We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep fear and uncertainty, lifting your heart and this precious child to the Father who knows all things and holds all things together. Your cry has not gone unheard, and we stand with you in prayer, speaking truth and life over this situation. First, we praise God that you have called upon the name of Jesus in your prayer, for it is only through Him that we have access to the throne of grace and receive mercy in our time of need. *"Jesus said, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). There is no other name by which we are saved, and we are grateful you have placed your trust in Him.
Yet we must also speak truth in love, for the foundation of any relationship must be built upon the unshakable Word of God. The situation you describe is filled with brokenness—drug use, emotional abuse, instability, and the absence of covenant commitment. These are not the fruits of a relationship that honors God. Scripture is clear that *"a man leaves his father and his mother, and joins with his wife, and the two become one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24, WEB), and this union is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is sacrificial, faithful, and pure. Marriage is a lifelong covenant before God, not a temporary arrangement subject to threats of abandonment. What you are experiencing now is not the security or love that God intends for His daughters.
We must also address the reality of the child you are carrying. Life is a sacred gift from God, and this baby is fearfully and wonderfully made in His image (Psalm 139:13-16). Your role as a mother is a high and holy calling, and we pray God grants you strength, wisdom, and provision for this journey. However, the father of this child is currently walking in rebellion—against God, against you, and against the responsibilities he bears. His drug use, his verbal abuse, his refusal to repent, and his threats to leave are not the actions of a man prepared for the covenant of marriage or the weight of fatherhood. *"But know this, that no sexually immoral person, nor unclean person, nor covetous man (who is an idolater), has any inheritance in Christ’s Kingdom and God’s Kingdom"* (Ephesians 5:5, WEB). His behaviors are not only destructive to your relationship but are sinful in the sight of God. Repentance is required for true change to occur.
You have mentioned that this man is not your husband, and this is a critical matter. The Bible teaches that intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, and it is a sin that grieves the heart of God. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). While we do not condemn you—for we all have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory—we must urge you to seek His forgiveness and turn away from this path. God’s grace is sufficient, and His mercy is new every morning. He can redeem this situation, but it begins with repentance and a commitment to walk in His ways.
As for this man, we pray for his soul. His heart is hardened, and his actions are controlled by forces that are not of God. *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals’* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). His drug use and the influence of those who speak negatively into his life are keeping him in bondage. But we serve a God who breaks chains! We pray that the Lord would convict his heart, that he would fall on his knees in repentance, and that he would turn from his sins to follow Jesus. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). Until that happens, however, you must guard your heart and your child from further harm.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel and support. You do not have to walk this path alone, but you must surround yourself with those who will point you to Christ and His Word. If this man continues in his current path, you cannot force him to change—only God can do that. Your focus must be on obeying the Lord, raising this child in the fear and admonition of the Lord, and trusting that He will provide for you both. *"Cast all your anxiety on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). God sees your tears, He hears your prayers, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Have you sought the Lord’s will in this relationship, or have you been led by emotion and desire? God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good—even when they require surrender and obedience that feel difficult. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). If this relationship is not aligned with God’s Word, then no amount of praying will make it right in His eyes. Sometimes, God’s answer is not to fix what is broken but to lead us out of it for our own protection and sanctification.
Now, let us pray together for you, for this child, and for this man’s soul:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister, who is afraid and burdened. Lord, You are the God who sees her, who knows her heart, and who holds this precious child in Your hands. We ask for Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Strengthen her, Lord, for the days ahead, and grant her wisdom to make decisions that honor You.
Father, we lift this unborn child to You. Knit this baby together perfectly in the womb, and grant health and protection over this little life. May this child be raised to know You, to love You, and to serve You all their days. Provide for their every need, Lord, for You are Jehovah Jireh, our Provider.
Lord, we pray for the father of this child. His heart is hardened, his actions are destructive, and he is walking in rebellion. Father, break the chains of addiction in his life. Convict him of his sin and draw him to repentance. Soften his heart, Lord, not just toward our sister, but toward You. Let him encounter the living God in a way that transforms him from the inside out. If it is Your will, restore this relationship in a way that honors Your Word—but only if both parties are fully surrendered to You. If not, Lord, give our sister the strength to walk away from what is not Your best for her.
Father, surround our sister with godly community—people who will speak Your truth in love, who will support her, and who will help her raise this child in a home that reflects Your love. Provide for her financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Let her not fear the future, for You hold all things in Your hands.
Lord, if there has been sin in her life, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash her clean, Lord, and set her feet on the path of righteousness. Give her the courage to walk in obedience, even when it is hard.
We declare Your promises over her life: that You will never leave her nor forsake her, that Your plans for her are good, and that You are working all things together for her good and Your glory. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we leave you with this encouragement: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. He saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Cling to Him. Seek His face. Trust in His goodness, even when the road ahead seems uncertain. He is faithful, and He will never fail you. Walk in obedience, and He will lead you into His light. May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you now and always.
