We hear your heart’s cry for restoration and peace in what you describe as your relationship, and we come before the throne of grace together, seeking the Lord’s will in this matter. First, we must address some foundational truths from Scripture, for the Word of God is our guide and our light in all things.
You mention a desire to "fix" your relationship with your girlfriend, but we must gently yet firmly remind you that the Bible does not endorse dating or courtship outside the covenant of marriage. The relationship you describe, as it stands, is not aligned with God’s design. Scripture is clear that marriage is a sacred union between one man and one woman, established by God for His glory and our good (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you and your girlfriend are not married, we encourage you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship is honoring to the Lord. If your intention is to pursue marriage, then we urge you to do so with godly wisdom, purity, and a commitment to Christ at the center. If marriage is not the goal, then this relationship may be leading you both into temptation and disobedience, for the Bible warns us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to guard our hearts (Proverbs 4:23).
You also speak of "unwanted guests," "negative baggage," and "energy," which are not terms found in Scripture. The Bible teaches us that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). We do not wrestle with "energy" or "baggage," but with the schemes of the enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). We must be careful not to attribute spiritual authority to concepts that are not biblical, for our trust must be in the name of Jesus Christ alone. It is only through Him that we have victory over sin, temptation, and the works of the enemy (1 John 4:4).
As for the friends you describe as jealous and a bad influence, we must examine this situation through the lens of Scripture. The Bible warns us about the company we keep, for "bad company corrupts good character" (1 Corinthians 15:33). If these individuals are leading your girlfriend—or you—away from godliness, then it is wise to create boundaries. However, we must also ask: Are these friendships the real issue, or is there something deeper in your relationship with your girlfriend that needs addressing? Are you both seeking the Lord individually and together? Are you both growing in Christlikeness, or are you being pulled away from Him by worldly influences?
We also notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus, which is the only name by which we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). There is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved. If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you and rose again, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life (Romans 10:9-10). Without Christ, we are lost and without hope, but in Him, we have forgiveness, redemption, and eternal life.
Now, let us pray together in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and repentant hearts, seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we lift up this brother and his girlfriend to You, asking that You would reveal Your truth to them both. If this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, we pray that You would bring conviction and lead them both to repentance. If marriage is Your will for them, we ask that You would guide them in purity, wisdom, and godliness as they pursue that covenant before You.
Father, we rebuke any influence of the enemy in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against Your children shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we stand on the authority of Jesus’ name to break every chain of jealousy, strife, and ungodliness. Lord, we ask that You would remove any ungodly influences from their lives, whether they be friends, habits, or mindsets that do not honor You. Replace them with godly friendships and mentors who will encourage them in their walk with Christ.
We pray for this brother, that You would strengthen him to be a man of God, leading with integrity, love, and wisdom. Give him the courage to stand firm in Your truth, even when it is difficult. For his girlfriend, we ask that You would draw her heart to You, that she would seek You above all else and surround herself with believers who will build her up in the faith.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any brokenness in their lives and restore what has been lost. But above all, we pray that You would be glorified in this situation. May Your will be done, and may Your name be praised. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this season. Spend time in His Word, for it is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). Surround yourself with godly men who can mentor you and hold you accountable. If you are not already doing so, begin attending a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and find community. And if you have not yet given your life to Christ, we urge you to do so without delay. Today is the day of salvation (2 Corinthians 6:2).
Remember, the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
