Useless God, careless God, non-powerful God

[Loroemorford]

What has God done for me? Why should i follow him. What has He done for me in my pain and sorrow? My faith has been betrayed, and even God dont have power to fix the past. Even God has no willingness to do it. Can a prostitute's past of selling her body be beautiful? Is the act of stealing another man's wife beautiful? What kind of God is it that took another man's wife and gave her to another man? What is good about a God who told David, "I gave you the wife of your superior, Saul"? God changes his standard according to his mind. Does God have the power to turn back the clock and change anything? Does God have the power to change the fact that my gf cheated and slept with another Man? Why must the victim live in suffering for the rest of their life, with reminding of that fact all their life? Why must they suffer and be unable to sleep every night, imagining their gf having sex with another man? How can God claim to be good when He cannot change any facts of the past, and allows evil? Why does God promise that recovery is possible and that He will heal the land? How can adultery be restored? Does the fact that my gf slept with another man can disappear? Does the fact that my gf shared love with another man day and night, both physically and emotionally, can disappear? What was God doing sitting on His throne while I was suffering? He just sat there, enjoying himself as if watching TV. God say that anyone knows what is good, and yet if they do not do it, they are evil, so why did God do absolutely nothing? God protected Sarah, Abraham's wife, and even appeared in Pharaoh's dream to protect Sarah, telling him not to touch her. GOD said that God's plan is established even when many things are in a person's heart. AND is it a good plan to give me such lifelong trauma, distrust, depression, and mental illness in my life? Or is it because my situation is not a big deal in God's eyes? Is it something insignificant and meaningless for God? How can I believe in a being after death when I cannot trust God even on this earth? How can I believe God when I have never experienced being protected by God? Why is nothing changing when you told me to believe and pray directly to you? Does God even have any interest in people in the first place, aside from the glory of His own Son, Jesus? What interest does He have in my pain and sorrow? He tells me that because His Son hung on for six hours, my sixty years of suffering are nothing, so I should just endure it. Isn't that essentially saying, "I have done this much for you, so yours is nothing"? What good is it if He sees and knows about my pain? What good is it to say "Immanuel"? He did nothing. He did nothing during the long time I waited. Why must I believe in God and treat others kindly? Because He has power? Then it would have been better if He had used that power to protect me beforehand. Because He is good? Then it would have been better if He had used that goodness to protect me like Abraham. Why must I follow an unfaithful God? A God who insists only on His own will like a tyrant, displays a double standard by giving another man's wife to someone else, and does not protect me as He says He wills.

 

[Articles]

Our God of peace, you have taught us that in returning and rest we shall be saved, in quietness and in confidence shall be our strength: By the might of your Spirit answer this request according to your will, we pray of you, so we may be still and know that you are God; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how raw and heavy this is for you, and how many painful questions have piled up while you have been trying to hold this betrayal alone. Being unable to sleep, replaying images you never wanted to see, feeling that the past can never be undone and that God did nothing to stop it, that is an exhausting place to live. It makes sense you would ask where God was and whether He sees or cares.

What you are describing after your girlfriend's unfaithfulness is something many betrayed partners experience. The shock can freeze how we see ourselves, the future, and even God, and it often brings intrusive thoughts and a deep distrust that does not lift just because we want it to. It does not mean you are failing at faith, it means you have been deeply wounded.

We will keep praying for you, and we want to encourage you not to carry this without support. If you have one trusted pastor or Christian counselor you can talk with honestly this week, please reach out to them. And since you mentioned ongoing sleeplessness, depression and trauma-like distress, it would be wise to also talk with your doctor or a counselor alongside prayer, so you are not facing the physical and emotional toll alone.

We pray for you now. Father, You know the pain he is carrying and the questions he is afraid to even voice. You see the sleepless nights and the memories that will not leave him. Draw near to him in this hurt, give him steady support around him, wisdom for what is next, and space to heal at Your pace. Help him to know he is not forgotten and that he can come to You through Jesus even with his doubts and anger. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Loroemorford]

God promised me, "trust, pray" in my dream, and now it's been 5years ago. 5 years. Depression, sadness, anger, betrayed heart. It is me. Nothing is left. God is liar. And my gf is having sex with other boys ha. Why the funk God has told me to pray if it turns out to be like this? I never trust any of God's goodness or promise or plan anymore. God has no ability to make clock unwind. And big lair.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your pain has been poured out with a terrible honesty, and such honesty is not hidden from God. He is light, and in Him is no darkness at all, and He desires truth in the inward parts. It is better to tell Him plainly that you are wounded, sleepless, tormented by images you cannot drive away, and that you feel betrayed not only by a woman you loved but by God Himself, than to pretend a piety you do not feel. He can bear the cry.

You ask what God has done for you, and why you should follow Him when He did not turn back the clock and undo what was done. The ache you describe is real. To discover that one you loved gave herself, body and heart, to another, is a betrayal that cuts to the soul. It brings trauma and distrust and nights without sleep, and no honest pastor will tell you that the fact itself will disappear as if it never happened. God does not make facts vanish by pretending they did not occur. What He does is greater. He cleanses and He heals and He makes new. The blood of Jesus Christ cleanses from all sin, and when God pardons He does not call evil good, He washes the sinner and gives a new heart and a new life. The act of selling the body is not beautiful. The act of taking another man's wife is not beautiful. God has never called it beautiful. He calls it sin, and He judges it. But a prostitute who comes to Christ is washed, and is made beautiful not because her sin was beautiful, but because she is made new. That is what grace does. It does not celebrate the sin. It redeems the sinner.

You ask about that word to David, I gave you your master's house and your master's wives. That word has troubled many. Understand it rightly. When Saul died, his house and his household were entrusted to David as king, according to the custom of that time for the care and protection of the household, not as a license for lust. And when David later took Bathsheba, another man's wife, God did not change His standard and call it good. God sent Nathan the prophet to say, Thou art the man, and Thou hast despised the word of the Lord. God struck that sin with judgment, and David wept and repented in dust. God is not double minded. What He calls adultery in one place He calls adultery in every place. Marriage is the lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and sex belongs within it alone. God has not altered that.

You ask if God has power to turn back time and make it so that your girlfriend never lay with another man. God is almighty and does all that is consistent with His holy nature, but He has not chosen to unmake history. He has chosen to atone for sin and to heal the wound that sin leaves. If He merely rewound the clock, the heart that could betray would remain unchanged. Instead He offers to wash the conscience, to take away the sting and the shame, and in the end to wipe away every tear, so that what was meant for evil is overcome by good. Recovery does not mean pretending the past did not happen. It means that the past no longer rules you, because God has come to dwell with you and to give you a future that is not defined by that betrayal.

You ask what God was doing while you suffered, whether He sat as a spectator. He did not. There is none like unto the God of Jeshurun, who rides upon the heaven in your help. The eternal God is your refuge. And to show that He is not distant from betrayal, He gave His own Son to be betrayed. Judas, one of the twelve, came with a kiss and handed Jesus over to His enemies. Your Lord knows what it is to be betrayed by one near to Him, to be wounded by a friend. He is not watching your pain from afar as entertainment. He entered it. On the cross He bore the weight of all sin and all sorrow, and He did so not for six hours to be measured against your sixty years as if to minimize your years, but because those hours carried an infinite weight of wrath for sinners, that He might be able to carry you through sixty years and through eternity. Low thoughts of God make pardon seem doubtful. High thoughts of God give hope, for if He could bear that, He can bear you.

You say God protected Sarah, Abraham's wife, and appeared to Pharaoh in a dream to keep her untouched, and you ask why He did not protect you. God indeed is sovereign and protects according to His wise counsel, and at times He restrains evil with a mighty hand. At other times He permits what He hates, and yet He will judge it with perfect justice, and He will use even the pain to work patience and experience and hope in those who trust Him. The fact that He did not prevent this evil does not mean your situation is small in His eyes or that He has no interest in you apart from His Son. His interest in you is seen precisely in His Son, for He gave His Son for sinners such as you and such as she, that you might be reconciled to Him. To look at the cross and say He does not care is to misread the cross entirely.

You say you prayed and nothing changed. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God, and it must be received with meekness. God is not deaf. He is the eternal God who does not change, and if He was your refuge years ago He remains your refuge now. Prevention is better than cure, and to trust Him before fear comes is blessed, but when fear has come, as it came even to David the warrior who slew Goliath, the cure is still to trust Him. David said, What time I am afraid, I will trust in Thee. Isaiah goes further and says, I will trust and not be afraid. May you be brought to that place where you can say, Should earth against my soul engage and storms of sorrow fall, I shall in safety reach my home, my God, my Heaven, my All. That confidence does not come from pretending you are not hurt. It comes from taking God at His word.

You ask why you must believe and treat others kindly if God is a tyrant who insists only on His own will. God is not a tyrant. He is holy and He is gracious, and He commands what is good because He is good. You are not asked to follow Him because power compels you, but because mercy invites you. Look unto me, and be ye saved, He says. Not look to your own good intentions, not look to your own heart which you hope is good at bottom, but look to Christ. Salvation is not by works, lest any man should boast. It is by faith in the merits of Christ. If you have never experienced being protected by God, begin here. Confess your own sin before Him, not only the sin done against you, but your own need of cleansing, for if we say we have no sin we make Him a liar. Own before Him what you are, and ask Him to cleanse you through the blood of Jesus. Then you will know His protection, not always as prevention of every wound, but as a refuge that holds you when wounds come, and as a healer who touches the suffering soul and healing comes at once.

Do not walk alone in this. Bring this wound into the light with a faithful pastor and with trusted brothers in Christ, and if the sleeplessness and depression press heavily, seek help from those skilled to care for both soul and mind. Keep yourself in the Word, where God shows His power and His glory, and pray not for God to bless what He calls sin, but for Him to bring repentance where there has been unfaithfulness, to bring healing to your mind, to teach you to live in purity and self control, and to prepare you, whether that means a restored relationship made right through repentance and a marriage covenant entered in holiness, or a different path where you are kept pure and made whole for whatever He has for you.

He who was betrayed lives to make intercession for the betrayed. He is able to put back every assault of the enemy and to put a new song in your mouth. Seek Him not as a useless or careless God, but as the great God and Savior who, when you are humbled, grants both pardon and healing.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

Your pain is raw and honest, and it has been heard. The betrayal you have suffered, the sleepless nights, the images that return against your will, the feeling that God sat distant while you were wounded, these are not small things. They are not insignificant to God, and they should not be treated as insignificant by anyone who hears you.

You ask what God has done for you, and whether He has power or willingness to fix the past. The truth is that God does not make what happened not happen. He does not turn back the clock so that a sin can be undone as if it never was. If He did, there would be no truth, no justice, no real accountability. What He does is greater and harder to see at first. He entered our history Himself. He who is God became man, was born of a woman, suffered betrayal, false accusation, and a shameful death, so that those who are wounded by sin, both those who commit it and those who are crushed by it, might be born again and made new. The cross was not six hours that makes your sixty years nothing. It was the eternal Son bearing an infinite weight so that your sixty years, and your eternity, could have hope, healing, and a future that is not defined only by what another person did to you.

You ask whether a past of selling the body or stealing another man's wife can be beautiful. No. Those acts are not beautiful, and Scripture never calls them beautiful. The mouth and the heart that turn toward lust, insult, theft and adultery bring great evil, and God judges that evil. When you mention what was said to David, I gave you your master's house, you are remembering a word spoken to a king about a kingdom entrusted to him after Saul's death, not a divine approval of adultery. And when David later did take another man's wife, Bathsheba the wife of Uriah, God did not change His standard or applaud it. He sent the prophet Nathan to confront David, He pronounced judgment, and David reaped bitter sorrow for that sin for the rest of his life. God does not have a double standard. What He calls adultery in one place He calls adultery everywhere. The church is His temple, not a brothel, and He grieves when that temple is despised by whoredom and unfaithfulness.

You ask why God protected Sarah and yet did not stop your girlfriend from sinning. God did protect Sarah by a direct intervention with Pharaoh, and He still protects many in ways we see and many we do not see. But He has also made human beings with real wills, and He permits them to choose, even to choose great evil, and to bear responsibility for it. That permission is not approval, and it is not enjoyment. Scripture shows God weaving human life with both hardships and consolations, not because He watches suffering as entertainment from His throne, but because He is working in a fallen world where sin has real consequences. He was not watching you as one watches television. In Christ He says He is Immanuel, God with us, and that means He was with you in that suffering, knowing it, not delighting in it, and able to bring comfort that human peace cannot give.

You ask how a fact can disappear, how the knowledge that your girlfriend shared herself physically and emotionally with another man can be erased. It cannot be erased as a fact of history. Healing in the Bible is never God pretending that sin did not happen. Healing is God cleansing the sinner who repents, binding up the wound of the one sinned against, and making a person new so that the past no longer rules the future. Recovery does not mean the memory is deleted. It means the memory loses its power to torment you every night, because the peace of God begins to rule in your heart as an umpire between the thoughts that cry for revenge and despair and the thought that calls you to endure, to forgive, and to live again. That peace does not come in a moment because you prayed once. It grows as you bring your honest prayers, even angry prayers, to Him again and again, as you hear His Word, as you walk with faithful people who will not minimize your pain.

You ask why you should believe, pray, or treat others kindly if God did not protect you beforehand. You should not follow God because He is a tyrant who demands obedience through power. You follow Him because He is good and because He alone can make you good. He does not ask you to be kind in order to earn His protection. He asks you to be kind because He has already loved you when you were His enemy, and He wants to form His love in you. That does not mean you must remain in a relationship that has been broken by sexual unfaithfulness, or pretend that living together outside the lifelong covenant of marriage between one man and one woman is the same as marriage. Sex belongs within that covenant, and when it is taken outside, it wounds deeply, as you have experienced. Faithfulness to God now means choosing what builds up, not what tears down, speaking and living in a way that honors His temple in you.

You have not experienced God's protection as you hoped, and prayer has felt like nothing changes. That does not mean God has no interest in you apart from the glory of His Son. His interest in you is the reason His Son was glorified through suffering, for you. He sees your depression, your trauma, your distrust, and He does not call them nothing. He calls you to bring them to Him, to seek help from wise counselors and pastors and, where needed, from those trained to care for trauma and mental health, to stay in the community of those who will walk with you, and to let His Word, which is living and sharp and able to discern the thoughts of the heart, do its slow, deep work.

God will not give you back a past that never happened. He will give you, if you will receive it, a future where you are not forever the victim of another's sin, where your identity is not adulterer or betrayed, but child of God, forgiven, cleansed, and being made whole. That is not achieved by demanding that God prove Himself on your terms, but by trusting that the One who did not spare His own Son will also, in His time and way, give you all that you need to live and to heal.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.