Proverbs 28:13 "Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy."
This is perhaps one of the hardest things we have to deal with on our road to marriage restoration. I found out today when God wants you to do something you better do it or He will make you do it, Especially when its for His plan. For a few months God was laying it on my mind to confess things I did in my marriage. I ignored it because my thought process was if she knew then she would never come back. God pressed more into me "saying trust ME" so stupidly I said to God ok, if you really want me to tell my wife these things then make it so I know I need to say something. And being in true fashion of God all mighty He did. Today my wife out of no where asked me these things saying she new about them and I need to confess so she can forgive me, and I immediately heard the voice of God saying there you go. So I told her everything, and it didn't end well at all, now she wont talk to me, but the strange thing is I had a piece come over me I couldn't understand. And the voice came to me once again saying "Now she can heal and so can you".
John 8:32 "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
As worried as I am that my wife may never forgive me for the things I did I still feel free from the weight the actions caused. I was always worried she would find out and come to me about it, but the funny thing is she knew all along and was waiting for me to confess. Now I am not saying this is going to make things better right now, but I feel deep inside that since it is all out in the open it will make the future of our marriage better. I know what your thinking, probably the same thing I was thinking "How could me telling her things that are bad make a bad situation better?" well it wont right away however if we don't do what we know we should do does it make it ok? NO!!
James 4:17 So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin
Yes we are standing for our marriages and we don't want to give our wives anything else to hold against us, however if we don't tell them then is it right? Keeping a secret from your wife was never a good thing nor is it a good thing now. By not being honest we are in turn lying and I am fairly sure God is not for that. Yes we want our wives to love us again and yes we need to show love, humbleness and honor to our wives so we need to be honest. We need to walk in the way of Christ and I am pretty sure he didn't keep any secrets to any one, He was honest even when it meant death on a cross.
James 5:16 "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."
Now I am fairly sure my wife is not praying for me at this moment nor do I think she has any plans to, but I am trusting God that one day she will forgive me and we can move forward together with God in our marriage. If she didn't know what I did and I didn't confess to her how could she forgive me? Well she couldn't and even if she didn't know what I did, God knew and I knew and that would have eaten me up inside even worse. God knows what He is doing trust me this isn't His first rodeo. In fact in Hosea its a very similar story to what some of us are going threw, and God told him to go back and forgive his wife.
Before you go blurting out to your wives what you did I urge you to pray about it and ask God to make it clear what you need to do. God was pretty obvious with me what needed to be done and I ignored it, I wonder if I would have done it when He told me if things would have been better. However He knew what and how I was going to do this and yet He still tells me my marriage will be restored. The point of all this mumbo jumbo is once again TRUST GOD!! We don't know what is going to happen or how He will use it for His glory but we know He will. God is faithful and very honest with us, why shouldn't we be the same to Him?
Yes I am a little freaked out that I opened up to my wife, but honestly after I did God spoke to me and reassured me it is all well. That's all I care about is that God is pleased with me even though I took a little longer than I should have and He had to do a little pushing.
Thank You God Bless
This is perhaps one of the hardest things we have to deal with on our road to marriage restoration. I found out today when God wants you to do something you better do it or He will make you do it, Especially when its for His plan. For a few months God was laying it on my mind to confess things I did in my marriage. I ignored it because my thought process was if she knew then she would never come back. God pressed more into me "saying trust ME" so stupidly I said to God ok, if you really want me to tell my wife these things then make it so I know I need to say something. And being in true fashion of God all mighty He did. Today my wife out of no where asked me these things saying she new about them and I need to confess so she can forgive me, and I immediately heard the voice of God saying there you go. So I told her everything, and it didn't end well at all, now she wont talk to me, but the strange thing is I had a piece come over me I couldn't understand. And the voice came to me once again saying "Now she can heal and so can you".
John 8:32 "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
As worried as I am that my wife may never forgive me for the things I did I still feel free from the weight the actions caused. I was always worried she would find out and come to me about it, but the funny thing is she knew all along and was waiting for me to confess. Now I am not saying this is going to make things better right now, but I feel deep inside that since it is all out in the open it will make the future of our marriage better. I know what your thinking, probably the same thing I was thinking "How could me telling her things that are bad make a bad situation better?" well it wont right away however if we don't do what we know we should do does it make it ok? NO!!
James 4:17 So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin
Yes we are standing for our marriages and we don't want to give our wives anything else to hold against us, however if we don't tell them then is it right? Keeping a secret from your wife was never a good thing nor is it a good thing now. By not being honest we are in turn lying and I am fairly sure God is not for that. Yes we want our wives to love us again and yes we need to show love, humbleness and honor to our wives so we need to be honest. We need to walk in the way of Christ and I am pretty sure he didn't keep any secrets to any one, He was honest even when it meant death on a cross.
James 5:16 "Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working."
Now I am fairly sure my wife is not praying for me at this moment nor do I think she has any plans to, but I am trusting God that one day she will forgive me and we can move forward together with God in our marriage. If she didn't know what I did and I didn't confess to her how could she forgive me? Well she couldn't and even if she didn't know what I did, God knew and I knew and that would have eaten me up inside even worse. God knows what He is doing trust me this isn't His first rodeo. In fact in Hosea its a very similar story to what some of us are going threw, and God told him to go back and forgive his wife.
Before you go blurting out to your wives what you did I urge you to pray about it and ask God to make it clear what you need to do. God was pretty obvious with me what needed to be done and I ignored it, I wonder if I would have done it when He told me if things would have been better. However He knew what and how I was going to do this and yet He still tells me my marriage will be restored. The point of all this mumbo jumbo is once again TRUST GOD!! We don't know what is going to happen or how He will use it for His glory but we know He will. God is faithful and very honest with us, why shouldn't we be the same to Him?
Yes I am a little freaked out that I opened up to my wife, but honestly after I did God spoke to me and reassured me it is all well. That's all I care about is that God is pleased with me even though I took a little longer than I should have and He had to do a little pushing.
Thank You God Bless
