We join with you in bringing this heavy burden before the Lord, for we hear the pain and urgency in your request for your grown son, his partner, and their young son who are caught in a toxic and abusive cycle that is destroying them each day. We understand your fear that this hate and animosity will lead to someone being physically hurt, and we take this very seriously before God.
We want to gently address some important biblical truth in your request. You refer to his partner, and we do not know if this is a woman or a man, but Scripture is clear on both matters. If this partner is a woman and they are living together outside of marriage, this is fornication, which God calls us to turn from. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4. If this partner is a man, we must lovingly but firmly say that homosexuality is forbidden and immoral before God, for God created marriage to be a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman Matthew 19:4-6, Mark 10:6-9. In either case, what God desires is not simply less conflict, but repentance, holiness, and a home built on His design. A boyfriend or girlfriend relationship should be understood as courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, not a lifelong partnership outside of marriage. We also must say that abuse, hate, and vile treatment of one another is sin and has no place in a home, especially one with a child. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice Ephesians 4:31. Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer 1 John 3:15, and we are commanded to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32.
That young son is precious to God and is watching and being formed by what he sees. Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord Ephesians 6:4. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it Proverbs 22:6. An environment of daily hate and animosity deeply wounds a child and is not what God intends for a family.
We also noticed your prayer asks for guidance in your holy name, but does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We say this in love because there is no other way to come to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6. There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. It is only through faith in Jesus, His death and resurrection for our sins, that our prayers are heard and our hearts can truly be changed.
We pray together now.
Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, and we lift up this grown son, his partner, and their son to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the toxicity, the vile words, the hate and animosity that is destroying this family daily. We ask You to convict each heart of sin, to bring them to repentance, and to put away all wrath and malice. Pour out Your love within their hearts, for love is of God, and everyone who loves is born of God, and knows God 1 John 4:7. Teach them to be slow to anger and quick to listen James 1:19, to seek peace, and pursue it Psalm 34:14, and as much as it is possible, to live peaceably with all men Romans 12:18.
Lord, if they are living outside of Your design for marriage, we pray You would convict them and lead them either to a holy marriage between a man and a woman if that is possible and biblical, or to separate and pursue purity and godliness. Forgive fornication and all sexual sin, for You call us to flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18. Heal what is broken and guide them on the path toward rightness, not by their own strength but by Your Holy Spirit.
We especially place a hedge of protection around that young son, Lord. Protect him from physical and emotional harm. Let no one be struck or hurt in that home. Give wisdom to this grandparent and to all family to know when to seek godly pastoral counsel and, if needed, safe intervention or separation for the protection of all. We pray that this home would become a place of love, discipline, and instruction in You, and that each adult would take responsibility for their own actions and choose love and self control, which is the fruit of Your Spirit Galatians 5:22-23.
We ask that each of them would come to know Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, for without You we cannot truly love one another. Draw them to Yourself, save them, and make them new creations. We trust Your power to heal and to bring out love where there has been hate. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and mediator, amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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