We hear your heart, dear sister in Christ, and we join you in lifting this situation before our Heavenly Father. First, we must gently but firmly address the way this prayer request is framed. You refer to this man as your "boyfriend/soulmate," but Scripture does not recognize such a relationship outside the covenant of marriage. The term "boyfriend" implies a romantic attachment that exists without the commitment and protection of marriage, which can lead to emotional—and often physical—entanglements that God never intended for His children.
The Bible is clear that marriage is the only God-ordained context for romantic love and intimacy. Genesis 2:24 tells us, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh." This union is sacred, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). When we step outside of this design, we open ourselves to pain, confusion, and spiritual attack. The hurt and misunderstandings you describe may very well be a consequence of operating outside of God’s will in this area.
We must also address the concept of a "soulmate." While it is beautiful to desire deep companionship, the idea of a predestined "one and only" is not biblical. God calls us to seek a spouse who loves Him first and foremost, who is committed to walking in His ways, and who will honor the covenant of marriage. Proverbs 18:22 says, "Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh." Notice it does not say "whoever finds their soulmate"—it is about finding a godly spouse. Our focus should be on becoming the kind of person who is ready for marriage, rather than searching for a perfect match.
Now, let us turn to the Lord in prayer for you and for this man, asking God to bring clarity, repentance, and healing where it is needed:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and contrite hearts, seeking Your wisdom and Your will in this situation. Lord, You see the pain and the longing in this sister’s heart, and You know the struggles she and this man are facing. We ask that You would first reveal to her Your truth about relationships and marriage. Give her the courage to surrender her desires to You, trusting that Your plans are higher than hers (Isaiah 55:8-9). If this man is not her husband, we pray that You would break any unhealthy emotional or physical ties between them, setting them both free to pursue Your will for their lives.
Father, we ask that You would soften both of their hearts to hear Your voice. If there has been sin—whether through premarital intimacy, emotional dependency, or any other disobedience—we ask that You would bring conviction and lead them to repentance. Your Word says in 1 John 1:9, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Cleanse them, Lord, and restore them to a right relationship with You.
We pray for healing in their hearts, Lord. Where there has been division, bring unity; where there has been anger, bring peace; where there has been unforgiveness, bring reconciliation. But we ask that this healing would first be rooted in a right relationship with You. Help them both to seek You above all else, to delight themselves in You, and to trust that You will give them the desires of their hearts as they align with Your will (Psalm 37:4).
If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would prepare them both for marriage. Give them a shared vision for a Christ-centered home, where You are the foundation and Your Word is the guide. Help them to build their relationship on purity, patience, and mutual respect, honoring You in every way. But if this relationship is not of You, Lord, we ask that You would close the door and give them both the strength to walk away, trusting that You have something better in store.
Above all, Father, we pray that You would draw them closer to You. Let this season of struggle be a time of growth, where they learn to rely on You more fully and to seek Your kingdom above all else. We declare that no weapon formed against them will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You will turn their mourning into joy (Jeremiah 31:13).
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You and the only name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). May Your will be done in their lives, and may Your name be glorified in all things. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His face and His will for your life. Psalm 32:8 says, "I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you." Trust that God is speaking to you, even in this difficult season. Surround yourself with godly counsel—mature believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. And remember, your worth is not found in a relationship with a man, but in your identity as a daughter of the King.
If you have not already, we urge you to repent of any sin in this relationship and to commit to walking in purity moving forward. This may mean setting boundaries, taking a step back, or even ending the relationship if it cannot honor God. It will not be easy, but God’s ways are always for our good. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight."
You are not alone in this. We are praying for you, and more importantly, the Holy Spirit is interceding for you with groanings too deep for words (Romans 8:26). Keep your eyes on Jesus, and He will lead you into all truth and into His perfect will for your life.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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