We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up your situation and seeking His divine will in this matter. First, we must address something critical: you have not mentioned the name of Jesus Christ in your request, and it is only through His name that we have access to the Father. The Scriptures are clear:
*"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"* (John 14:6, WEB)
*"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB)
If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him in repentance and faith. Believe in Him, for He died for your sins and rose again so that you may have eternal life. Without this foundation, our prayers lack the authority and power that come only through Christ.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must speak the truth in love. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for His Church. Courtship should be intentional, with the goal of marriage between believers who are equally yoked in faith. The term "boyfriend" often implies a casual relationship, but as followers of Christ, we are called to pursue relationships that honor God—relationships that are pure, committed, and directed toward godly marriage.
If there has been any sexual immorality—whether fornication (sex before marriage) or any other sin—it must be repented of. The Scriptures warn:
*"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom."* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB)
*"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB)
If this applies to your situation, we urge you to repent and turn away from sin, seeking God’s forgiveness and cleansing. He is faithful to forgive when we confess our sins (1 John 1:9).
We also do not know if this man you are pursuing is a believer. The Bible is clear that believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers:
*"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB)
If he is not a follower of Christ, we must pray for his salvation first and foremost, for what does it profit to gain a relationship if he remains lost for eternity?
Now, let us pray for your heart and this situation, trusting in God’s perfect will.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is hurting and seeking restoration. Lord, we ask that You reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. If she does not know You as her Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel, that Jesus Christ is the only way to the Father, and that through Him alone we find forgiveness, redemption, and eternal life.
Father, we also lift up this relationship before You. We ask for Your wisdom and discernment to flood her heart. If this man is not a believer, Lord, we pray for his salvation above all else. Soften his heart to receive Your truth, and draw him to Yourself. If this relationship is not of You—if it is built on anything other than Your holy design for marriage—we pray that You would give her the strength to let go and trust in Your perfect plan.
Lord, if there has been sin in this relationship, we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse both hearts, Father, and restore purity. Help our sister to flee from sexual immorality and to honor You with her body, which is Your temple. If this relationship is to be restored, let it be for Your glory and according to Your will. But if it is not Your will, give her the grace to surrender it to You and to trust in Your goodness.
We pray for healing from any pain or confusion she is experiencing. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and remind her that You are her first love. Let her find her identity and worth in You alone, not in this relationship or in the approval of man.
Finally, Father, we ask that You guide her steps. If she is to pursue this man, let it be with purity, patience, and a heart set on honoring You. If she is to walk away, give her the courage to do so with faith that You have something better in store. May she seek Your Kingdom first, trusting that all things will be added to her as she delves deeper into Your will.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or desperation in this situation. We declare that Your will be done, and that Your name be glorified. Strengthen her, Lord, and let her walk in obedience to Your Word.
In the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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Our sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord first in this season. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can speak truth into your life. If this relationship is to be restored, it must be built on the foundation of Christ, with both of you fully submitted to His lordship. If this man is not a believer, your greatest prayer should be for his salvation, not just for the restoration of the relationship.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). His plans for you are good, and He will never leave you nor forsake you. Stay strong in the faith, and let God’s will be your ultimate desire.