Sexual Sin...ish?

I think this topic is avoided whenever possible. People don't like to talk about it, people don't like to think about it. There are several different opinions about it. Some say it's ok, some say it's not. I have been thinking a lot about this topic and actually asked a friend from church her opinion. She told me that it was a very difficult topic, which it is, and to pray about it. I did. I ask God to give me insight on the subject, what He thinks about it pertaining to me. He did. I'm going to be bold and express my opinion on the matter. Again, my OPINION.









In my opinion, or to me, I feel like it is wrong. I know God gave us a sexual desire, but He also gave us free will. Just like any other sin out there, we have a choice weather we want to do it or not. Sex outside of marriage, stealing, lying, etc... we have a choice to commit those actions or not too. Just as we (not you or me personally) may get the temptation to lie or steal, He also will give us a way out of that temptation. "The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure." 1 Corinthians 10:13. To me, masturbation is a temptation. God will give us a way out. Just as we are born in sin because we cannot be born saved, God gave us the free will to come to Him for salvation. He wants us to come to Him. With this temptation, I believe the same. Just as if we were tempted to have sex with someone we are not married to; God wants us to come to Him to help us get over the temptation. This is one temptation that we cannot overcome on our own. We really need His help on this one. I see it as wrong because we are supposed to keep ourselves pure, clean, proper. Also, sex outside of marriage is wrong and I see this as a 'form' of sex; just as oral sex would be. Another way I look at it is sex outside of marriage is wrong, and you cannot marry yourself. Lol. I know that sounds silly, but if you really think about it, it's true. Now I know we're not perfect, and we're gonna mess up from time to time, and God definitely knows I'm no where near perfect and I don't intend to be perfect. However, I can decide to follow the right path and live my life the right way as best I can. And I don't judge anyone that does masturbate at all. I'm just saying in my heart, for ME, it's wrong. It's wrong for me. I felt an odd feeling that last time I gave into this temptation. Like I was unclean, dirty, and unworthy of God's love. This is when the question really first popped in my head and that's when I asked my friend.









Remember now, this is just my opinion. I would love to hear your opinion, if you are bold enough to express it.

 

[Mithun Mith]

I am really willing to talk on this my friend in Christ... I started getting into porn and masturbation from the time i was in 7th grade (class) i also introduced porn to other kids in my school. I am 27 years old now. Even since from then to now i am addicted to it. I still remember that few years ago i even ended up doing the act for more than 5 times in a day and i use to feel satisfied. I have to admit that i like sex a lot. But, i am not willing to share my sex with just any women. Because i know if i do it then i will keep on doing it. And i don't want to enter into that sin. I only want to share my sex with one women who will be my wife. But you know what?? Life never brings in things as we want some times. If we want it as we want then we have to completely hang on to Christ then it will. But i was not for some times in my life, hence i had sex with prostitute once and then after i had a girl friend i was completely committed to her and i never even looked at another women with lust. I was so committed to her and i promised to marry her. I had sex with her more than 20 times when she was living with me before the ungodly was of marriage (which was a big mistake i did in our life) because she was not Christian. Just because i rushed and now i am alone. It ended up being, she leaving me going with her parents for her parents and they got her married to some one else. And i got to know about her marriage last year. I was completely devastated after listening to it, because i loved her so much being truely loyal and even after she leaving me, i waited for her return for 4 years. I felt like was dead. Now i am recovered from it. But still i remember her and during sleep at some nights i still get her memory. It's very difficult you know. I am looking for a true love again. Just waiting for the right one who God has got for me.

 

[The Encourager]

I agree with you. Amen.

 

[auniquesoul]

7 hours ago, mithunroy said:




I am really willing to talk on this my friend in Christ... I started getting into porn and masturbation from the time i was in 7th grade (class) i also introduced porn to other kids in my school. I am 27 years old now. Even since from then to now i am addicted to it. I still remember that few years ago i even ended up doing the act for more than 5 times in a day and i use to feel satisfied. I have to admit that i like sex a lot. But, i am not willing to share my sex with just any women. Because i know if i do it then i will keep on doing it. And i don't want to enter into that sin. I only want to share my sex with one women who will be my wife. But you know what?? Life never brings in things as we want some times. If we want it as we want then we have to completely hang on to Christ then it will. But i was not for some times in my life, hence i had sex with prostitute once and then after i had a girl friend i was completely committed to her and i never even looked at another women with lust. I was so committed to her and i promised to marry her. I had sex with her more than 20 times when she was living with me before the ungodly was of marriage (which was a big mistake i did in our life) because she was not Christian. Just because i rushed and now i am alone. It ended up being, she leaving me going with her parents for her parents and they got her married to some one else. And i got to know about her marriage last year. I was completely devastated after listening to it, because i loved her so much being truely loyal and even after she leaving me, i waited for her return for 4 years. I felt like was dead. Now i am recovered from it. But still i remember her and during sleep at some nights i still get her memory. It's very difficult you know. I am looking for a true love again. Just waiting for the right one who God has got for me.







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Thank you for your comment. I'm so sorry to hear about your struggle and addiction. I have an addiction of my own, I smoke. Cigarettes. Nothing else. Lol. I know what it's like to struggle with something you really don't want to be doing. I do like sex, but not like a lot. I have recently reclaimed my virginity though because I do want to do the right thing and wait until I am married this go around, IF God has someone else for me. Yes, I do get the urges ever so often, but I always ask God to help me out of the situation and get the urges out of my head and body. My ex-boyfriend is addicted to sex and porn. That's all he ever talked about, that's all he ever wanted. I don't think he realized that he had an addition though. I eventually told him of his addiction and told him I would be praying for him. I know it's not going to happen overnight, but I will still pray for him. He has got to want to change though, to get over this addiction. Because of his addiction, I caught him talking to other girls and watching porn a lot. This is why I left him. I don't judge him for it, that's not my right, but I do pray that he will defeat this addiction and get right with God completely. And I'm not judging anyone with any addiction. I used to be in love with someone who is addicted to drugs. Yeah, that didn't go so well as you can imagine. Can't help who you fall in love with though. I'm sorry to hear about what happened with your girlfriend. I know what it's like wanting someone you can't have. The guy I was in love with, I couldn't have him. But I thank God now that He didn't let me have him. I learned a lot from that situation and now he has been out of my life for over a year. He was just a lesson in disguise so to say. Your girlfriend, she wasn't the right person for you. Just a stepping stone to the one who is. I will pray for you. God has got someone else for you. He will put her in your life when He is ready. Just hang in there, keep the faith, never give up, and remember, there is always hope.

19 minutes ago, The Encourager said:




I agree with you. Amen.


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Thank you for your comment and stating how you feel! Amen!

 

[verona]

praying for you in Jesus name amen...

 

[Intercessor]

Anytime you use The Word of God and Scripture it is no longer your "opinion" but The Truth (1 Cor 2:5, 2 Cor 6:7). The word "fornication" in older translations is translated "sexual immorality" frequently in others, but the word in Greek is "pornea" from which comes "pornography." God's Word lists it as sins that exclude us from entering the Kingdom of God in many passages (Gal 5:19-21). We have to remember it is an unclean spirit that is tempting us in accord with our own fleshly desires, (James 1:13-14) and therefore we must put the flesh to death (Rom 6, Gal 5:24). This is done by walking after the Spirit (Church attendance, Praise & Worship, Prayer, Small Groups, individual Bible Study, evangelism & Christian Counseling) so we won't fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Rom 8:13-14), remembering that in baptism we are "dead to sin," (Rom 6). Repentance, which word, "Metanoia" means a change in thinking or changing our mind about sin -- i.e. -- "sin is not 'cool' anymore, but what Christ came to rescue us from and will ultimately separate the wicked from the righteous as you quoted from 1 John above. Repentance and faith in Christ are the foundations of salvation as preached by John the Baptist, Jesus and the Apostles of the Early Church, (Matt 3:1-2; Mark 1:5; Acts 2:38; Acts 3:19; Acts 5:31).









Some sins need accountability and small group settings with some people who have gained authority over this sin and have not succumbed to it for a long time (Gal 6:1-2) and even then the person restoring another must be gentle and not prideful because it is by God's grace the person that is standing in victory has overcome in the first place. That's all for now, if you want more info you can find it under the parts, "Forgive Us Our Debts" and "Lead Us Not into Temptation" in this blog on "The Lord's Prayer" which is foundational because Jesus instructed us to pray according to this pattern in The Sermon on The Mount and said whoever listened to what He said in that Sermon would be like a wise person who built their house upon the rock (Matt 7:24-25)...

 

[The Encourager]

Isaiah 65:24:“It shall come to pass that before they call, I will answer; and while they are still speaking, I will hear.”






YLet's Pray: God I am standing on Your promises (especially Isaiah 65:24). God in Jesus' name please answer Your children prayers spoken and unspoken (including my prayers) that are posted on this prayer site according to Your will for each of our lives. Thank You Jesus. Amen.

 

[auniquesoul]

On 11/7/2017 at 7:32 AM, Intercessor said:




Anytime you use The Word of God and Scripture it is no longer your "opinion" but The Truth (1 Cor 2:5, 2 Cor 6:7). The word "fornication" in older translations is translated "sexual immorality" frequently in others, but the word in Greek is "pornea" from which comes "pornography." God's Word lists it as sins that exclude us from entering the Kingdom of God in many passages (Gal 5:19-21). We have to remember it is an unclean spirit that is tempting us in accord with our own fleshly desires, (James 1:13-14) and therefore we must put the flesh to death (Rom 6, Gal 5:24). This is done by walking after the Spirit (Church attendance, Praise & Worship, Prayer, Small Groups, individual Bible Study, evangelism & Christian Counseling) so we won't fulfill the lusts of the flesh (Rom 8:13-14), remembering that in baptism we are "dead to sin," (Rom 6). Repentance, which word, "Metanoia" means a change in thinking or changing our mind about sin -- i.e. -- "sin is not 'cool' anymore, but what Christ came to rescue us from and will ultimately separate the wicked from the righteous as you quoted from 1 John above. Repentance and faith in Christ are the foundations of salvation as preached by John the Baptist, Jesus and the Apostles of the Early Church, (Matt 3:1-2; Mark 1:5; Acts 2:38; Acts 3:19; Acts 5:31).









Some sins need accountability and small group settings with some people who have gained authority over this sin and have not succumbed to it for a long time (Gal 6:1-2) and even then the person restoring another must be gentle and not prideful because it is by God's grace the person that is standing in victory has overcome in the first place. That's all for now, if you want more info you can find it under the parts, "Forgive Us Our Debts" and "Lead Us Not into Temptation" in this blog on "The Lord's Prayer" which is foundational because Jesus instructed us to pray according to this pattern in The Sermon on The Mount and said whoever listened to what He said in that Sermon would be like a wise person who built their house upon the rock (Matt 7:24-25)...


















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Thanks for your reply! Yes, you are absolutely right! When we use the Word of God or Scripture it is not an opinion, that is why I quoted 1 Corinthians 10:13. This way people will know that God will show us a way out of temptation. There has been so many people say it's wrong, some say it's not (because it doesn't say 'masturbation' in the bible) but I know it's wrong. Thank you for your help and the references to the verses. There's still a lot I don't know about God's Word, I'm learning more and more each day, but I can use these verses if anyone ever questions me about this particular subject. Thank you again! I appreciate it.