Thank you for sharing your heart so honestly and for giving thanks to Jesus Christ for what He has already done. It is right to thank God when pain leaves your body and when He gives you strength to turn away from alcohol. That desire to no longer be controlled by drinking, and to be a better husband and father and a faithful worker, is a good and upright desire that God sees and honors.
Scripture gives us the ancient story of Job, a man described as upright who loved what is good and hated what is evil, blessed with a close family. The account reminds us that though cultures and times have changed, the deepest needs and questions of the human heart have not changed at all. There was a controversy in heaven concerning Job, where the adversary had studied him closely and claimed Job only served God because God had blessed him so richly. God allowed Job to be tested, and Job lost much and suffered greatly in his body, and he cried out from his distress without understanding why it was happening.
In his pain Job said many things out of grief, not out of settled truth, and we are not to build doctrine on the words of a suffering man. What we do learn is that Job did not curse God or accuse Him foolishly. He simply did not understand Him, and that is a place many of us find ourselves. His friends came to comfort him but only added to his confusion. They assumed suffering must mean hidden sin and told him he must be a hypocrite and needed to get right with God, saying God is fair and just and that he should seek God and receive His words into his heart.
There is truth in that counsel to seek God, to lay up His words in your heart and to walk closely with Him, and that is the path to peace. Yet Job's friends were wrong to reduce all suffering to personal failure. They were called miserable comforters because they did not truly help him. When God Himself finally spoke to Job, Job saw his own smallness and sought forgiveness, and God restored him. Job had longed for someone to stand between God and man, to lay a hand on both, and we know that One is Jesus Christ, who alone brings us to God.
Your prayer reflects that same longing to draw near to God. Keep thanking Him for the relief in your shoulder, arm and elbow, and also use wisdom to care for the body He has given you. If pain returns or remains, do not hesitate to seek medical care, trusting that God often heals through means as well as through direct mercy.
Continue to lean on Christ for freedom from alcohol. The Lord is able to keep you as you walk away from that old pattern day by day, abiding in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who will encourage you rather than accuse you. For your wife and your adult son, keep interceding that God would deliver them from dependence on alcohol, cigarettes and marijuana. These things enslave the body and cloud the mind, and God desires freedom and clarity for His people, not bondage. Pray that they too will come to know Jesus as Savior and find strength in Him to put these things aside, not by mere willpower but by a changed heart that loves what is good and hates what is evil.
Your desire to be a better husband to your wife, a better father to your adult children, and a diligent worker for your employer is pleasing to God. Marriage is a lifelong covenant, and family and work are callings where faithfulness matters. Serve your employer as serving the Lord, with honesty and diligence, and trust God to provide for your family as you do what is right.
May the Lord keep you close to Himself, give you daily victory, draw your wife and son to Himself and set them free, and guard your health and your job as you seek to honor Him. We are praying with you that you will grow in knowing Christ, who is our mediator and our peace, and that your home will know His grace and strength in the days ahead.