We join you in thanking God that this father's heart is finally softening and that truth is breaking through after years of hardness and denial. It is a mercy from God when stubbornness gives way to understanding, even when that understanding brings deep sorrow. We have been praying with you and we continue to lift him up, and the baby's mother as well, before the throne of grace.
What you describe grieves us because it reveals how deeply words can wound. To belittle the body of the mother of his child, to dismiss her labor and miscarriage as mere sickness from travel, was unkind, unloving, and dishonoring. Scripture is clear that our words matter greatly. Ephesians 4:29 says Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. And James 1:19 reminds us to be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Husbands are called to love and cherish, not to speak harshly, as Colossians 3:19 says Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them. Even if this man and this woman are not married, every person is made in God's image and deserves compassion and truth, especially in suffering. Stubbornness that refuses to see the truth is also something God calls us to turn from, for a hard heart keeps us from love and repentance.
We also rejoice that godly sorrow is now at work in him. 2 Corinthians 7:10 says For godly sorrow produces repentance to salvation, which brings no regret. But the sorrow of the world produces death. This slow realization, though painful, is an opportunity for true repentance, for asking forgiveness both from God and from the mother he hurt with his words and unbelief. 1 John 1:9 promises If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. We pray he will not stop at merely acknowledging the loss, but will humbly confess his belittling words and his stubborn refusal to comfort and protect, and seek reconciliation where God makes it possible.
We also want to gently remind you of something your request did not mention, the precious name of Jesus. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to the Father and that our prayers are heard. John 14:6 says Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Acts 4:12 says There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. We encourage this father, and you, to bring this grief and this sin directly to Jesus Christ, believing that He died for our sins and rose again, and trusting in Him for forgiveness and eternal life. Romans 10:9 says that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Without Jesus, even our best sorrow cannot heal us.
We know this child, though born too early and lost to this world, was fully known and loved by God. Psalm 139:13 says For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother's womb. Jesus said in Matthew 19:14 Allow the little children to come to me, and don't forbid them, for the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to ones like these. We can trust this little one to the care of our merciful God.
We pray together for him now.
Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You with thanksgiving that You have not left this man in hardness of heart but are opening his eyes to the truth that his child died. We ask You to continue to soften his heart and to grant him true repentance for the hurtful words he spoke against the mother of his child and for his stubbornness in denying her suffering. Forgive him, Lord, cleanse him, and teach him to speak with kindness and truth. Heal the deep wound of this loss in both the father and the mother. Psalm 34:18 says You are near to those who have a broken heart, and save those who have a crushed spirit. And Psalm 147:3 says You heal the broken in heart, and bind up their wounds. Bind up their wounds, Lord. Comfort the mother who endured not only the physical trauma of delivering too early and miscarrying, but the added pain of being belittled and not believed. Let her know You saw her pain, You collected her tears, and You honor her. Help this father to humbly ask her forgiveness if he has not, and help them both to grieve this child before You in honesty. Draw them both to Jesus, that they may find forgiveness of sins and eternal hope in Him alone. Lead them into Your will for their lives and relationships, that whatever remains between them would be honorable and pleasing to You, and if they are to walk together in the future, that it would be in a godly marriage that honors You, or if apart, that each would pursue purity and holiness before You. Give this father godly counsel, surround him with believers who will speak truth in love, and let this sorrow produce in him a new gentleness, humility, and reverence for life. In Jesus' name we ask this, amen.
We encourage you to continue to walk with him patiently, speaking truth in love, encouraging him to seek biblical counsel and to make things right with the child's mother through a sincere apology. Encourage him to bring his grief to the Lord daily, to read the Word, and to trust Jesus not only for comfort in this loss but for salvation. God is able to bring beauty even from deep regret when we turn to Him with our whole heart.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
