We understand the deep pain and confusion you must be feeling, especially after investing six years in a relationship that seemed to be moving toward marriage. Before we pray, let us address some important biblical truths that will guide our response.
First, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, who is the only way we can approach the Father. As Scripture tells us, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). It is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard, and it is in His name that we must seek God’s will. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for without faith in Him, there is no true hope or restoration.
Second, we must address the nature of your relationship. While you refer to this man as your "boyfriend," the Bible does not recognize long-term romantic relationships outside of marriage. Courtship should be intentional, pure, and directed toward a godly marriage between a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ. If this relationship has included physical intimacy outside of marriage, we must call that what it is—fornication—which is a sin against God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). True love does not lead to sin but seeks to honor God in all things.
Additionally, if there is another person involved in this separation, we must be careful not to assume motives or assign blame without wisdom. The Bible warns against gossip, slander, and bitterness (Ephesians 4:31). Instead, we are to trust God’s sovereignty, even in painful circumstances. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this man is not a believer, or if he has walked away from the faith, we must pray for his salvation above all else, for *"how can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you, seeking God’s will above all else.
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved. We lift up this sister who is hurting, confused, and longing for restoration. Lord, we ask that You comfort her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. If there has been sin in this relationship—whether fornication, idolatry of the relationship itself, or any other transgression—we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and renew a right spirit within her.
Father, we pray for this man as well. If he has walked away from You, we ask that You draw him back to Yourself. Soften his heart to hear Your voice and to seek Your will. If there is another person involved, we pray that You would expose any deception and bring truth to light. But above all, Lord, let Your will be done—not our desires, but Yours.
We ask that You give this sister wisdom and discernment. If this relationship is not of You, give her the strength to let go and trust in Your perfect plan. If it is Your will for restoration, then restore it in a way that honors You—through a godly marriage built on Christ. Help her to surrender this situation entirely to You, for You alone know what is best.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or desperation. Fill her instead with Your love, patience, and faith. Remind her that You are her first love, her provider, and her protector. Let her find her identity and worth in You alone.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord first in this season. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can speak truth into your life. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). But remember, this verse does not mean God will give us whatever we want—it means that as we delight in Him, our desires will align with His will.
If this relationship is to be restored, let it be for God’s glory and within His design for marriage. If not, trust that He has something better for you—a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Stay faithful, sister. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted.