Anthonette
Humble Servant of All
I know that this was somone elses pray but it is so so close to what i need as well as me and my husband face the same trails.
My husband wants a divorce. I’m committed to my marriage and love my husband dearly. We have been together for 10 years. I know that he is having an affair with an ex co-worker. To add to the problem, i have been chasing him and trying to get him back. trying to fix the problem my self. i have been praying and then seeking my husband to the point he got an order of protection againist me. Another bad influence are the bars he hangs out into the wee hours of the morning with his friends. To add to the problem, my husband has rejected Godly counsel. He has no Godly men in his life (his choice, people have offered).
He has told me he doesn’t feel the way he used to for me anymore, but he won’t allow us to really try either which tears at my heart. but I am hoping he will see the light God is shining on him, come around and hopefully be somewhere in the middle between who he was and what he has become. I can handle him not being the man he was for 40 plus years but I can't accept the man he is now. I know he has a good heart but his clouded thoughts, hurt feelings and his unhealthy ex coworker are polluting his mind and soul. I pray numerous times a day that God opens his eyes to the possibility of reconciliation, opens his eyes to the truth about his coworker and opens the eyes of his ex coworker so she realizes the damage she is truly causing to her family and to mine. I do my best not to think badly about her and have prayed for her and her family to find their path to God (just not on the same path we are on). I am speaking with my pastor often.
I also know our marriage problems aren’t entirely my husband’s fault. For a long time I blamed myself. I sometimes tell myself, “If only I was more respectful, loving and supportive this never ever would have happened...If I could turn back time....". I fully understand that I did not betray him, cheat him in any way or lie to him. We both broke our marriage. My great sin was miss-communication, not being open about my needs & not being open enough for him to feel he could talk with me about his needs & hurts. I did not respect my husband verbally & through my actions (nagging and negativity) enough to which caused him a deep hurt which is what pushed him to look for someone else who could give him what he needs. Also he never talked with me about our relationship and how he felt and never sought to get help early on.
I was blind I didn’t know there was a problem till he said it was to late. I don’t feel or believe it is too late for us! I pray it isn’t too late. I think God has pressed upon me to bring him to God and in turn he will eventually find his way back to me. I have been reading the bible. I have apologized directly to him for all of my misgivings and sins against him and I am consistently trying to respect him. I hope in time that we will reconnect and rebuild our marriage as it should be, under God’s guidance and authority.
I’m trusting that God will see I’m trying to be the wife he wants me to be, I am honoring my covenant with God and my husband, I am trying to walk along side Christ and be more Christ like and hopefully will show my husband the right path to God. I pray that God will influence my husband and help open my husband’s eyes, speak to him directly and show him the way back home.
Please pray for our marriage to be restored and recreated in the way God wants for it to be; for my husband to hear and feel God’s love in his thoughts and dreams; to bring peace to his soul to help heal his hurt and to rebuild over that hurt a strong Christian-based foundation for our marriage rooted in God, love and respect.
My husband wants a divorce. I’m committed to my marriage and love my husband dearly. We have been together for 10 years. I know that he is having an affair with an ex co-worker. To add to the problem, i have been chasing him and trying to get him back. trying to fix the problem my self. i have been praying and then seeking my husband to the point he got an order of protection againist me. Another bad influence are the bars he hangs out into the wee hours of the morning with his friends. To add to the problem, my husband has rejected Godly counsel. He has no Godly men in his life (his choice, people have offered).
He has told me he doesn’t feel the way he used to for me anymore, but he won’t allow us to really try either which tears at my heart. but I am hoping he will see the light God is shining on him, come around and hopefully be somewhere in the middle between who he was and what he has become. I can handle him not being the man he was for 40 plus years but I can't accept the man he is now. I know he has a good heart but his clouded thoughts, hurt feelings and his unhealthy ex coworker are polluting his mind and soul. I pray numerous times a day that God opens his eyes to the possibility of reconciliation, opens his eyes to the truth about his coworker and opens the eyes of his ex coworker so she realizes the damage she is truly causing to her family and to mine. I do my best not to think badly about her and have prayed for her and her family to find their path to God (just not on the same path we are on). I am speaking with my pastor often.
I also know our marriage problems aren’t entirely my husband’s fault. For a long time I blamed myself. I sometimes tell myself, “If only I was more respectful, loving and supportive this never ever would have happened...If I could turn back time....". I fully understand that I did not betray him, cheat him in any way or lie to him. We both broke our marriage. My great sin was miss-communication, not being open about my needs & not being open enough for him to feel he could talk with me about his needs & hurts. I did not respect my husband verbally & through my actions (nagging and negativity) enough to which caused him a deep hurt which is what pushed him to look for someone else who could give him what he needs. Also he never talked with me about our relationship and how he felt and never sought to get help early on.
I was blind I didn’t know there was a problem till he said it was to late. I don’t feel or believe it is too late for us! I pray it isn’t too late. I think God has pressed upon me to bring him to God and in turn he will eventually find his way back to me. I have been reading the bible. I have apologized directly to him for all of my misgivings and sins against him and I am consistently trying to respect him. I hope in time that we will reconnect and rebuild our marriage as it should be, under God’s guidance and authority.
I’m trusting that God will see I’m trying to be the wife he wants me to be, I am honoring my covenant with God and my husband, I am trying to walk along side Christ and be more Christ like and hopefully will show my husband the right path to God. I pray that God will influence my husband and help open my husband’s eyes, speak to him directly and show him the way back home.
Please pray for our marriage to be restored and recreated in the way God wants for it to be; for my husband to hear and feel God’s love in his thoughts and dreams; to bring peace to his soul to help heal his hurt and to rebuild over that hurt a strong Christian-based foundation for our marriage rooted in God, love and respect.
