Deliverance from curse from a guy who I was in a sexual sin with & now I am with someone else but our relationship is suffering and I don’t know why

[Shivani India]

Even though I shared with you what I was going through … today I realised I was missing something. And it’s important to share so that you can tell me what’s causing this & what we can do & pray so that I get delivered from pain, delay, hurt & rejection.

So as you know, it’s been 12 days since he decided to part his ways with me due to my angry and emotionally reactive behavior. He said he doesn’t wanna hurt me anymore so it’s best to part ways and he even blocked me so that we two focus on our own lives.

We have an amazing bond filled with love, forgiveness, compassion, patience, and care.

It happened so suddenly and felt like spiritual warfare, enemy’s attack because I know that person very well (he is so kind, sweet, polite and has many Godly qualities which the Lord mentions)

but that day no matter what I was saying, how much I was crying, convincing, nothing was working and he was acting very different which was hard to digest.

Now you tell me is there any connection about this current division in our bond with the story I am gonna share now.

I have already shared with you, I got involved into sexual sin, I am not married yet. In May, 2025 … I was with one guy, we were friends from college so we felt connected, we met when I moved here (current city) and we got involved into physical stuff.

Soon I realized, that person didn’t keep any contact with me afterwards, was not consistent in communication (he was working in multiple cities as work required travel) so when he used to arrive in current city, we used to meet other than that he didn’t keep any communication when he was away.

When that reality hit me, I instantly decided not to continue that bond anymore as it was just physical from his side based on convenience even though my intention was to get into a relationship and pure love.

Since that day, I never looked back … Last time, I met that person was in May, 2025. I closed communication from all platforms as I knew that person didn’t have good intentions about me.

On 15th June, 2025 … another guy - ### entered into my life (the person I love, deep down I know he also loves me & now there is just silence and distance since a past few days)

### - a big achiever, secure, ambitious, kind, loving, caring, patient, competitive, generous, well raised … he brought so much joy in my life.

A few months back, I developed feelings for him. Though we had our ups and downs… whenever I prayed to God, if this person is not from you please remove him … God has always brought him back.

When I moved on with ### in June 2025, the previous guy saw a status of me where I shared a video of ### in a cafe, while I was talking, smiling & happy. That time, I forgot to remove the previous person from privacy settings of WhatsApp.

That previous guy is so insecure, mediocre filled with trauma, many difficulties in life … he saw my status, he also saw that guy and then nothing happened for so many months.

In Feb 2026, he again tried to come into my life asking for forgiveness, if we can meet n all. He was also taunting me that the guy ### I am with is super handsome, from an advanced city, have a great physique so I must be very very happy (it felt like he was so jealous of him & super mad, hurt as I was with ### and not him)

I was very clear, hey we can’t meet, I don’t wanna continue any kind of bond with you. I am with someone else (with ###) and I am so so happy & I am a believer in God so I am loyal & faithful.

Even though I blocked him everywhere, still he tried to contact me by different phone numbers.

I still remember it was 20th Feb, I was gonna meet the guy I am in love with - ### and the previous guy called and begged me hey please don’t cut the call, I wanna talk & meet, listen to me please etc

I cut the call and blocked as I know his intentions and I don’t wanna get trapped & repeat the same mistakes. Also, I am with ### and I am loyal to him.

But next time I went to ### on 10th March, we had a massive fight & he decided to part his ways. It happened so suddenly. My brain still can’t process.

Did that previous guy curse me or what? When I was in his life, he didn’t value me and my presence.

When I moved on … he was trying to get back in my life.

When he was begging, constantly contacting me … I didn’t entertain him as he doesn’t have a right mindset.

But that doesn’t mean he should curse me or wish something happen between me and ### so we part ways and I will go back to him.

For so many days I was trying to find the pieces how can this happen suddenly!

Today, God made me realize … this happened in the past a few months back so there can be a connection with the current division that’s why I decided to share.

Please guide me, please deliver me from the curse that the previous guy threw at me, he is still trying to get me back in his life even though he knows I don’t wanna be with him and that’s my final decision.

The more I show resistance, the more he is trying to contact me, convince him and I am not liking that.

Also, I believe, his energy caused separation between me and ### otherwise, everything was going so great.

Please please deliver me, pray for me and ###, our bond to restore so we stay away from this enemy’s attack or spiritual warfare. Deliver from silence, distance

Restore peace, communication.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart, dear sister, and we grieve with you over the pain, confusion, and spiritual warfare you are facing. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came that we might have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10). The sudden separation from the man you love, the lingering influence of past sin, and the harassment from the former man in your life are not coincidences—they are attacks from the enemy, who wants to keep you bound in shame, division, and ungodly soul ties. But we stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ to break every chain and restore what has been fractured.

First, we must address the root of this struggle with clarity and truth. The sexual sin you engaged in with the first man was not just a mistake—it was a violation of God’s holy design for intimacy. The Bible is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Sexual sin creates ungodly soul ties—spiritual bonds that give the enemy legal ground to harass, manipulate, and disrupt your life. This is why you feel the weight of his influence even now, despite your efforts to move forward.

The enemy is using this ungodly soul tie to sow discord, jealousy, and division. The former man’s behavior—his taunting, his attempts to re-enter your life, his insecurities—reveals a heart that is not submitted to God. His actions are not love; they are control, manipulation, and spiritual warfare. The Bible warns us: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even if he claims to know God, his actions prove otherwise. You were right to cut off contact with him, and we must pray for his repentance and deliverance as well, for he is also bound by sin.

Now, let us address the current division with the man you love. The enemy is using every tactic to separate you—your past sin, the former man’s interference, and even your own emotional reactions. But God is a God of restoration. The Bible says, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3). The sudden fight and separation were not from God; they were from the enemy, who seeks to destroy godly relationships. The man you love is a gift from God, and the qualities you see in him—kindness, patience, love—are evidence of God’s hand in your life. Do not let the enemy rob you of what God has ordained.

We must also address the issue of your anger and emotional reactivity. While it is understandable to feel hurt and confused, the Bible instructs us: *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil"* (Ephesians 4:26-27). Unchecked anger gives the enemy a foothold, and he will use it to drive wedges between you and those you love. We must repent of any sin in our reactions and ask God to fill us with His peace and self-control.

Now, let us pray with authority and faith:

*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Name above every name. We thank You for Your mercy and grace, which are new every morning. Lord, we stand on Your Word, which declares that no weapon formed against us shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We rebuke every curse, every ungodly soul tie, and every spirit of division that has been sown into this situation. We break every chain of sexual immorality, jealousy, control, and manipulation in the name of Jesus. We sever every ungodly tie between [sister’s name] and the former man, and we command every evil influence to leave her life now, in Jesus’ name.*

*Lord, we ask You to heal the wounds of past sin. Wash [sister’s name] clean by the blood of Jesus, and restore her to wholeness. We declare that she is forgiven, redeemed, and set free from every consequence of that sin. We pray for the man she loves, that You would soften his heart, remove any offense, and restore their communication and bond. Lord, we ask You to rebuking the enemy’s attacks and fill their relationship with Your peace, love, and unity. Let no weapon formed against them prosper, and let every tongue that rises against them in judgment be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).*

*Father, we pray for the former man, that You would open his eyes to his sin and draw him to repentance. Break the chains of insecurity, trauma, and ungodliness in his life, and let him find true freedom in You. We declare that he will no longer harass or influence [sister’s name]’s life. We cancel every word spoken in jealousy or bitterness, and we declare that they will have no power over her or her relationship.*

*Lord, we ask You to fill [sister’s name] with Your Holy Spirit. Give her wisdom, discernment, and self-control in her emotions. Help her to walk in forgiveness, both for herself and others. We declare that she is a new creation in Christ, and the old things have passed away—behold, all things have become new (2 Corinthians 5:17). We pray for restoration in every area of her life—her heart, her mind, her relationships, and her future.*

*We thank You, Father, for Your faithfulness. We trust in Your promise that You will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). We declare that this situation is under the blood of Jesus, and the enemy has no authority here. We praise You for victory, restoration, and peace. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen."*

Now, sister, we must offer you some biblical guidance to walk in freedom and restoration:

1. **Repent and Renounce**: Confess your past sexual sin to God and repent with a sincere heart. Renounce any ungodly soul ties with the former man. The Bible says, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). You are already forgiven, but repentance positions your heart to receive God’s healing.

2. **Forgive and Release**: Forgive the former man for any harm he has caused you, and forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Unforgiveness is a prison that keeps us bound. Jesus said, *"Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions"* (Mark 11:25).

3. **Guard Your Heart**: Be vigilant against the enemy’s schemes. The Bible warns us: *"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it"* (Proverbs 4:23). Do not entertain any communication with the former man, and do not allow bitterness or resentment to take root.

4. **Seek Godly Counsel**: If possible, seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can help you navigate this season. The Bible says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety"* (Proverbs 11:14).

5. **Pursue Holiness**: God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage. If the man you love is a godly man, pray for God’s will to be done in your relationship. The Bible says, *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"* (Hebrews 13:4). If you are not married, commit to purity and honor God with your body.

6. **Stand in Faith**: Do not lose hope. The enemy wants you to believe that this separation is permanent, but God is a God of restoration. The Bible says, *"And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast"* (1 Peter 5:10). Trust in God’s timing and His plan for your life.

7. **Worship and Prayer**: Draw near to God through worship and prayer. The Bible says, *"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7). The enemy cannot stand in the presence of a heart surrendered to God.

Sister, you are not alone in this battle. The Lord is fighting for you, and He will restore what has been broken. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and do not be discouraged. The enemy’s attacks are evidence that God has a beautiful plan for your life, and the devil wants to destroy it. But greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). Walk in freedom, walk in victory, and trust in God’s perfect love. We stand with you in prayer and faith, believing for complete restoration in Jesus’ name.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear sister, we hear your heart and we're here for you. We're sorry to hear about the pain and confusion you're going through. We want to encourage you with these thoughts:

1. **God is in control**: Even in the midst of this chaos, remember that God is still on His throne. He sees you, He cares, and He's working things out for your good (Romans 8:28). Trust in His timing and His plan.

2. **Forgiveness is key**: Forgive the former man for any harm he's caused you, and forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Holding onto bitterness and resentment will only keep you bound and hinder your healing. As Jesus said, "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you" (Matthew 6:14).

3. **Break off contact**: It's best to maintain no contact with the former man. His actions reveal a heart not submitted to God, and engaging with him will only cause more pain and confusion.

4. **Pray and seek godly counsel**: Pour out your heart to God in prayer. Also, seek wise, godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can guide you through this season. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."

5. **Renounce and repent**: Renounce any ungodly soul ties with the former man, and repent for any sin in your reactions. True repentance positions your heart to receive God's healing.

6. **Guard your heart**: Be vigilant against the enemy's schemes. Don't entertain any communication with the former man, and don't let bitterness or resentment take root.

7. **Focus on your relationship with God**: Draw near to God through worship and prayer. The enemy cannot stand in the presence of a heart surrendered to God (James 4:7).

8. **Practice self-control**: While it's understandable to feel hurt and confused, be mindful of your reactions. Ephesians 4:26-27 tells us, "Be angry, and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil."

9. **Rest in God's love**: God loves you deeply and unconditionally. You are His beloved daughter, and He's working everything out for your good (Romans 8:28-32).

10. **Community is important**: Reach out to your church community or trusted friends for support and prayer. We're all in this together, and we're here to walk alongside you.

Remember, God is with you, and He will restore what has been broken. Trust in Him, and keep your eyes on Jesus. You are not alone, and we're praying for you.

 

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Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[flora]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.