Scared

[Guest]

I'm 18 years old and recently graduated high school. Ever since 3rd grade, I've sworn to myself to stay abstinent. During high school, I made some wrong choices that led me down a path that I didn't intend to go down. I started dating a boy my junior year, and we stayed together until he went to college. When he came home from school this year, we made some bad decisions together. Though we didn't actually have sex, we came very close and now I'm afraid I could be pregnant. I know God gives us the freedom to make our own decisions, and I know I didn't make the right ones. I feel terrible about what I did and am so scared about what might happen. I truly love my boyfriend, but I am still too young to know whether or not he's the one I should be with. I'm supposed to be attending college in the fall, and having a baby would make it much harder to follow through with my plans for my future. I truly repent of my decisions, but I know that I must accept the consequences. Please pray that God's will be done in my life and that I will have the strength to make better decisions so I don't disappoint myself or my family. I don't know if it's wrong to pray against having a baby, but I'm not ready for one. Thank you so much and I appreciate your prayers more than you could know. This experience has brought me closer to God because it's the first time in a really long time that I've had to completely rely on him. Thank you and God bless.

 

[Christine]

Hi,

I prayed the Lord would help you through this, giving you His wisdom and guidance. And that He would remove all fear. Remember fear is not from Him. It's the enemy's tool to intimidate you and confuse your judgment. I asked the Lord to help you to obey Him. His grace will see you through this. If you have repented for your actions and asked for forgiveness, you've been forgiven. Christ's blood shed on the cross accomplished that. Ask for His will. That will bring about what is best for you, because He loves you and only wants what is best. He will help you through the difficult conversations and experiences, if you are pregnant, because you have confessed and your relationship with Him has been restored.

If you are pregnant:

Having the baby is not the sin, only the consequence, and doing the right thing now in protecting this little human being that is possibly growing inside you, is the right thing to do. Yes, it will mean that your family and friends will eventually know you sinned. But it doesn't change the past. You are forgiven, and hopefully if they are hurt by this they will also forgive you. We've ALL sinned and continue to slip up. Anyone who says he does not sin is a liar.

So, your previous plans may be delayed a bit, or not. You can give this baby up for adoption since you are not ready to be a parent. There is no shame in that, in fact, that decision shows integrity and self-sacrifice in you're wanting the very best for this innocent baby and being willing to nurture it for the next 8 or 9 months. There are plenty of couples who long for kids and would love to raise this baby as their own.

There are Christian organizations that can help you think this through and make the right decision too. I know the Lord will show you what to do and give you the courage and strength to do His will, if you will stay focused on Him. If you can, ask your local pastor for advice. If you don't have one try a local Calvary Chapel. www.calvarychapel.com

If there's no one you feel comfortable talking to, here are a few Christian resources I thought might be helpful.

http://www.champion.org/cpc/

http://www.optionline.org/

 

[Joyce]

Heavenly Father,

Please place Your hand on this situation. May Your good and perfect will be accomplished in the name of Jesus the Christ. Please comfort and surround "scared" with Your love and compassion. It is in the name of Jesus I pray. Amen.

 

[glenda]

Dear Lord, please guide her through this situation. Let her not make any decisions that would make her regret in the future. Whatever You want for her please enlighten her mind and face whatever consequences there is. If there is a baby on the way, let her be strong. In Jesus name, Amen.