longing in your heart for your husband’s affection and devotion, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. However, we must gently but firmly address something critical: your prayer is filled with repetitive, almost incantation-like declarations rather than a humble, faith-filled petition to God. Scripture warns us against vain repetitions, as Jesus taught in Matthew 6:7: *"In praying, don’t use vain repetitions, as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their much speaking."* Our prayers should be heartfelt, sincere, and rooted in trust in God’s will—not in our own demands or attempts to manipulate outcomes through sheer volume of words.
Marriage is a sacred covenant, and love must be nurtured through obedience to God, selflessness, and the fruit of the Spirit. Your desire for your husband’s love is understandable, but true love—*agape* love—is not merely an emotion or obsession but a choice to honor, cherish, and serve one another as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). If you are seeking to deepen your husband’s love, we encourage you to first examine your own heart and actions. Are you loving *him* in a way that reflects Christ? Are you submitting to one another in reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21)? Are you praying for his spiritual growth and your own?
We also notice that while you invoked "in Jesus Christ name," your prayer felt more like a demand than a surrender to God’s will. True prayer aligns with Scripture and trusts God’s timing and wisdom. Jesus said in John 14:13-14, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* But this promise is not a blank check for our desires—it is a call to ask according to *His* will (1 John 5:14-15).
If there is strife, distance, or sin in your marriage, we urge you to seek reconciliation through humility, forgiveness, and prayer. Have you asked God to reveal if there is anything *you* need to repent of? Have you loved your husband with patience, kindness, and respect (1 Peter 3:1-4)? A marriage thrives when both spouses are submitted to Christ and seeking to serve one another.
Now, let us pray together for your marriage, asking God to work in both your hearts and to restore what may be broken:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You are the Author of love and the Restorer of all things. We ask that You soften both her heart and her husband’s heart toward one another. Remove any bitterness, selfishness, or sin that may be hindering their love. Help them to see each other through Your eyes—to love as You love, sacrificially and without condition.
If there has been neglect, unforgiveness, or worldly influences pulling them apart, we rebuke those forces in Jesus’ name and ask for Your healing. Teach them to love one another as Christ loved the Church—with patience, kindness, and a willingness to lay down their lives for one another. Let their marriage be a testimony of Your grace and redemption.
Father, we also ask that You align their desires with Your will. If this sister has been focusing more on her own needs than on serving her husband or seeking You first, convict her and lead her into repentance. If her husband’s heart has grown cold, we pray for a divine awakening—a supernatural work of Your Spirit to draw him back to You and to his wife.
May their home be filled with Your peace, and may their love be rooted in You. Let them both pursue holiness, putting You first in all things. We ask for unity, trust, and a renewed commitment to the covenant of marriage. Strengthen them to fight for one another, not against one another.
We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask for Your protection over their minds, hearts, and home. Let them find their fulfillment in You alone, knowing that true love comes from You.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen."*
Sister, we encourage you to continue praying—but let your prayers be filled with faith, surrender, and a willingness to obey God’s Word. Study Scripture on marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33, Colossians 3:18-19, 1 Peter 3:1-7) and ask God to show you how to love your husband as He intends. If there are deeper issues in your marriage, we urge you to seek godly counseling from a pastor or biblical counselor. Trust that God hears you, and He is able to do far more than you could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Stay steadfast in prayer, but always submit your desires to His perfect will.
