unwanted singleness, loneliness

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Hello, I have suffered lots of abuse and have a low self-esteem and other issues, the Lord is working on me..but I never found a partner and now I desire a family. I have been rejected many times and also bullied and I think, no one wants me as a wife. I need healing and deliverance from low-self esteem and hopelessness and also stop isolating myself. Please pray for my psychological health and social life and that the Lord may give me soon also a good husband. I am afraid of staying alone. People also cursed me with curses of rejection, like "no one cares for you, will always be alone, no one wants you". But I think the Lord is mightier than these curses. I do not want to stay alone.
 
We hear the deep ache in your heart, dear sister, and we want you to know that your pain is not unseen by the Lord. You have endured so much—abuse, rejection, bullying, and the cruel words of others—but we stand with you in declaring that the Lord is indeed mightier than any curse, any lie, or any scheme of the enemy. The words spoken over you by others are not your truth; your identity is found in Christ alone, and He calls you *chosen*, *beloved*, and *redeemed*. The Lord has not forgotten you, and He is not withholding good things from you. His timing is perfect, and He is preparing you even now for the blessings He has in store.

The desire for marriage and family is a godly one, and we pray earnestly with you for a husband who will love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). But first, let us address the wounds that have left you feeling unworthy or fearful. The Lord wants to heal you completely—spirit, soul, and body. Low self-esteem and isolation are not from Him; they are tools the enemy uses to keep you from walking in the freedom and confidence Christ died to give you. The Bible tells us in **1 Peter 5:7**, *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you."* You are not forgotten. You are not rejected by God. The rejections you’ve faced from people do not define your worth, for your worth is found in the One who created you and called you by name.

The fear of being alone is understandable, but we encourage you to lean into the truth that even in singleness, you are never truly alone. Jesus promised in **Matthew 28:20**, *"I am with you always, even to the end of the age."* He is your constant companion, your comforter, and your greatest love. While you wait, let Him fill the empty places in your heart. Seek His face in prayer, worship, and His Word. Allow Him to restore your joy and confidence so that when He does bring a husband into your life, you will enter marriage whole and secure in who you are in Christ.

As for the curses spoken over you, we rebuke them in the name of Jesus. **Numbers 23:23** declares, *"No curse can touch Jacob; no magic has any power against Israel."* If you belong to Christ, no curse can stand against you. The blood of Jesus has broken every chain, and we declare freedom over your life right now. The lies that say you will always be alone are shattered by the truth of God’s Word. He has plans for you—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust Him, even when the wait feels long.

Now, let us pray for you:

Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You see her pain, her loneliness, and her deep longing for love and family. Lord, we ask that You wrap her in Your arms and remind her that she is *yours*—fully known, fully loved, and fully accepted. Heal the wounds of rejection and abuse that have left scars on her heart. Break the spirit of fear and isolation that has kept her bound. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and restore her joy.

Father, we rebuke every curse, every lie, and every word spoken against her in the mighty name of Jesus. Let no weapon formed against her prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Replace every negative word with Your truth: that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that she is more than a conqueror through Christ (Romans 8:37), and that her future is secure in You.

Lord, we pray for her psychological health—bring healing to her mind and emotions. Surround her with godly community so she is no longer isolated. Open doors for her to connect with others who will encourage her in You. And Father, we ask for a godly husband for her, a man after Your own heart who will cherish her, lead her spiritually, and build a home with her that honors You. Prepare them both for this union, and let it come in Your perfect timing.

In the meantime, satisfy her longings with more of Yourself. Let her find her completeness in You alone, so that whether single or married, her heart remains steadfast in You. Strengthen her, Lord, and let her testimony be one of Your faithfulness.

We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Sister, we encourage you to keep seeking the Lord first (Matthew 6:33). Serve Him faithfully where you are, and trust that He is working behind the scenes on your behalf. Do not rush into any relationship out of fear or desperation, but wait for the man God has for you—a man who loves Jesus above all else. Use this season to grow deeper in your walk with Christ, to serve in His kingdom, and to allow Him to shape you into the woman He created you to be.

You are not forgotten. You are not rejected. Your story is not over—God is writing something beautiful, and we believe He will turn your mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). Stand firm in faith, and keep your eyes on Jesus. He is faithful!
 
We're here with you, sister, and we want you to know that your longing for love and family is a beautiful desire. We're not just praying for a husband for you, but also for the healing and wholeness you need to embrace the life God has for you. Remember, your worth is not defined by your circumstances or the words of others. You are deeply loved and cherished by your Heavenly Father.

Let's focus on building your confidence and self-esteem in Christ. He sees your loneliness, your pain, and your dreams. Trust in Him, even when the wait feels long. He is working on your behalf, preparing you and your future partner for the union He has in mind.

In the meantime, let's fill your life with love and joy. Seek out godly friendships and community. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you. And most importantly, spend time with Jesus. He is your constant companion, your comforter, and your greatest love.

We're praying for you, sister. That God would heal your wounds, fill you with His peace, and surround you with His love. We ask this in Jesus' name. Amen.
 

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