We hear your pain and the deep disrespect you are enduring, and we stand with you in bringing this matter before the Lord. The behavior you describe is not only harmful to your relationship but is also a clear violation of God’s commands regarding purity, faithfulness, and love. Scripture is clear: *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28). What your fiancé is engaging in is not harmless scrolling—it is a form of mental and emotional infidelity, and it grieves the Holy Spirit.
We must also address the way he has spoken to you, calling you a "stalker" for expressing your God-given right to be respected in your future marriage. This is manipulative and dismissive. A godly man does not belittle his bride-to-be; he cherishes her as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25). His refusal to change, despite knowing how deeply this wounds you, reveals a hardened heart that needs to be broken before the Lord.
First, we must ask: Has he truly surrendered his life to Jesus Christ? If he has not, then his actions are a reflection of a heart not yet transformed by the Gospel. Salvation is the foundation of all change. If he claims to be a believer, then he must be confronted with the truth of his sin—not just for your sake, but for his own soul. *"Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit the Kingdom of God"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). This is not to condemn him but to wake him up to the seriousness of his actions.
We rebuke the spirit of addiction and lust that has taken hold of him. We declare that his eyes belong to the Lord, and we pray that God would give him a holy dissatisfaction with the filth he has been consuming. *"I will set no wicked thing before my eyes. I hate the work of those who fall away. It shall not cling to me"* (Psalm 101:3). We also rebuke the pride in his heart that allows him to dismiss your concerns and mock your pain. A man who truly loves you would not treat you this way.
Now, we lift this situation to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her fiancé. Lord, You see the pain, the disrespect, and the ungodly patterns that have taken root in their relationship. We ask that You would break the chains of addiction in his life—break the hold that social media and lust have over him. Father, give him a hatred for sin and a hunger for righteousness. Soften his heart to receive correction and humble him to repent.
Lord, we pray for this sister. Strengthen her to stand firm in her convictions and not accept less than what You have called her to in a marriage. Give her wisdom in how to address this with him, and if he refuses to change, give her the courage to walk away from a relationship that does not honor You. Protect her heart from bitterness and fill her with Your peace.
Father, we declare that this man’s eyes belong to You. Let him see women as You see them—as Your daughters, worthy of respect and dignity, not objects for his gratification. Convict him deeply, Lord, and lead him to true repentance. If he is not saved, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself, that he may know the freedom that comes only through Jesus Christ.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved and delivered. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your glory be revealed. Amen.
To you, dear sister, we say this: You deserve a husband who will love you as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, purely, and selflessly. Do not settle for less. If he continues in this sin without repentance, you must ask yourself if this is the man God has called you to marry. Seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor. You are not powerless in this situation. You have the right to set boundaries, and if he refuses to honor them, then you must consider whether this relationship is truly of God.
Remember, *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3). If he is not willing to walk in purity and respect, then you cannot walk with him in marriage. Stand firm, and trust that God will honor your obedience.
None Can Come to Jesus Unless You Draw Them, Father, John 6:44
Father, Thank You Jesus said, "No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws them, and I will raise them up on the Last Day. Thank You for the honesty of The Way, The Truth and The Life, John 14:6, so we know Who to ask to do what in saving lost family and friends. You clearly say is Your will, pray for all people, 1 Tim 2:1-2, and this pleases You for You will all to be saved and come to know The Truth, 1 Tim 2:3-4. We are as sincerely as we can requesting You specifically draw our family members to Jesus TODAY to hear, listen and understand what You are speaking, Jn 16:13. Grant faith, repentance from sin, Acts 3:19, the knowledge of salvation by the forgiveness of our sins, Lk 1:77. Jesus came into the world to SAVE SINNERS, 1 Tim 1:15, to seek and save the LOST, Lk 19:10. Help us LEARN the elementary teachings of Christ," Heb 6:1-2, and contend for the faith that was handed over once for all to the church, Jude 1:3, first preached by Christ, confirmed by His Apostles, miracles, signs, wonders and gifts of The Holy Spirit, Heb 2:3-4. Give vision — for without revelation we go unrestrained, Prov 29:18. Protect us all from sin, Ps 119:11, temptation, Lk 11:4, evil, Mt 6:13, evil people, 2 Thes 3:2, and the evil one, Jn 17:15. Keep us in Your ways, Prov 4:18. We thank you for these requests and the peace that guards our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus Name, Phil 4:6-7, Amen, 2 Cor 1:20 
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