We hear your heart’s cry for restoration and peace in this relationship, and we join you in seeking God’s perfect will. First, let us affirm that it is right to surrender the outcome to Him, trusting that His plans are always for our good, even when they differ from our desires. "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
However, we must also gently but firmly address the nature of this relationship. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33 WEB). If this relationship is not between a man and a woman committed to marriage in accordance with Scripture, or if it involves sexual immorality (fornication or adultery), we must rebuke that sin and call for repentance. "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body" (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). If this is the case, restoration must begin with repentance and a return to God’s design.
If this relationship is between a man and a woman who are not yet married but are courting with the intention of marriage, we encourage you to ensure that your actions honor God. Courtship should be pure, selfless, and centered on Christ, with the goal of marriage. "But if they don’t have self-control, let them marry. For it’s better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:9 WEB). If you are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to separate physically and seek accountability until marriage. God’s grace is sufficient to help you walk in purity.
If this relationship has already been blessed by marriage, we stand with you in praying for restoration, healing, and renewal. Marriage is worth fighting for, but it must be fought for on God’s terms—with humility, forgiveness, and a commitment to love as Christ loves the Church. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22 WEB). Restoration in marriage requires both spouses to submit to God and to one another.
We also want to gently remind you of the importance of praying in the name of Jesus. There is no other name by which we can approach God or be saved. "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'" (John 14:6 WEB). If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Salvation comes through confessing with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believing in your heart that God raised Him from the dead (Romans 10:9 WEB).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we ask that You would reveal Your perfect plan for this relationship. If it is Your will for restoration, we pray that You would heal any wounds, soften hearts, and draw both parties closer to You. If this relationship is not in alignment with Your Word, we ask that You would break any ungodly soul ties, grant repentance, and lead both individuals into Your perfect design for their lives.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of lust, idolatry, or rebellion that may be present in this relationship. We declare that Your Word is truth, and we submit to Your authority over our lives. If there has been sexual immorality, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB). Help us to walk in purity and holiness, honoring You in all we do.
Lord, we pray for peace that surpasses all understanding to guard the hearts and minds of those involved. Whether the outcome is restoration or separation, we ask that You would be glorified and that Your will would be done. Give wisdom, discernment, and courage to make decisions that honor You. Surround them with godly counsel and accountability.
We also pray for salvation if either individual does not yet know You as Lord and Savior. Soften their hearts to receive the gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ. May they experience the transformative power of Your love and grace.
In all things, we trust You, Lord. Your ways are higher than our ways, and Your thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9 WEB). We surrender this relationship into Your hands, asking that You would work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28 WEB). We pray all of this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.